35 years ago I rejected a woman ...

[Joy Elizabeth]

We as the church are all female in a sense, if we are divorced we are free in Christ, free to be married to Christ, free in peace from an earthly spouse. We suffer for a lack of knowledge. If we marry an earthly spouse that is divorced we will suffer for that. The only thing we are free to do is reconcile with our divorced spouses. Dead to sin is still considered alive, we are only not committing adultery if they die physically as well as spiritually

As a sinner once married to the devil, once divorced from him you are free to marry Jesus Christ. Which is the reason why Jesus gave the verse. The Devil can never be faithful only God is. Once we divorce that unfaithful husband we are free to marry again. The Bible does not say anything about reconciling to an unfaithful spouse and on the contrary it gives many verses deterring returning to them. It does say if unequally yoke one should stay with the unbelieving spouse but you are free to divorce if they want to leave.
Jeremiah 3:1
“If a man divorces his wife and she leaves him and marries another man, should he return to her again? Would not the land be completely defiled? But you have lived as a prostitute with many lovers— would you now return to me?” declares the Lord.
Deuteronomy 24:4
then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance.

1Cor 7:15
If your husband or wife isn’t a follower of the Lord and decides to divorce you, then you should agree to it. You are no longer bound to that person. After all, God chose you and wants you to live at peace.

 

[Crystal Onofrey]

35 years ago I rejected a woman who was interested in me and I did not like. A few weeks ago, out of the blue, I felt a word of knowledge or something powerful apparently from the Lord that something was going to happen to her current husband in a few months, and I need to be ready because she will want to try to win me again and I should accept her this time. I emphasize I do NOT want to have an affair, commit adultery, or otherwise interrupt their marriage. This "word" was somewhat of an unpleasant shock to me and I've been baffled ever since. Was it God who brought this "prophecy" to me? All I seek is God's will in this and an end to my not knowing for sure if this was from Him or not. Whatever the truth is, I want to do His will. I ask for the wisdom and courage to do His will in this matter.

During a long prayer session, I began to think about this in-depth.

This "premonition" has happened before, but not to the degree of intensity or detail as this most recent event. Previous "premonitions" about this were simply to predict I would be with that woman one day.

Here's the interesting part: it took me hours of prayer and meditation to think about other times this has happened, and it occurred to me that every time this "premonition" I would someday be with this woman has occurred, it has been a few months before I met someone else I could go out with.

To keep it short, I'll just discuss one: in 2012 I had a premonition I would be with that woman someday, and a few months later in 2013 I met and started dating a Christian woman who is still my girlfriend 5 years later. My relationship with her, however, has remained platonic and we kind of both know it isn't going anywhere toward marriage any time soon.

My point is, I think I've narrowed this situation down to two possibilities:
1. The Holy Spirit is using this to comfort and reassure me that I have a destiny to be with this woman, and it's the Father's will for us to get together no matter how many other women I date. As part of this He is indicating that we will soon be together.
OR
2. Satan is using this to "spam" me and potentially steer me away from another Godly woman that I should meet in a few months, or tempt me to sin by contacting this woman from my past and try to start an affair with her (which WILL NOT HAPPEN as long as the Holy Spirit guides me).

Once again, I want to do God's will and I earnestly desire to know if it's the Holy Spirit or the Devil sending me these premonitions. I have heard the voice of God in the past, but this particular situation is somewhat different. It's like a burst of knowing comes over me and I just know something, not like an audible "still small voice" instructing me. It's more like a vision without a picture to go with it.

I have had anxiety over this situation, not wanting to even entertain the thought of initiating any contact with this woman, for obvious reasons I think. There is no reason for me to interrupt her life whatsoever without knowing that it is God's will. In fact, I posted prayer requests about this on several sites, asking that God strongly put it on her heart to contact me if her marital circumstances change. That way I do not interrupt her life. The Holy Spirit has assured me that I do not need to do anything; that God will take care of it, and that I need not worry about not taking an active role.

So the only question remains: Does God intend to bring us together after all these years? Or is it Satan sending a temptation to sin? God's assurance indicates that he might not want me to have all the information right now. Either that or I'm just overly cautious and can't accept the fact that He intends a miraculous reunion for us.

AT ANY RATE: I SEEK AN UNDENIABLE FAITH TO FOLLOW GOD'S WILL, AND TO KNOW THE TRUTH ABOUT THIS ONCE AND FOR ALL.

I thank you and praise God for you prayer partners agreeing with me on this difficult thing.

I only want to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit and do God's will in this because I know he would never lead me into an evil situation. Please keep praying for the truth of this to be clear to me. Based on my two bullet points above, I believe that I know now that whatever the outcome of this, it is occurring because God wants me to meet another Christian woman in a few months, and I think she will turn out to be the love of my life.

The only remaining question is whether it is the woman I rejected 35 years ago, or someone else. The answer to that question is critical to my making the right choice.
I praise and thank God for you all. Peace!

I have prayed for you amen

 

[Brother James]

As a sinner once married to the devil, once divorced from him you are free to marry Jesus Christ. Which is the reason why Jesus gave the verse. The Devil can never be faithful only God is. Once we divorce that unfaithful husband we are free to marry again. The Bible does not say anything about reconciling to an unfaithful spouse and on the contrary it gives many verses deterring returning to them. It does say if unequally yoke one should stay with the unbelieving spouse but you are free to divorce if they want to leave.
Jeremiah 3:1
“If a man divorces his wife and she leaves him and marries another man, should he return to her again? Would not the land be completely defiled? But you have lived as a prostitute with many lovers— would you now return to me?” declares the Lord.
Deuteronomy 24:4
then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance.

1Cor 7:15
If your husband or wife isn’t a follower of the Lord and decides to divorce you, then you should agree to it. You are no longer bound to that person. After all, God chose you and wants you to live at peace.

I'm not trying to be rude but there are a lot of verses in the Bible, the very Words of Jesus that teach us that it is wrong to divorce and that marriage after divorce is adultery. How do we forgive an unfaithful spouse and divorce them at the same time? It was for the hardness of our hearts that God allowed divorce and the fact that God needed to divorce ancient Isreal. We don't need to suffer for divorcing and marrying again if we can remain single.

1 Corinthians 7:10-11 ESV
To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife

https://www.openbible.info/topics/remarrying_an_ex_spouse

 

[Joy Elizabeth]

I'm not trying to be rude but there are a lot of verses in the Bible, the very Words of Jesus that teach us that it is wrong to divorce and that marriage after divorce is adultery. How do we forgive an unfaithful spouse and divorce them at the same time? It was for the hardness of our hearts that God allowed divorce and the fact that God needed to divorce ancient Isreal. We don't need to suffer for divorcing and marrying again if we can remain single.

1 Corinthians 7:10-11 ESV
To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife

https://www.openbible.info/topics/remarrying_an_ex_spouse

I guess when I divorce the devil I should not marry Jesus because I must not remarry. Doesn't that sound absurd. That verse is for people who divorce outside of adultery which they were doing a lot of especially in the time of Moses.

The verse you quoted is very true and I believe that but the Bible does state explicitly that adultery is the only grounds for divorce and remarriage. Only the priest were not allowed to marry a divorced person.

Leviticus 21:14
He may not marry a widow or a divorced woman or one who is profaned by prostitution, but he is to marry a virgin from his own people,

Anyone else may marry again if the divorce was due to adultery. The language is plain to understand in this next verse:

But I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, except for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery; and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. Matt 5:32 - KJV

According to this scripture if a person divorces because of adultery, he/she and their new mate are not committing adultery. The remarriage is only adultery if the divorce is for any other reason.


Here's Michael Chriswell's view on divorce and remarrying.

 

[Brother James]

I guess when I divorce the devil I should not marry Jesus because I must not remarry. Doesn't that sound absurd. That verse is for people who divorce outside of adultery which they were doing a lot of especially in the time of Moses.

The verse you quoted is very true and I believe that but the Bible does state explicitly that adultery is the only grounds for divorce and remarriage. Only the priest were not allowed to marry a divorced person.

Leviticus 21:14
He may not marry a widow or a divorced woman or one who is profaned by prostitution, but he is to marry a virgin from his own people,

Anyone else may marry again if the divorce was due to adultery. The language is plain to understand in this next verse:

But I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, except for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery; and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. Matt 5:32 - KJV

According to this scripture if a person divorces because of adultery, he/she and their new mate are not committing adultery. The remarriage is only adultery if the divorce is for any other reason.


Here's Michael Chriswell's view on divorce and remarrying.

Maybe read 1 Corinthians chapter 7

 

[Doc Safari]

How would you respond to a person who has already married a divorced person? Surely once the mistake has been made there can be forgiveness for it?

Or how about a wife being abused by her husband? Surely a wife being abused should be able to divorce her husband?

 

[The Encourager]

Matthew 19...

7 - They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 - He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 - And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

 

[The Encourager]

How would you respond to a person who has already married a divorced person? Surely once the mistake has been made there can be forgiveness for it?

Or how about a wife being abused by her husband? Surely a wife being abused should be able to divorce her husband?

Matthew 19...

7 - They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 - He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 - And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

 

[The Encourager]

We as the church are all female in a sense, if we are divorced we are free in Christ, free to be married to Christ, free in peace from an earthly spouse. We suffer for a lack of knowledge. If we marry an earthly spouse that is divorced we will suffer for that. The only thing we are free to do is reconcile with our divorced spouses. Dead to sin is still considered alive, we are only not committing adultery if they die physically as well as spiritually

Matthew 19...

7 - They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 - He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 - And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

 

[The Encourager]

So why does Matthew 5:32 say "However, I say to you, if anyone divorces his wife for any reason except for infidelity, causes her to commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman committs adultery. Therefore marrying again is allowed because it is not adultery because infidelity causes spiritual separation or death freeing you up to marry again.

Matthew 19...

7 - They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 - He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 - And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.