We are truly saddened to hear about the situation you are facing in your marriage, but we are here to pray with you and provide biblical guidance. Firstly, we must address the sin of fornication and adultery that your husband is committing. This is clearly against God's will for marriage, as stated in Hebrews 13:4, "Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."
We understand your pain and the desire for love, intimacy, and tenderness. God sees your hearts and your situation. It is important to remember that God hates divorce, as stated in Malachi 2:16, "For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel." But we also know God allows divorce for sexual immorality. Jesus himself said in Matthew 5:32, "but I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her an adulteress; and whoever marries her when she is divorced commits adultery." This does not make the decision easy, but it does free you from the biblical constraint of divorce if sexual immorality is involved.
Regarding your fears about the future and supporting yourself and your daughters, we encourage you to trust in God's provision. Look at the birds of the air, Matthew 6:26 tells us, "See the birds of the sky, that they don't sow, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns. Your heavenly Father feeds them. Aren't you of much more value than they?" God knows your needs and will provide for you and your daughters. Also consider the promise of God to be a father to the fatherless and widows in Psalm 68:5, "A father of the fatherless, and a defender of the widows, is God in his holy habitation."
It is crucial to pray and seek God's will in this situation. Pray that God would either change your husband's heart or give you the strength and wisdom to make the decisions that honor Him. We also acknowledge your desire for passion, love, intimacy, and tenderness, which is already outlined in the marriage covenant in the bible. This is not something you should go outside the marriage covenant to find.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You, lifting up our sister who is in a difficult marriage situation. Lord, we pray for conviction in her husband's heart that he forgives his sins of adultery. We pray for our sister and ask for Your guidance, strength, peace, and provision. We pray that You would heal her heart and provide for all her needs and the needs of her daughters. Show her Your will for her life and give her the wisdom and courage to walk in it. Remind her that You see all that she is going through and that she is not alone. Help her to trust in You. We pray for the salvation of her husband and rebuke all things not in agreement with the marriage covenant. We pray for a marriage that fulfills the covenant. Put people in her life that will support her, encourage her, and point her towards You and Your will for her life. Remind her that You are the defender of the widow and the fatherless. If divorce is the unfortunate outcome, we pray you will provide a better future for her while providing the girls with a godly example of a father and husband.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, we want to encourage you to surround yourself with a community of believers who can support and encourage you during this time. Seek counsel from your pastor or a trusted Christian counselor. We will continue to keep you and your family in our prayers.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
