UPDATE AND PRAISE REPORT
Things have much improved since last week. I sought counsel with his pastor who introduced us 22 years ago. He confirmed that my man-friend is probably telling me the truth and has been living a celibate life since the affair 7 years ago (a huge achievement for him) and that he is walking with the Lord and counselled me to not give my heart away, to put in emotional boundaries but he saw no reason why we should not enjoy the friendship as he told me my man-friend cares about my feelings, would not want to hurt me and would be sad if we parted. 1 Cor 7 states that the single life is a choice and we have both made this decision. I have made peace with the fact that we are not courting and accept he is free to choose his friends, as I am. I have lived the single life since 21 when I broke up with my partner to follow Jesus and am now in my 60s (current manfriend is a bit older). He rang me as usual last night to discuss what we wanted to do on our weekly outing. We had a nice day out; he was kind and attentive to my wishes and feelings. I noticed a warmth in his eyes I haven't seen before and I suspect, after last week, that possibly my feelings for him may run deeper than I realised. Something appears to be stirring in both of us but I am not sure if I am at risk of being hurt as he has a history of non-commitment and I don't want to be the next victim of that. This situation is not what I expected; perhaps the Lord wants to do a restorative miracle in both of us. I think the real truth is I have kept away from men for decades because of hurt. I believe I have now got over the past enough to start again but do not seek a relationship. The honest truth is I am afraid to face and deal with being a woman and to let someone that close to me. It feels safer to be single and I am so rejoicing in the Lord I don't want anything to spoil that. I am getting involved in the work of a christian organisation and so excited about it. However the Lord has restored my joy and peace this week for which I give him praise and thanks, and thank all of you who have stood with me in a place of pain and agony, although challenges remain and will continue.
Things have much improved since last week. I sought counsel with his pastor who introduced us 22 years ago. He confirmed that my man-friend is probably telling me the truth and has been living a celibate life since the affair 7 years ago (a huge achievement for him) and that he is walking with the Lord and counselled me to not give my heart away, to put in emotional boundaries but he saw no reason why we should not enjoy the friendship as he told me my man-friend cares about my feelings, would not want to hurt me and would be sad if we parted. 1 Cor 7 states that the single life is a choice and we have both made this decision. I have made peace with the fact that we are not courting and accept he is free to choose his friends, as I am. I have lived the single life since 21 when I broke up with my partner to follow Jesus and am now in my 60s (current manfriend is a bit older). He rang me as usual last night to discuss what we wanted to do on our weekly outing. We had a nice day out; he was kind and attentive to my wishes and feelings. I noticed a warmth in his eyes I haven't seen before and I suspect, after last week, that possibly my feelings for him may run deeper than I realised. Something appears to be stirring in both of us but I am not sure if I am at risk of being hurt as he has a history of non-commitment and I don't want to be the next victim of that. This situation is not what I expected; perhaps the Lord wants to do a restorative miracle in both of us. I think the real truth is I have kept away from men for decades because of hurt. I believe I have now got over the past enough to start again but do not seek a relationship. The honest truth is I am afraid to face and deal with being a woman and to let someone that close to me. It feels safer to be single and I am so rejoicing in the Lord I don't want anything to spoil that. I am getting involved in the work of a christian organisation and so excited about it. However the Lord has restored my joy and peace this week for which I give him praise and thanks, and thank all of you who have stood with me in a place of pain and agony, although challenges remain and will continue.