Struggling Single Mother - Father & his Girlfriend mistreating our children

[Lurebert]

I would like to submit another prayer. I have submitted several prayers. I have been in a struggle since 2016 with the father of our children. I am a very good mother, try my best but definitely not perfect. Father has had this girlfriend when the kids were young (she would send me pictures of them on dates), and they broke up. but last October they got back together. She hates me because I stick up for our children when she mistreats them. She has gotten worse and worse, until finally recently she found out they had phones. Dad would not follow the court order to allow the children to contact me (if they want), when they visit him (I never call to interrupt-I just let them call if they are worried or confused or scared). He will not allow them to call me at all, even if they get scared when he and his girlfriend fight. He just takes their phones away, this was the first time, when they were littler. Now they are older, 10 and 12. Well I was very worried because they keep telling me more and more bad stuff and having terrible experiences over there so I was worried about them and PRAYING for their protection and PRAYING that this all stops. It has been such an exhausting journey. The girlfriend is jealous of me, so she has dad take 'family pictures' of her, him and our children together, then posts them on Facebook for everyone to see. That is fine, I don't really mind that but I do mind how she still stays bad things about me in front of the kids, accuses them of lying when they are not, has left her personal sexual items on my children's beds (at dad's house), got them in trouble for tiny things and told dad not to answer ANY of my text messages or calls regarding the kids. Not only that but she has convinced him not to pay child support many times. It is just an ongoing NIGHTMARE for me and the kids and now that they are older, they BEG me to PLEASE don't make them go see dad on his weekend because they don't like the way he has treated them and the way she has manipulated him to mistreat them too. For instance, she was not at dad's house visiting (she was home in her own town, and dad had our kids, so dad asked them to take a shower. She was at her place in a different city. Well, she told him, on the phone to have my daughter take a shower first, then my son (this is REALLY weird to me) and they ended their call. But my son, being very smart and considerate, realized his sister would take longer, so he asked dad if he could go first, explaining his sister would take a long time. Dad said yes. Of course the girlfriend called after my son took a shower, and realized my daughter did not take hers FIRST. So she got all upset and started a HUGE argument with dad, stating the kids need, 'Consequences' for 'Not Obeying', but dad said no I told them it was okay, but she STILL wanted to argue about it. The kids were so nervous and uncomfortable that they called me, and I could hear him YELLING at her through the phone. I really wanted to just drive over there and pick them up. But we have a court order to abide by. This has been over 10 years of struggle, and it is starting to depress me and I am feeling helpless. Now, since dad found out they had phones (my son brought his over to his house), the girlfriend took it and forced him to give over the password, then went through his entire phone, then she dug through my daughter's room, drawers and all, (because her phone was at my house, but she accused my daughter of lying about it), proceeded to rummage through her entire room, looking for it (while she was at dad's). The next day, it was Sunday, and they were supposed to go to the water park, but the girlfriend was mad, so she had dad cancel the fun trip, and dad used the excuse that the kids were LYING and STABBING him in the back, and 'cheating on him', which also sounds really weird!! They didn't lie about the phones; they just didn't tell him because they know he will take them away like last time when they were younger. But I told them if dad outright, asks you specifically if you have phones, then you can't lie about it, but just be prepared because he will take them away. He doesn't want me to know what is going on over there (he is a BIG drinker and the girlfriend too). Anyhow because they were both very mad about the phones, the next morning instead of having fun at the water park, the girlfriend made them half cooked ramen noodle and told them to eat. It was too hot, so they had to wait. Finally when they started eating it (they said it was uncooked), she stopped them and told them they were done, then pointed outside and made them pack up to leave, they took the house key from my son (he walks from school to dad's on Tuesday), and they loaded them up in the car, drove to my house and dropped them off at 11:30 am in my driveway (he was supposed to keep them till 5pm. and didn't even notify me first. Both kids came in crying and saying that dad and his girlfriend are MEAN. They said they never wanted to go over there again. I had NO idea this had all happened till they walked in the door. So they had a pretty upsetting weekend and my daughter said the girlfriend was calling me all kinds of bad names then she also said, to dad, "We need to figure out how to take these kids away from their mom." This really frightened them. So, I figured this was over, and the next weekend they would be okay with dad but NO. It was Labor Day weekend, and I dropped them off at 5p.m. after they had a doctor visit (she also accused me of lying that I was at the doctor's with them)...this is how she is, constantly trying to hurt/annoy and bother me and the kids. So, after the doctor, I dropped them off with dad. I was really worried about them already and they were afraid to bring their phones, so they left them with me. It was a long weekend, and hard for me worrying and wondering how they were doing because dad and girlfriend will NOT let me talk to them and they won't even answer if I call or text. She tells him NOT to answer me. So, I picked them up RIGHT away at 5 pm on Sunday, as it was my time now and both kids got into the car but the first immediate RED FLAG, was my daughter (10 years old), literally RUNNING out of the house to my car and climbed in and crawled onto me and hugged me and told me she was SO Happy to see me. I knew something was wrong. So, I asked my kids how it went as we were driving away. My son said, "Well mom that was the WORST weekend ever, I pretty much want to KILL MYSELF NOW. Dad and Shelly made us STAY INSIDE our BEDROOMS all weekend long. We were only allowed to come out if we wanted to pee." This literally made me tear up. I felt SO HORRIBLE that they had to go through that. I asked them WHY they did that, and my kids said, "Because of the phones, Shelly said, to us, "See! You two are getting in trouble for something your MOM did!" So, she is trying to alienate them from me and make them suffer when I stick up for them. I asked if they were able to go outside at all. They said dad let them go out for 30 minutes only ONE time and when they were outside, they said, that dad's girlfriend called to make sure they were still in their rooms, when dad said he gave them a break, she got REALLY MAD at him and the kids. She hurried over and monitored them for the rest of the day. When my son (12 years old) closed his bedroom door to change his clothes (they had to leave their doors open, no tv, just lay there, but he needed to change so he closed his door a little but to change and took his shirt off, but she barged in and told him, "You don't get to have ANY PRIVACY! If you want to change, go to the bathroom!" These little kids did NOTHING bad to her and they did NOTHING wrong. All they did had phones so they could call me when they get scared. She has done SO many horrible things to them and me. She took them from their school without telling me and would not tell me where she was or where my kids were. She needs to be arrested and go to jail for child abuse, but my friends say they are allowed to punish them. They can be on restriction for as long as they want to do that. But my argument is that they did NOTHING wrong so for two weekends, they mistreated them and called them LIARS, and SPIES. Because they had phones. Dear LORD, what the heck am I supposed to do? I don't know how they were SPYING, because I have NEVER told them to take pictures of the house, but I DID in fact tell them to take a picture of it when the girlfriend leaves her biohazard sexual items on their beds (because I need proof in order to report it). Anyhow, it is so much that I am overwhelmed with emotion, and I need to just PRAY that GOD gets her out of the way and FAR away from my children. I spoke their pediatrician, and I was so overwhelmed with emotion and frustration, I started crying. He immediately wanted them to see a psychiatrist/psychologist but the problem with that is that they require DAD'S signature. I actually need DAD'S signature to get the kids an evaluation. My daughter especially has begged me to let her see a doctor for her mind because it is too much for her, but did will NOT sign for that becuase he knows they will get found out. If I report it to CPS, I am not sure they would do anything. They have strict guidelines for abuse and they also screwed up my case last time becuase the caseworker was NOT paying attention to the judge's orders to investigate the situation at dads but thankfully the judge remembered from when they were little and she refused to give him more time. That was what was happening then, he was asking for half custody. I personally feel that this is escalating and at some point, she is going to go too far and hurt my kids. That will not be a good day for them or me, or her. I am just praying the LORD will step in and HELP US. PLEASE pray for a MIRACLE break through! Thank you and I am SO sorry for such a long prayer request... Momma Bear aka Momma

 

[Articles]

We stand with you in prayer, Lurebert, and we are deeply concerned about the well-being of your children. We will lift up your situation to the Lord, trusting in His power and love to intervene and protect your precious ones.

Firstly, let's address the mistreatment and emotional abuse your children are facing. It's clear that the actions of your ex-husband and his girlfriend are not only harmful but also against biblical principles. The Bible teaches us to "defend the rights of the poor and needy" (Proverbs 31:9 WEB) and to "speak up for those who can't speak for themselves, and defend the rights of the destitute. Speak up and judge fairly, and defend the rights of the poor and needy" (Proverbs 31:8-9 WEB). Your children fall into this category, and it's crucial that you continue to advocate for them.

We must also address the issue of forgiveness. While it's important to stand up for your children, it's equally important to forgive those who have wronged you and your children. Ephesians 4:32 (WEB) tells us to "be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." This doesn't mean you should enable their harmful behavior, but rather, release the bitterness and anger, trusting that God will deal with them justly.

Now, let's pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You today, lifting up Lurebert and her precious children. Lord, You see the injustice and harm being done to these innocent ones, and Your heart is grieved just as ours are. We ask that You intervene, Lord, that You bring conviction to the hearts of their father and his girlfriend. Open their eyes to the harm they are causing, and change their hearts, Lord. We ask that You bring an end to this abuse, that You protect these children and bring them peace and healing.

Lord, we also ask that You guide Lurebert. Give her the strength and wisdom she needs to navigate this situation. Help her to know what steps to take, what words to speak, and when to remain silent. Comfort her, Lord, and bring her the peace that surpasses all understanding.

Finally, Lord, we ask that You bring salvation to this family. Draw the hearts of the father and his girlfriend to You, that they may know the love and forgiveness found only in Jesus Christ. We ask all these things in Jesus' mighty name, amen.

Lastly, we want to encourage you to seek wise counsel, Lurebert. Consult with your pastor, trusted Christian friends, or a Christian counselor. They can provide you with godly advice and support as you navigate this difficult situation. Also, consider consulting with a lawyer to understand your legal rights and options to protect your children.

Remember, Jesus promises to be with us always (Matthew 28:20 WEB), and He is faithful to keep His promises. Trust in Him, and He will see you through this trial.

We will continue to pray for you and your children, Lurebert. Stand strong in the faith and the love of our Savior.

 

[Wernad]

Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of this mother and her precious children, lifting them up to Your throne of grace, knowing that You are the God who sees all, hears all, and knows all. Your Word reminds us that You are near to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We ask that You bring healing and comfort to this family in their time of need.

Lord, we ask for Your divine protection over these children. As their mother seeks to provide them with a safe and loving environment, we pray that You would be their shield and their stronghold (Psalm 18:2). Guard their hearts and minds, and let no weapon formed against them prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Father, remove any spirit of fear or anxiety that has taken root in their lives, and replace it with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).

Lord, we ask that You intervene in this situation with their father and his girlfriend. We pray that You would soften the hearts of those involved and convict them of the harm they are causing. Your Word says, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay," says the Lord (Romans 12:19), and we trust that You will bring justice and peace in Your time. Protect these children from emotional manipulation, mistreatment, and any further harm. Grant their mother wisdom and strength as she navigates this incredibly difficult situation, knowing that You are her refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).

Father, we ask for a miracle, for a breakthrough in this long-standing battle. We pray that doors would open for these children to receive the care they need, and that no force would stand in the way of their healing. You are the God who makes a way when there seems to be no way (Isaiah 43:19), and we believe that You will make a way in this situation.

May Your hand be upon this family, Lord, and may they feel Your presence and Your love surrounding them. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

Dear Lurebert,

I'm so sorry to hear about the ongoing struggles you're facing with your ex-husband and his girlfriend. It's truly unfair how they're treating your children, and I'm here to support you in any way I can.

Firstly, I want to encourage you to keep advocating for your children. They need you to speak up for them and ensure their safety and well-being. Remember, it's your responsibility as a mother to protect them, and that includes seeking help from authorities if necessary.

I understand that forgiveness is a crucial part of our faith, but it's also important to set boundaries and protect yourself and your children from harm. Forgiving doesn't mean you have to allow them to continue mistreating you and your children. It's okay to forgive from a distance while still keeping them at arm's length for your own safety.

I want to suggest that you consider seeking professional help. A therapist or counselor can provide you with tools and strategies to cope with this situation and make informed decisions. They can also help you manage your emotions and provide a safe space for you to vent and process your feelings.

In terms of legal action, it might be helpful to consult with a lawyer. They can help you understand your rights and the legal recourse available to you. This doesn't mean you have to take legal action, but it's good to be informed.

Please remember, you're not alone in this. Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a support group. They can provide you with emotional support and a listening ear.

Lastly, I want to remind you that God is always with you. Trust in Him, and He will give you the strength and wisdom you need to navigate this situation. He loves you and your children so much, and He wants the best for you.

Please take care of yourself too, Lurebert. It's important to prioritize your own well-being so you can be the best mother you can be for your children.

Please keep us updated on how you're doing, and don't hesitate to ask for prayer or support.

With love and prayers,

[Your Name]

 

[Jesussaves89]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Lurebert]

We stand with you in prayer, Lurebert, and we are deeply concerned about the well-being of your children. We will lift up your situation to the Lord, trusting in His power and love to intervene and protect your precious ones.

Firstly, let's address the mistreatment and emotional abuse your children are facing. It's clear that the actions of your ex-husband and his girlfriend are not only harmful but also against biblical principles. The Bible teaches us to "defend the rights of the poor and needy" (Proverbs 31:9 WEB) and to "speak up for those who can't speak for themselves, and defend the rights of the destitute. Speak up and judge fairly, and defend the rights of the poor and needy" (Proverbs 31:8-9 WEB). Your children fall into this category, and it's crucial that you continue to advocate for them.

We must also address the issue of forgiveness. While it's important to stand up for your children, it's equally important to forgive those who have wronged you and your children. Ephesians 4:32 (WEB) tells us to "be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." This doesn't mean you should enable their harmful behavior, but rather, release the bitterness and anger, trusting that God will deal with them justly.

Now, let's pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You today, lifting up Lurebert and her precious children. Lord, You see the injustice and harm being done to these innocent ones, and Your heart is grieved just as ours are. We ask that You intervene, Lord, that You bring conviction to the hearts of their father and his girlfriend. Open their eyes to the harm they are causing, and change their hearts, Lord. We ask that You bring an end to this abuse, that You protect these children and bring them peace and healing.

Lord, we also ask that You guide Lurebert. Give her the strength and wisdom she needs to navigate this situation. Help her to know what steps to take, what words to speak, and when to remain silent. Comfort her, Lord, and bring her the peace that surpasses all understanding.

Finally, Lord, we ask that You bring salvation to this family. Draw the hearts of the father and his girlfriend to You, that they may know the love and forgiveness found only in Jesus Christ. We ask all these things in Jesus' mighty name, amen.

Lastly, we want to encourage you to seek wise counsel, Lurebert. Consult with your pastor, trusted Christian friends, or a Christian counselor. They can provide you with godly advice and support as you navigate this difficult situation. Also, consider consulting with a lawyer to understand your legal rights and options to protect your children.

Remember, Jesus promises to be with us always (Matthew 28:20 WEB), and He is faithful to keep His promises. Trust in Him, and He will see you through this trial.

We will continue to pray for you and your children, Lurebert. Stand strong in the faith and the love of our Savior.

Thank you very much for the thoughtful and prayerful reply. Also thank you for reminding me to forgive. I have also forgiven, but then they will do something again that confuses and hurts the children. My feelings are like the black bear, when her cubs are in danger. I want to respond as she would but I know this would not be fruitful. I have asked them to apologize to the children but when I do, they do something worse the next time. It is not their father, but her influence on him. I have explained to the children that it is her, manipulating him to do this because she doesn't like me. She doesn't like me because I do not tolerate her bad behavior and I call her out when she does this. For instance, on Father's Day, the children wanted to do something for their father so we decided we would buy ingredients for them to MAKE SPAGHETTI together, the next time they were with him. Since it was his weekend on Father's Day, we decided to wait till Sunday so I would not interrupt their time together and also with her. So I waited with basket of goodies, and when it was time for me to pick up the children, I had them take the basket to their father. She was in her car doing something. When she saw them bringing the basket, she got out and started going towards them. You should have seen how cute it was that they got to give him the basket and say, "Happy Father's Day!" He also was surprised and told them THANK YOU! Well we got home, and we were just going about our business, when I saw out my kitchen window, his big truck spin around and park half way in my drive way. It was HER, and she had the basket of goodies and she dropped it at my door, (some of the stuff spilled out), and she got in her truck and drove off. The children when they saw this, were very upset and hurt. I was very uspset for them. We used to give him Father's Day gifts and it was never a problem. At the same time they accuse me of not 'working with them'. I do not understand this since they do things to make it impossible for me to work with them. Anyhow, her excuse, as she explained to the kids, "Your mom should have brought it over ON FATHER'S DAY (I did not out of respect that she and their dad were together and I didn't want to interfere with his time with the kids), and also that I should have had the KIDS bring it over. Were they supposed to hold all the ingredients inside their backpacks, including the cheese and glass jar of tomato sauce and little packet of hamburger and other stuff? No, this didn't seem rational, and I also gave them the opportunity to choose for US to just keep it but they wanted to give it to their dad. So that is the kind of response we get when we try to be kind. Okay ANYHOW, thank you SO very much for your guidance. It was full of wisdom and also a blessing to my heart to read. This lady has done many things like this, it is always something and I couldn't put my finger on it. In court last year, his lawyer accused me of being JEALOUS of HER. I was so shocked at this accusation, my jaw dropped open and I just sat there staring at him, as the judge waited for my answer, when I realized my reaction was delayed by this, I answerd of course no, because I have NO desire to interfere with their relationship and in no way jealous. I just want to defend my children and I do not approve of either of their behavior. So I think this is the narrative that they set in court so that going forward she could start doing things (like leaving her dirty vibrator on my son's bed and other similar things), that she knows I will DEFEND my children for and warn them of the inappropriate behavior and how I will NOT tolerate it because it bothers our children. But in her mind, she sees it as me being, 'jealous', so to prove her point, she will do it again. Like leaving a box of lubricant in my daughter's room that says, "For better sex!" My daughter found that and was very annoyed about it. They both said, the really HOPE, that they aren't doing THAT stuff on their beds. So, you see my plight. HOW can I NOT defend them? At the same time, in her demented mind, she thinks I am being 'JEALOUS'. I explained to their father, this is NOT okay, and it hurts the children and it is not good for their emotional health. To her, this is me, being 'jealous'. But in my eyes, she is being a narcissist and refusing to take responsibility for their inappropriate actions. Then because I notified dad that this was not okay and to PLEASE keep that stuff out of their rooms and also away from their innocent eyes, she takes it as another opion to do something worse, so again, she left feces on my son's blankets. (HER feces). So of course my son was disgusted and had to wash his blankets. I asked him what dad said, and he told me that dad asked him why he was washing his blankets and he told him because there was poop on them. ANY father would ask, "HOW DID THAT HAPPEN?" but instead, his father just walked away. This is becuase he knows that they were doing unGodly things on his bed. I feel so bad for the kids. But now instead of these sexual diviant behaviors, she is has started to micro-manage them, trying to take on the roll of mom, and accusing me of 'not doing a very good job'. And because she has manipulated his mind, he follows along. But I know it is because he is a drinker and his mind is blocked from seeing the truth. We have prayed for both of them and for it to stop. So I will continue to pray for her, although to be honest, I want to slap her. She has emotionally manipulated and hurt my children too and it is UNACCEPTABLE. Plus, who knows what disease she or he may have, as they are 'sleepers', they have (slept around). He cheated on me and thankfully I caught him before I let him back into our marriage, and he was so far gone with the alcohol, and refused to get counseling so he ended up blaming me for the marriage demise and then just left me with two toddlers, with no income or way of surviving. It was VERY Scary times so thankfully the LORD did help me and the kids out and it has been 10 years of blessing and protection but this now has got to stop and we will contintue to pray for answers. Would you have advice as to how I would tell him that their pediatrician wants them to have counseling? The counselors want to see the children but they require that he signs for it. Can you believe that our system is set up to protect the perpetrators? So of course he won't sign for that because then he will get found out, and her also. BUT also, If I ask, she will get mad and do something even worse to PUNISH me by punishing the KIDS. See how that works? Okay thank you! I Must get ready for work!
momma bear

 

[Lurebert]

Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of this mother and her precious children, lifting them up to Your throne of grace, knowing that You are the God who sees all, hears all, and knows all. Your Word reminds us that You are near to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We ask that You bring healing and comfort to this family in their time of need.

Lord, we ask for Your divine protection over these children. As their mother seeks to provide them with a safe and loving environment, we pray that You would be their shield and their stronghold (Psalm 18:2). Guard their hearts and minds, and let no weapon formed against them prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Father, remove any spirit of fear or anxiety that has taken root in their lives, and replace it with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).

Lord, we ask that You intervene in this situation with their father and his girlfriend. We pray that You would soften the hearts of those involved and convict them of the harm they are causing. Your Word says, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay," says the Lord (Romans 12:19), and we trust that You will bring justice and peace in Your time. Protect these children from emotional manipulation, mistreatment, and any further harm. Grant their mother wisdom and strength as she navigates this incredibly difficult situation, knowing that You are her refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).

Father, we ask for a miracle, for a breakthrough in this long-standing battle. We pray that doors would open for these children to receive the care they need, and that no force would stand in the way of their healing. You are the God who makes a way when there seems to be no way (Isaiah 43:19), and we believe that You will make a way in this situation.

May Your hand be upon this family, Lord, and may they feel Your presence and Your love surrounding them. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

Wernad, thank you so much for your very sweet prayer, loaded with scripture to REMIND me of GOD'S love and protection. It is a struggle and I feel tired but I know the LORD will renew my srength. Today was dad's weekend again and our children told me they did not want to be picked up by him. They prayed that he would not pick them up. Well today, 5 O'clock came around and he had not picked them up from school. He ended up texting me to tell me that he was out of town and could not come to pick up the children. Well that was a BLESSING for all of us and the children were SO happy that they didn't have to spend the weekend with him and his girlfriend. What a miracle and God hears our prayers. They are learining to trust the Lord and Pray, when they have anxiety. Thank you again. I know the Lord heard your prayer for my family and all the other prayers from wonderful people in this thread.
Thank you ALL!

 

[Lurebert]

Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of this mother and her precious children, lifting them up to Your throne of grace, knowing that You are the God who sees all, hears all, and knows all. Your Word reminds us that You are near to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We ask that You bring healing and comfort to this family in their time of need.

Lord, we ask for Your divine protection over these children. As their mother seeks to provide them with a safe and loving environment, we pray that You would be their shield and their stronghold (Psalm 18:2). Guard their hearts and minds, and let no weapon formed against them prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Father, remove any spirit of fear or anxiety that has taken root in their lives, and replace it with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).

Lord, we ask that You intervene in this situation with their father and his girlfriend. We pray that You would soften the hearts of those involved and convict them of the harm they are causing. Your Word says, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay," says the Lord (Romans 12:19), and we trust that You will bring justice and peace in Your time. Protect these children from emotional manipulation, mistreatment, and any further harm. Grant their mother wisdom and strength as she navigates this incredibly difficult situation, knowing that You are her refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).

Father, we ask for a miracle, for a breakthrough in this long-standing battle. We pray that doors would open for these children to receive the care they need, and that no force would stand in the way of their healing. You are the God who makes a way when there seems to be no way (Isaiah 43:19), and we believe that You will make a way in this situation.

May Your hand be upon this family, Lord, and may they feel Your presence and Your love surrounding them. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior. Amen.

Thank you so much for your prayers. I feel like the issues are escalating. I try not to text him at all but when our children come home with bad stories and they are frustrated and crying, I feel I MUST DEFEND them so I text him a message detailing how inappropriate their behavior is and that they need to see how they are hurting the children and apologize. Instead she will text me from the thread she created so I would respond to BOTH of them so she could read every thing my X and I are talking about in regards to the kids. She doesn't need to KNOW. It is about the kids only and has NEVER been anything other than our children. Before they started dating, he never had a problem responding to me and there wasn't this emotional and psychological abuse going on. We worked together and things were fine. He dated people and I didn't care. We are LONG broken up, since 2016 and divorced in 2018. He has alcohol issues. I have NO desire to get back with him becasue we are not evenly yolked as scripture states we must be but I do have a responsibility to protect my children and make sure they are happy and safe, when they are with them. A few weeks ago, she walked up to my car and started telling me how she signed my daughter up for a field trip... I was like WHAT? WHERE??! I didn't see that coming and it was like I felt blindsided but that is because she took them from their school one day and would not tell me where they were so I was very alarmed and frightened for them. Good thing dad finally DID answer because I was on DIAL with 911 I was so frightened. Then another time she did it and I texted her, "Where are my children?" She wouldn't answer, it is like she WANTS to upset me and the kids. Finally she texted that she was with dad and that the children were 'hungry' so she needed to bring them to the store to get them something to eat. I dropped the phone, got into my car and raced over there. (they live 3 minutes away) and as I was pulling up, she was telling the kids to get into her car. I blocked her car with mine and rolled my window down. I said, "Get my children out of your car. KIDS! Come here honeys, we need to go." She said, "I was just taking them to get something to eat." I said, "NOPE! You aren't taking them anywhere." She got upset and made the kids come to me. Well of COURSE I am alarmed! She is taking my kids out of school and refusing to tell me where they are? ISN'T THAT KIDNAPPING!? Or close to it, because dad won't answer either. Anyhow, that is just a vent, I just don't trust her, she has done WAY too much for me to trust her. I am so sorry for the rant! Thank you for the prayers! Lord help me get peace and BREAK these chains!

 

[Lurebert]

Guys, Please forgive me...see how my serenity leaves me when I allow my mind to go into that place, instead of TRUSTING the LORD is going to FOR SURE, take care of our prayers, and of course, these children belong to the Lord, as I promised I would teach them about HIM if he allowed me to have children (He did after 10 long years of infertility, so they are my little miracles), and I need to remember, that instead of stressing the dysfunction on that side, we can continue in prayer and our heavenly Father will answer as he has many times before. Night night and thank you ALL, sincerely for putting up with my big, long messages.
Momma Bear

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Let Us Pray: God Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus' name to please bless me with everything I stand in need of, and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, strength, and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to prosper, have excellent health, and have an ever growing closer stronger more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always honor, respect, and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps, actions, and words.

God heal me, body, soul, and spirit. Cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, pray Your best for me, and all those I love and care about. God please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.