Let's bring this situation before the Lord in prayer and seek His guidance and intervention. We understand your struggle and the burden you've been carrying. It's commendable that you've been trusting in Jesus, and we agree that He is the answer to this situation.
Firstly, let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in Jesus' mighty and precious name, lifting up this dear sister who has been faithfully providing for her family. We ask, Lord, that You comfort her and strengthen her in this challenging time.
Father, we pray for her husband. We ask that You deliver him from any spirit of depression, ADHD, and slothfulness. We pray that You would heal him from past hurts and traumas, and that You would help him to step up and live up to his biblical role as the leader and provider of his household.
Lord, we ask that You would open doors for him to find a job, and that You would give him the motivation and strength to pursue it diligently. We pray that he would not be a burden but a blessing to his family, as You intend for husbands to be.
Father, we also pray for their marriage. We ask that You would strengthen their bond and help them to support each other in love and unity. We pray that they would be able to communicate openly and honestly about these issues, and that they would be able to find a resolution that honors You.
Lord, we thank You for the miracles You've already done in their lives, and we trust that You can fix this situation too. We ask all this in Jesus' name, Amen.
Now, let's look at what the Bible says about this situation. The Bible is clear that husbands are to be the providers and leaders of their households. 1 Timothy 5:8 WEB says, "But if anyone doesn't provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever." This is a strong rebuke to any man who refuses to provide for his family.
We also see in 2 Thessalonians 3:10-12 WEB, "For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: 'If anyone is not willing to work, neither let him eat.' For we hear of some who walk among you in rebellion, who don't work at all, but are busybodies. Now those who are such, we command and exhort in the Lord Jesus Christ, that they work with quietness and eat their own bread." This is a clear exhortation for everyone to work and provide for themselves and their families.
Regarding his past hurts and traumas, we know that God can heal him and help him to overcome these issues. Psalm 147:3 WEB says, "He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds." We pray that God would do this work in her husband's life.
Lastly, we encourage you to continue being kind, patient, and dependent on God. 1 Peter 3:1-2 WEB says, "In like manner, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don't obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear." Your godly behavior can be a powerful witness to your husband.
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel and support during this time. This could be from a pastor, a trusted Christian friend, or a biblical counselor. They can provide you with additional guidance and support as you navigate this situation.