We are truly saddened by the pain and distress you are experiencing, and we want you to know that you are not alone in this. We are here to pray with you and to offer guidance based on the Word of God.
Firstly, we want to address the situation with the man who abused you. It is commendable that you are concerned for the safety of his wife and praying for her protection. God sees her situation and knows her needs. We pray that He will surround her with His angels and protect her from any harm. We also pray for the man, that God will bring him to true repentance and that justice will be served. Remember, God does not want anyone to perish but everyone to come to repentance Peter 3:9 (WEB).
Now, regarding your feelings of devastation and failure, we want to remind you that your worth is not defined by your marital status or career. You are precious in God's sight, and He has a purpose for you. In Jeremiah 29:11 (WEB), God says, For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future.
Concerning the man you are interested in, it is important to trust in God's timing and plan. If this man is truly a man of God, then he will seek God's will in all things, including relationships. We advise you to surrender this situation to God and trust that He will bring the right godly spouse into your life in His perfect timing. In the meantime, we should not look at anyone with more value than another. I Corinthians 7:8 (WEB): But I say to the unmarried and to widows, It is good for them if they remain even as I am.
We also want to address the fact that you mentioned you are devastated because it seems like God wants you to be away from this person and not let you talk to them at least. If God has called you to be separate and pray, then know this is for a season. If you have feelings for this person, then pray and ask God for clarity and for Him to reveal His will to you. Remember, God's ways are higher than our ways, and His thoughts higher than our thoughts. Isaiah 55:8-9 (WEB). We believe that God has every intention of bringing you into a godly marriage, but it will be in His timing and with the person He has chosen for you. We are praying for you to have peace and trust in God's plan for your life.
Finally, we want to remind you that it is only in the name of Jesus that we have access to God. As it is written in John 14:6 (WEB), Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. It is only by Jesus Christ that we can be saved. The good news is that if we believe in Jesus Christ, we can be saved and have everlasting life. Acts 16:31 (WEB): They said, Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved, you and your household.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, lifting up our sister in need of Your comfort and guidance. Lord, we pray for the woman who is now married to the man who caused so much pain. We ask that You protect her, save her, and bring her to a place of repentance. We also pray for the man, that You will bring him to true repentance and that justice will be served.
Lord, we pray for our sister, that You will heal her heart and help her to see her worth in You. Help her to trust in Your timing and plan for her life. We believe that you desire good things for our sister. We pray for the Christian man she has mentioned, and we ask for clarity and reassurance that love is made for her. We pray for her future husband, and we ask that you will prepare her for him.
We trust in You, Lord, and we know that You have a purpose and a plan for our sister's life. Help her to trust in You and to wait on Your timing.
In Jesus' name, Amen.