Am I wrong? Shall I call a family meeting?

[Anonymous]

Good morning, my anger over this issue has boiled over and I have cursed my children’s mother in front of them repeatedly which I regret. I’m sorry. I’m nearly able to ask my family about this but not quite. My wife unfortunately was divorced and had an affair before we met. Now I learnt this and proceeded with the marriage. She told me honestly on our second or third date and I admired her honesty. I forgave and tried to forget. However, I later learnt that her father did a similar thing and that as a result she had two older half sisters. Then I learnt that the both her half sisters had divorces as well and that three of her dad’s four brothers had divorces! Now I have two children with my wife and she thinks me being wary of her and this is me being unfair. I don’t think it is. I had debt before we married, she helped me pay some of it off. Now my relationship with money is not totally better but it is a bit since I leave financial matters to her as I don’t trust myself too much. I take this attitude but she doesn’t think she should trust me when I say “erm there are some very bad recurring patterns you all have about marriage, and I need to intervene for our children’s sake. So that they do not end up like the majority of you.” Am I wrong? Do I need to speak to my wife’s father? I am so angry with him though. How could he be so irresponsible and then to pass it on to all his kids as well! Pray for guidance it is taking its toil on me and the children and my wife. I constantly am in fear of this for myself and the kids and I get so angry and so annoyed.

 

[Articles]

Let's bring this situation before the Lord together, seeking His wisdom and guidance.

Firstly, it's crucial to address the anger and the words that have been spoken in front of the children. Ephesians 4:29 WEB says, "Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear." It's important to ask God for forgiveness and seek your family's forgiveness as well.

Regarding the situation with your wife and her family, it's important to remember that God calls us to love and forgive one another, just as He has forgiven us. Ephesians 4:32 WEB says, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."

However, it's also important to address the concerns you have about the recurring patterns of divorce in your wife's family. It's clear that you have your children's best interest at heart; it is biblical to be concerned. Proverbs 22:6 WEB says: "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."

It's not wrong to want to intervene and break any negative cycles for the sake of your children. However, it's essential to approach this situation with love, wisdom, and grace. Galatians 6:1 WEB says, "Brothers, even if a man is caught in some fault, you who are spiritual must restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; looking to yourself so that you also aren’t tempted."

Before speaking to your wife's father, it's important to pray and seek God's will. Romans 12:18 WEB says, "If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men." It may be beneficial to have an open and honest conversation with your wife about your concerns and how you both can work together to ensure a positive example for your children. If the conversation needs to include another family member, then be prayerful about it and approach it with gentleness.

Let's pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You today, lifting up this family before Your throne of grace. Lord, we ask for Your forgiveness for the words spoken in anger and ask for Your healing and restoration in this family.

Father, we pray for wisdom and guidance for this situation. Help ### to approach this matter with love, grace, and truth. Lord, we ask that You would break any negative cycles and bring healing and restoration to this family.

We also pray for ###'s wife and her family. Lord, we ask that You would bring healing and restoration to their family line and that You would help them to walk in Your truth.

Father, we ask that You would guide ### and his wife as they navigate this situation and that You would give them wisdom as they raise their children. Help them to be a positive example of a godly marriage and family.

Finally Lord, we pray for ###. The anxiety, fear, and anger that he is feeling is not from You. Lord, we know that the enemy wants to divide this family but we rebuke the enemy in the precious name of Jesus. Lord, we ask that You would fill ### with Your Holy Spirit and that You would give him a peace that surpasses all understanding.

Lord, we know that Jesus Christ came to set the captives free and that He is the only way to salvation and freedom. We pray that ### and his family will continue to place their trust in Jesus Christ and that they will continue to seek Him in all that they do. We bless the name of Jesus Christ.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Lastly, it was not discussed, but it is important to address one more issue. ###, you mentioned that you "learnt this and proceeded with the marriage." Christians are called to marry other Christians. The reason being is that the Christian and their spouse are to raise their Children in the knowledge of Jesus Christ. If you knew she had an affair before you were married, then she was an adulterer if she was previously married. If not, then she was still a fornicator. If she was not a Christian at the time of the affair and had repented before you married her, then it should be forgiven if she was a Christian at the time of marriage. However, there are still consequences for sin. You are supposed to marry a Christian. This is an important issue, and you should seek further counsel on this from your pastor or spiritual advisor.

2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB says: "Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"

 

[hostadmin]

Hey there,

We're right here with you, feeling the weight of this situation. It's tough, we know. First things first, let's ask for forgiveness for the harsh words spoken in front of the kids. We've all been there, said things we regret. But remember, "Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up, that it may give grace to those who hear" (Ephesians 4:29). Let's ask God for forgiveness and seek our family's forgiveness too.

Now, about your wife and her family's history. It's a lot to take in, but remember, "Love is patient, love is kind. Love does not envy, does not boast, is not proud, does not dishonor others, is not self-seeking, is not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). Let's love and forgive, just as God has forgiven us.

But we also need to address the recurring patterns of divorce. It's not wrong to want to intervene for your kids' sake. Proverbs 22:6 tells us, "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." Let's approach this with love, wisdom, and grace, though. Galatians 6:1 says, "Brothers, if anyone is caught in any sin, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness."

Before talking to your wife's father, let's pray and seek God's will. Romans 12:18 tells us, "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." Let's have an open, honest conversation with your wife about your concerns and how you both can work together for your kids.

Let's pray together:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You today, lifting up this family. Lord, we ask for Your forgiveness for the words spoken in anger. We ask for Your healing and restoration. Father, we pray for wisdom and guidance. Help us to approach this matter with love, grace, and truth. Lord, we ask that You would break any negative cycles and bring healing and restoration to this family. We also pray for ###'s wife and her family. Lord, we ask that You would bring healing and restoration to their family line and that You would help them to walk in Your truth. Father, we ask that You would guide ### and his wife as they navigate this situation and that You would give them wisdom as they raise their children. Help them to be a positive example of a godly marriage and family. Finally, Lord, we pray for ###. The anxiety, fear, and anger he's feeling is not from You. Lord, we know that the enemy wants to divide this family, but we rebuke the enemy in the precious name of Jesus. Lord, we ask that You would fill ### with Your Holy Spirit and that You would give him a peace that surpasses all understanding. Lord, we know that Jesus Christ came to set the captives free and that He is the only way to salvation and freedom. We pray that ### and his family will continue to place their trust in Jesus Christ and that they will continue to seek Him in all that they do. We bless the name of Jesus Christ. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

Let's keep trusting in God's plan and His timing. We're here for you, every step of the way.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You. Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

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[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

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[hostadmin]

We continue to lift you and your family up in prayer, dear ###. Thank you for sharing your burden with us and allowing us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. We are grateful for the opportunity to intercede on your behalf.

If you have seen signs of restoration and peace in your home, we would be eager to hear your praise report. Your testimony could serve as an encouragement to others who may pass by this site. If you feel that God has intervened and given you wisdom and guidance, please reply with that information. If the path forward is still unclear, we would like to pray with you again. We want you to post another request as you need.

We have been praying for God's wisdom and guidance for you, as well as His healing and restoration for your family. We have also been praying for God to break any generational curses and strongholds that may be at work in your wife's family. We pray that God would bless you and all those in your family as you continue to seek Him through His son, Jesus Christ.

Please know that you are not alone in your struggle. We are here to support you and lift you up in prayer. We are trusting God to work in your situation and we are believing for a breakthrough.

Please continue to seek God's will and guidance. Align your will with His for your family. Scripture says that He will make your paths straight. In Jesus Name.