We understand that you're feeling alone in your marriage and hurting from the way your husband treats you after arguments. We will pray for you and your husband, and we also want to provide some biblical guidance and encouragement.
Firstly, it's important to remember the role of forgiveness in marriage. Ephesians 4:31-32 in the WEB says, "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." It's crucial for your husband to understand that forgiveness is a mandate from God, and holding onto resentment is not biblical.
However, it's also important for you to understand that while you should apologize for any hurtful things said during arguments, you should not feel as though you must earn his love back each time. Unconditional love is a fundamental principle of marriage, as outlined in 1 Corinthians 13.
Now, let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before you today in the name of Jesus, lifting up this wife and her husband. Lord, you know the struggles they're facing, the hurt and the loneliness. We pray, Father, that you would soften his heart, that he would forgive as you have forgiven us. Help him to let go of bitterness and resentment, and to love unconditionally, just as you love us in Jesus Christ.
We also pray for his spiritual growth. Lord, give him the desire to seek you, to deepen his faith, and to find strength in your Word. Guide him to be the spiritual leader of the home, and to support his wife in her walk with you. We ask that you would draw them closer together, that their bond would grow stronger, and that they would grow together in you.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, we encourage you to continue being the godly wife that the Lord calls you to be. Keep praying for your husband and loving him as God loves us. Also, consider discussing these feelings and concerns openly with your husband in a calm and loving manner. Communication is key in any marriage. If needed, seek guidance from a pastor or a Christian counselor. God will guide you and your husband together.
Keep trusting in the Lord, and remember that He will never leave you or forsake you. As it says in Hebrews 13:5 in the WEB, "...Be content with what you have, for he has said, 'I will in no way leave you, neither will I in any way forsake you.'" Trust in Him to guide your marriage and your life.