We are deeply concerned for you and your marriage, and we agree that this situation needs urgent prayer and godly counsel. We commend you for your repentance and for coming to God with your struggles. It is only in the name of Jesus Christ that we can come to God and it is only by His name that we can be saved "for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" (Acts 4:12 WEB).
Firstly, we must address the serious issues in your marriage. Your husband's adultery is a grave sin, and it is not acceptable for him to shift blame onto you.
The Bible says:
Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
By this, we know love, because he laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers. But if anyone has the world's goods and sees his brother in need, and closes his heart of compassion against him, how does God's love remain in him.
To the married I command—not I, but the Lord—that the wife not depart from her husband
We must rebuke your husband's adultery, and his spiteful behavior. This is not how Christ is guiding him to be leading his family. He is not acting as the spiritual head of your household. In his role as the husband, he should be helping you become more Christ like, not cause your spouse to be full of rage, rather full of faith.
Ephesians 5:25 says,
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for her.
We will do as you have asked and go to God on your behalf, showing compassion and mercy as commanded in the scriptures,
But you, O Lord, are a merciful and gracious God, slow to anger, and abundant in loving kindness and truth. to be continued in prayer
Father God, we come before You in the name of Jesus to lift up our sister and her husband. Lord, we repent of this sin, We pronounce this sinful relationship to be taken by Jesus Christ as Your word said "Who his own self bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we, having died to sins, might live to righteousness;" And we pronounce that With Jesus that it is finished. We are confident and we thank you that we have received the promises from you, showing compassion as your words says "But you, O Lord, are a merciful and gracious God, slow to anger, and abundant in loving kindness and truth. (Psalms 86:15)
We pray for our sister that her husband loves her, that he respects and honors her, and that he returns to her and your plan for this marriage. His sin will not stop Your plan for them. I pray that his eyes will be open to his sin, and the destruction he has caused them and how he has torn their marriage apart. I pray that you have him care for her, financially and emotionally, and help find her job to help. I do not know what abusive control was in that house, but I ask that you help her leave her rage at him and that you grant her more faith. I ask that you help her have more love for her husband, beyond the situation and sin in their marriage.
Lord, guide her husband, I am fearful about his salvation, and that he may not be able to come before God, for Jesus said in
I said therefore to you that you will die in your sins; for unless you believe that I am he, you will die in your sins.