Anonymous
Beloved of All
Please pray for my strength. My bf son just had his third child last night. And my bf knows how I feel about his ex wife. She has been very disrespectful to me and his relationship, and he allowed it. She texts and calls him about stuff just to entertain him, and he does not see that. Well, he wanted to go to the hospital last night, and he said she was not there. Well, I think maybe she was there, but he didn’t go; his son told him not to. Well, I saw a text on his iPad at 11:42 pm from his ex saying she is here, 6 lbs at 11:27 pm. I do not know why she doesn’t let her son text his dad, and I don’t know why she thinks she has to text my bf, her ex-husband, these things. I told him last night I can’t do this with her anymore. It’s driving me insane. I have tried so hard to deal with so much with this woman. I can’t do it anymore. He tells me I just have another year to deal with her. Their daughter turns 18 in July, and I said no, your daughter will be 18 in July, after that, no more. I’m not happy; I have no peace at all with this woman. It’s tearing me inside so bad. When she doesn’t text or call, everything is amazing, but the moment she needs my bf’s attention, he gives it to her, and I don’t say anything like I used to because we broke up already because of this. He left me because I can’t deal with her. Well, we stayed talking after he left, and we have been for two months doing better than ever, and I have been watching her being needy for attention throughout these months, and I haven’t said anything. Well, Monday, his son wanted his dad to go to her house to get a rim, well, he didn’t go, but he said he would figure something out. I have no idea how he got the rim or if someone else did, but it’s in a rim shop now. I didn’t ask him how it got there. I think his ex-wife called him yesterday; I think I saw a call, but I was scrolling fast when he asked me to call his son from his phone. I feel like a servant girl. Like I have to bow down to this woman and allow her to do what she wants. She is no queen to me, and I wish my boyfriend would stop her from what she is ruining of his. So he thinks I’m making him choose me or his son when this is absolutely nothing to do with his son. He knows it’s the ex-wife 100%. But it’s like he doesn’t want to stop her. He has been more humble to me and has not been angry and walking out like he used to, but I wish he would understand all he has to do is put his foot down with her and stop her. We wouldn’t have any issues if he would be a man instead of a scared little boy towards her. I’m not going to continue life with a man who still answers to his ex-wife. He jumps when she calls or texts. He doesn’t do that for me, and it is tearing me to pieces. I don’t deserve this. I asked him not to be around her, not to give her any entertainment or attention. But if I am not there to watch, I’ll never know. He talks to her behind my back, so I don’t know what kind of attention he gives her. She is one who doesn’t mind destroying households. She has been seeing a married man since before my bf and her divorced, so 2017, and I heard someone say they believe she went on a short trip last month with this married man. I don’t see how my boyfriend doesn’t understand to let go of the past. It’s not your present or your future, and what is your present may not be your future if you keep letting the past into your present. I really respect my bf. When it comes to me and my ex, we never talk. We have a son, yes, but I don’t text or call when he checks on school or if he needs to check in. We have an understanding; if it’s bad, I’ll call or like when we’re getting him braces, we needed to discuss when and payment plans. I set appointments already, and I didn’t even reach out to tell his dad. But he knows he’s getting it, so it’s okay. I need him to put his foot down with her, and I know he has been respecting my wishes, and it’s killing him. But we have this grandbaby he will have to see with possibly her around, and then his daughter’s graduation party at her house; I agreed to go to, but he was going with or without me, and I said no, we do this together. We do life together; we do this together. I sucked it up, and I’m going to her house and feel so uncomfortable, and I asked him, hey, I will feel out of place, so please don’t leave me alone there. He agreed. I am not invited to graduation; they have four tickets, so he has to see her there, and I asked him not to side with her. Now all this I’m saying is not his daughter telling him. It’s the ex-wife; she controls everything, and she even wants him to boil crawfish, and he offered his pot to her. Like I said, he didn’t talk to his daughter at all about her stuff; it’s only the ex-wife. So he asked about boiling, and he was like, I’ll know right now, I can, and I’m like looking at him, and he has this glow about it, and I said let’s hold off until the time comes, see how everything goes. I just don’t want to be at this woman’s house looking at her for no longer than we should. I really don’t want him entertaining her at all. I know she will try and converse with him, but I pray he is short and dry with her. No laughing and giggling, but be straightforward to the point and move away from her and the conversation because there is no need to entertain the past. So pray what you feel is right in my situation. I know what I would like, but I don’t know what I feel is what is right in God’s eyes. But I know he doesn’t want his daughter feeling like this.
