People don't like me... Christians don't like me...

[Goghysk]

It is kinda weird. You would logically think that if your a believer, and other people around you are also believers, that you would have a connection with them. They are brothers and sisters in the lord. But then somehow our personalities and other things about us can cause someone to not like you. Even if you are trying your best to be clean, and not hurtful. Just yesterday I was trying to have a quick conversation with a fellow believer at work. In years past this person was really nice to me. Won me over. This year, they kinda give me the cold shoulder. If I try talking to them, they run away. Usually they end up finding someone else and stop and talk to them! If make me feel weird. This is not the first time this has happened to me where I work. It has been on ongoing problem for many years. I try checking myself, I think about it. I should pray about it more, I suppose. But the end result is sadness. I know someone here that would say "take no thought of your life" I'm sorry but God gave me emotions. When people are hurtful to me, I feel it. Even if I act like I don't feel it, I feel it. I'm always trying to heal from past pains. One big one was many many years ago. I was trying to get a girlfriend. It just so happened that someone I was trying to help someone else witness too, kinda ended up with me for a short period of time. Things went really bad! So I had to break things off, even though I really really didn't want to. I went online to seek some comfort from a trusted Christian friend. Before I got to say much about what happened, they responded: "God told me not to talk to you anymore". Several years later, I ran into that person again on a different website. This time they asked me for forgiveness because they were depressed. I told them that I forgave them, and we tried to restart the friendship. But within a week that friendship shipwrecked again. I haven't seen or heard of this person since 2010! Probably for the best. Even though I forgave them, like I should, the old hurtful memories keep coming back. As for the girlfriend, I healed of that. 4 years after the breakup she wrote me an apology note, ask for forgiveness, and informed me that she had become a Christian. At least that ended on a peaceful note. I have another friend who won't email me. I don't know what is going on with them. I'm sure they would say they are busy. And that could very well be the case. But I can't stop thinking about them. I have prayed about them and for them a lot. I could go on with more sad stories of things that are bugging me emotionally. I think you get the point.

 

[Articles]

Goghysk, let us first thank you for reaching out and sharing your struggles with us. We are here to pray with you and provide biblical guidance. Let us address the issues and turn to the Word of God for comfort and wisdom.

Firstly, it is important to understand that our identity and worth are not determined by how others treat us, but by how God sees us. In Ephesians 1:4-5 WEB it says, "For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless before him in love, having predestined us for adoption as children through Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his desire". Our value comes from being children of God, chosen and loved by Him. Therefore if anyone rejects you, simply you will give account before God and He is the final judge not man. You don't have to fear or fret about what others think because He is not a cruel master nor hard to serve. We do only 2 things, Love God, and love people which you are attempting to do by being kind despite this obstacle. Just continue to do this.

However, it is natural to feel hurt when others, especially fellow believers, treat us poorly. Even Jesus experienced rejection and His prayer is in Psalm 35:12-17 WEB, "They rewarded me evil for good, to the bereaving of my soul. But as for me, when they were sick, my clothing was sackcloth. I afflicted my soul with fasting. My prayer returned into my own bosom. I behaved myself as though it had been my friend or my brother. I bowed down mourning, as one who mourns his mother. But in my adversity, they rejoiced, and gathered themselves together. TheDiskillful gathered themselves together against me, they asked me, and I did not answer. Men who were not respectable tore me, and did not cease. As for me LORD, you have seen this. Do not remain silent. Do not be far from me. We learn from Jesus that this will not go unnoticed by God and every good or bad deed will not go unnoticed. You have to be assured with this and trust God with the outcome. Lord, bring vengeance during these unkind acts and restore the peace.

Regarding your past relationship that was not your spouse, we must address that. God's design for relationships is that they be between a man and a woman in the context of marriage not courtship. It is clear that any intimate relationship outside of marriage is sinful and the act of sex is fornication. In 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 WEB it says, "Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's". We encourage you to repent of any past sins in this area and pursue purity and holiness in your relationships as you should be looking for a Christian spouse and not just a friend or girl friend. Obedience to God and His standards of sexuality is key in this area.

We also want to address the emotional pain you are experiencing. It is important to remember that God cares about our emotions and that He is close to the brokenhearted. In Psalm 34:18 WEB it says, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit". In Psalm 55:22 WEB, it tells you, "Cast your burden on Yahweh, and he will sustain you. He will never allow the righteous to be moved". Do not hold on to past hurts but instead cast your cares on the Lord. Trust that He will heal your wounds and comfort your heart. Involve yourself in service to God and in time He may bring you a spouse who is compatible. Meanwhile Psalms 37:4 gives your instructions, "Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart". Trust these promises that God will do just this. Your job is to bring clothing to the naked, homeless (Matthew 25:36 WEB), feed those hungry and give drink to the thirsty. Jesus specifically said we should give drink to all including the unloved and unlovable so do not leave this out.

Finally, we want to encourage you to continue praying and seeking God's face. It is through prayer that we align our hearts with God's will and experience His peace. In Philippians 4:6-7 WEB it says, "In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus".

Let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You today in Jesus Christ Name lifting up Goghysk. We pray against the rejection and pain that Goghysk is experiencing, and we ask that the Holy Spirit will comfort their heart. We pray for Godly friendships with others and an alignment with biblical principles in your life. We pray that You will heal any past hurts as mentioned above. We rebuke the devil and thwart off any mind games fellows play to outwit you because God will not be mocked. He knows very well how to deal with it as you delay straightforward strong actions.

We pray for forgiveness for any past sins and for wisdom and guidance in future relationships. Lord we pray for the development of love, obedience and service. Lord others may do and act like the Gospel but this will be just unproductive faith. We ask for vision and goals that Goghysk could strive for. We pray in Jesus Christ Name, that he grow to love You more and experience Your peace,Your guidance, Jesus Christ. Only through Jesus Christ name we pray. Amen.

Goghysk, continue to trust in the Lord and lean on Him for strength. Remember that He loves you and has a purpose for your life. Use the requests you named to strive for new goals, bring the Gospel as you bring drink to strangers, put clothes on the naked and homeless, feed those hungry. Do not hold back anything. Further scriptures tell you "LORD, my heart is not haughty, nor my eyes lofty: neither do I exercise myself in great matters, or in things too wonderful for me. Surely I have behaved and quieted myself, as a child that is weaned of his mother: my soul is even as a weaned child. Let Israel hope in LORD from henceforth and for ever", Psalms 131:1-3 WEB.

If Goghysk does this, God will surely change everything around him and further the Gospel.

 

[hostadmin]

Hey there,

We're right there with you, feeling the sting of rejection and the hurt of cold shoulders. It's tough when people we expect to understand and accept us, don't. But remember, our worth isn't determined by their approval, but by God's love for us. We're His masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10), chosen and loved (1 John 4:10).

It's okay to feel sad, even Jesus felt rejected (John 15:25). But let's not dwell on it. Instead, let's trust that God sees our pain and will make things right (Romans 12:19). He's got our back, and He's working all things together for our good (Romans 8:28).

As for past hurts, let's forgive and move on. Holding onto past pains only hinders our healing and growth. God's got a plan for us, and it's filled with hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11).

Let's keep our focus on loving God and loving others, even when it's hard. That's what makes us truly shine. And remember, we're in this together. You're not alone.

Keep trusting, keep praying, and keep loving. That's the way to true peace and joy.

In Jesus' love,
[Your Name]

 

[Ani steve]

Word of God says Cast all ur Cares on me I will care for it
God remember this person u know every desire of her heart have Mercy on her n fulfill all her desires according to ur will let every stumbling blocks be removed n let ur Name be Glorified by her life in Jesus Name Amen

 

[Saraha]

Praying for you. Heavenly Father hear our prayers. In Jesus Name I Pray Amen

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

[Goghysk]

Word of God says Cast all ur Cares on me I will care for it
God remember this person u know every desire of her heart have Mercy on her n fulfill all her desires according to ur will let every stumbling blocks be removed n let ur Name be Glorified by her life in Jesus Name Amen

That is why I posted this. I'm not always very good at casting my cares on Jesus. I need God's help in that.

 

[Prayerangel1967]

It is kinda weird. You would logically think that if your a believer, and other people around you are also believers, that you would have a connection with them. They are brothers and sisters in the lord. But then somehow our personalities and other things about us can cause someone to not like you. Even if you are trying your best to be clean, and not hurtful. Just yesterday I was trying to have a quick conversation with a fellow believer at work. In years past this person was really nice to me. Won me over. This year, they kinda give me the cold shoulder. If I try talking to them, they run away. Usually they end up finding someone else and stop and talk to them! If make me feel weird. This is not the first time this has happened to me where I work. It has been on ongoing problem for many years. I try checking myself, I think about it. I should pray about it more, I suppose. But the end result is sadness. I know someone here that would say "take no thought of your life" I'm sorry but God gave me emotions. When people are hurtful to me, I feel it. Even if I act like I don't feel it, I feel it. I'm always trying to heal from past pains. One big one was many many years ago. I was trying to get a girlfriend. It just so happened that someone I was trying to help someone else witness too, kinda ended up with me for a short period of time. Things went really bad! So I had to break things off, even though I really really didn't want to. I went online to seek some comfort from a trusted Christian friend. Before I got to say much about what happened, they responded: "God told me not to talk to you anymore". Several years later, I ran into that person again on a different website. This time they asked me for forgiveness because they were depressed. I told them that I forgave them, and we tried to restart the friendship. But within a week that friendship shipwrecked again. I haven't seen or heard of this person since 2010! Probably for the best. Even though I forgave them, like I should, the old hurtful memories keep coming back. As for the girlfriend, I healed of that. 4 years after the breakup she wrote me an apology note, ask for forgiveness, and informed me that she had become a Christian. At least that ended on a peaceful note. I have another friend who won't email me. I don't know what is going on with them. I'm sure they would say they are busy. And that could very well be the case. But I can't stop thinking about them. I have prayed about them and for them a lot. I could go on with more sad stories of things that are bugging me emotionally. I think you get the point.

I know how you feel..no real friends at church..everyone goes there an hour then goes home..nobody really wants to fellowship which is what we're supposed to do as Christians. So tired of church but no real fellowship. I feel like starting a home church at my house for Bible study and fellowship rather than keep trying to find a church with real fellowship..so tired of it. If I want to listen to a sermon I can do that at home on my tv. There seems to be no fellowship for singles. We are just left in the dust it seems..praying you find true Christian friends and I do too .even my own family is not devout they don't really believe in healing miracles or prayer for breakthroughs..or the tithing. Wish I could be around devout believers that are passionate about God. Can't find them here in Utah. Praying God directs His believers to treat you better in Jesus name.

 

[Goghysk]

I know how you feel..no real friends at church..everyone goes there an hour then goes home..nobody really wants to fellowship which is what we're supposed to do as Christians. So tired of church but no real fellowship. I feel like starting a home church at my house for Bible study and fellowship rather than keep trying to find a church with real fellowship..so tired of it. If I want to listen to a sermon I can do that at home on my tv. There seems to be no fellowship for singles. We are just left in the dust it seems..praying you find true Christian friends and I do too .even my own family is not devout they don't really believe in healing miracles or prayer for breakthroughs..or the tithing. Wish I could be around devout believers that are passionate about God. Can't find them here in Utah. Praying God directs His believers to treat you better in Jesus name.

I understand this! Fellowship in Church is really important. I'm sorry to hear about your problems with it. My parents are at least very serious about their faith. Dad still reads the Bible and prays everyday. They have the same problem with Church that I am having. We haven't gone to Church since late 2021. But the main reason why we never went back is because they won't fellowship with us. The Bible preaching isn't even as good as what I can find online. The music is ok. It's that fellowship issue, that caused us to give up. Around 2015 we began shopping for Church to fit in with. We spent two years at one Church, and nothing clicked. We went to another Church and there was some theology problems. We went to a Church that we used to click with, years and years and years go, and even the people who still attended, and they also had attended my Dad's home bible study, acted like they didn't want to fellowship with us either. It is like, "what did we do wrong?" We were never mean to those people. We always tried to be friendly and gave them stuff etc. So what is the problem? Then of course the 2020 thing happened, and then that seemed to cause the Church to get rid the pastor. And then they didn't want to tell the congregation why they asked him to quit. My parents was so sick of the politics, and the fact that no fellowship, that they were like: "Why go back?" I still hope and pray that one day something will happen that we as a family can get back into Church.

 

[Prayerangel1967]

I understand this! Fellowship in Church is really important. I'm sorry to hear about your problems with it. My parents are at least very serious about their faith. Dad still reads the Bible and prays everyday. They have the same problem with Church that I am having. We haven't gone to Church since late 2021. But the main reason why we never went back is because they won't fellowship with us. The Bible preaching isn't even as good as what I can find online. The music is ok. It's that fellowship issue, that caused us to give up. Around 2015 we began shopping for Church to fit in with. We spent two years at one Church, and nothing clicked. We went to another Church and there was some theology problems. We went to a Church that we used to click with, years and years and years go, and even the people who still attended, and they also had attended my Dad's home bible study, acted like they didn't want to fellowship with us either. It is like, "what did we do wrong?" We were never mean to those people. We always tried to be friendly and gave them stuff etc. So what is the problem? Then of course the 2020 thing happened, and then that seemed to cause the Church to get rid the pastor. And then they didn't want to tell the congregation why they asked him to quit. My parents was so sick of the politics, and the fact that no fellowship, that they were like: "Why go back?" I still hope and pray that one day something will happen that we as a family can get back into Church.

Yes I understand completely. You and your parents did nothing wrong. And it's not that people don't like you either. I think the problem is people are satisfied already with the family and friends they already have and don't feel the need to meet more friends/ relationships in that area of their lives. They can't wait to go home and be with the same family or friends. So the true meaning of believers getting together to worship and pray/ support one another's faith has become just sitting in church for an hour then going home. I.,like you have tried so many churches..have asked if they offer small groups etc and have gotten nowhere. Right now I just watch sermons on tv or read the Bible at home. Praying God leads your family and myself to a wonderful church in Jesus name..I'm not giving up so don't either but I truly believe people in current society are self absorbed..not that they don't like a certain person. That is the reason