Narcissistic manipulative fatherinlaw we took in

[Anonymous]

His wife my mom in law divorced him bc he was never there, committing adultery, loves money so much he's stole from his then teenage sons one of them my husband, whom took him in when he had nowhere to go , by crying knowing him being young he didn't think at that time or notice signs bc a boy loves his dad, by telling my husband he was in big debt and no money and the next day his money and a check was gone. He didn't wanna believe he did but he did. Anyways back to present day he has not once tried to look for a place makes up an.excuse when we point some out too high too many neighbors and absolutely not in town. We show him some ourselves hinting like beginning 7 months in supposed 3 maybe 4 months at the most. Tonight as I type this he is still here a year and a month later. Every time we bring it up he'll tell us what we want to hear and trying to wait until we get a house we may be able to own one day we are renting rn and our landlord was kind enough to let him and didn't charge more but now it is going up starting the 1st and he complains every time rent is due and wifi bill that he uses nonstop ! Buttt we are letting in you our home our sanctuary from the world to ourselves and here he is causing chaos, arguments always ab money and bringing home a bunch of unnecessary stuff he goes to thrift stores and buys and the spare room we even put a bed in for him he can't even sleep in it for the stuff and on the couch! Acts like it's his place and says disrespectful things to himself ab one of us or my mom in law out of bitterness of divorce and losing everything including one son that absolutely doesn't have nothing to do with him, him and his wife kids do not let him over he has no boundaries with his mouth and even admitted he didn't like being told what he can and cannot do thinks women shldnt be In men's business my husband and I don't have a marriage like that we are partners we have eachother no matter what situation life throws at us and we've tried to tell him how we are don't have to be nothing like his 1900s ways including slandering our friends or family bc of what they wear look like or there last name and his mother was as Christian as they came but when I brought her up that she would be ashamed how he's done his ex wife kids siblings and burnt alot of friends bc of his lies, being extra and weird like he's lost his mind and thinks it's funny. His autistic autistic grandson my nephew whom is grown now and special to me have in common we get overstimulated very easily and see he knows that so when he does bring more stuff home he laughs when I tell him it's too much I feel like the place Is falling in it's not big enough for 3 adults especially living with a married couple so please pray for protection against us bc we honestly believe with him being narcissistic and a drunk if try to kick him out I'm sure bc he told my husband If he did he could kiss him goodbye and not to call him for nothing but his siblings and mom and my parents are saying we've got to for our mental and emotional state, happiness and our home back with peace the whole year he's been here health problems and my husband got hurt and friends going through separations and I just need God's army and Armour to protect my husband from his dad which is sad and myself as well bc I can pick up sometimes he says he loves me and sometimes acts like I'm not good enough as a wife to his son. And I just pray God will work through angels to find him some land or a place he can leave and go to like hopefully by after new years or get blessed with that home by one phone call we've been waiting for and that whatever evil he has going on doesn't affect my husband and I ever again in any kind of negative manner again. That maybe since he wasn't humbled by having both sons almost die in the same hospital and floor different room Same time then idk what will. Whisky and money is all he cares about maybe God will have him at the right place at the right time to humble him on the wrong doings hes done or doing thankyou and thankyou lord for opening our eyes and that my husband is nothing like his father and maybe if he has a sliver of a heart and soul left he'll see what he's done and why and how his whole family stopped inviting him over bc of the toxicity and we don't want be apart of him going down hill and his awful views I hope he gets out

 

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We understand that you are facing a challenging situation with your father-in-law. We are glad that you reached out for prayer and support. Let’s turn to the Scriptures for guidance and comfort.

Firstly, it is important to address the spiritual aspect of your request. You did not mention the name of Jesus Christ, Jesus, or Christ. It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. In Acts 4:12 WEB it says, "There is salvation in none other, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men by which we must be saved!”" Also, Romans 10:9 WEB says "that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."

The Bible tells that we should honor our parents which includes both our own parents and our parents in law: "Honor your mother and your father Eph 6:2 WEB", as this is the first commandment with a promise. Seems like your being very patient and doing your best. However, it is clear that your father-in-law's behavior is causing significant distress and disruption in your home. The Bible also teaches us to set boundaries and protect our households from harmful influences. In Matthew 18:15-17 WEB, Jesus provides a process for addressing sin within the community, starting with private confrontation and escalating to involvement the church if necessary.

Regarding God allowing your husband to almost die. If we can trust God, then this means that we trust His timing, His answers to our prayers and His decisions that he makes based on our lives. He may not answer our prayers immediately. He waits for the right time. The ultimate goal is that we develop character of trusting Christ and becoming spiritually mature to become more like Christ. This is mentioned in James 1:3-4 WEB, "knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. Let endurance have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing."

It is commendable that you and your husband are committed to each other and working together as partners. However, the Bible does not teach that marriages are just partnerships. Marriage is much more. It is a commitment between a man, woman and God. Your husband is to love you as Christ loved the church and you are to respect your husband. As we see from Eph 5:31 WEB, "For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will be joined to his wife. The two will become one flesh.”"

Now, let us pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up this situation with our sister in Christ and her husband. Lord, we pray for Your divine intervention in their lives, particularly with regard to their father-in-law. We ask that You soften his heart and open his eyes to the pain and chaos he is causing. Help him to see the error of his ways and turn from his selfish and manipulative behavior and to see the family that he has hurt. Lord if he is truly a believer, bring conviction and repentance. If he is not a believer, we pray that you will open his eyes and draw him to yourself.

We pray for protection over this household, that You would shield them from any further harm or disruption. Grant them the wisdom and courage to set necessary boundaries and make decisions that honor You and protect their marriage and home. Psalm 91:1 says, "He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.""

We also pray for healing and restoration in their marriage, that they would continue to support and encourage each other in Your love. Strengthen their bond and help them to remain united in Your purposes.

Lord, we ask that You provide a solution for the housing situation, that Your will be done in Your timing. We trust that You have a plan and a purpose in all of this, and we ask for Your peace and comfort to fill their hearts as they wait on You.

We also pray for healing for their family members who are experiencing health issues and marital problems. Lord, we ask for Your intervention and restoration in each of these situations. For, we see in Rom 8:28 WEB "We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose."" In Jesus the Christ's name, we pray. Amen.

Our advice is also rooted in these suggestions:

Obviously, the living situation with your father-in-law is toxic and is causing many traumatic issues. Love does not require us to subject ourselves and our families which is the first earthly institution that God has made in the Bible. Do not subject them to evil, abuse or manipulation but rather to be separated from it. Finally, remember that God is in control, and He is working all things together for your good and His glory. Trust in Him, and He will guide you through this challenging time.

 

[hostadmin]

Dear friend,

We're here for you, and we're lifting up your situation to the Lord. It's clear that your father-in-law's behavior is causing a lot of stress and unhappiness for you and your husband. We need to remember that God calls us to love and honor our parents, but not at the expense of our own well-being or that of our family.

In Matthew 10:37-39, Jesus says, "If anyone loves his father or mother more than me, he is not worthy of me. And whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. He who does not take his cross and follow after me is not worthy of me." This doesn't mean we should stop loving our parents, but rather, our love for God and our commitment to Him should be our top priority.

We need to pray for your father-in-law's heart to change, for him to see the pain he's causing, and for him to turn from his manipulative ways. But we also need to pray for wisdom and courage for you and your husband to set boundaries and protect your home. In 1 Corinthians 6:19-20, we're told that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, and we should glorify God in our bodies. This applies to our homes as well.

Please consider seeking professional help, such as a Christian counselor or a support group, to help you navigate this challenging situation. God can use these resources to guide and strengthen you.

We're praying for you, that God will give you peace, wisdom, and the strength to endure. Trust in Him, and remember that He is working all things together for your good.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

[Glogaria]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Felic]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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[hostadmin]

We continue to lift you and your family up in prayer, especially concerning the situation with your father-in-law. We are grateful that you have allowed us to stand in agreement with you in this matter. If God has intervened and your request has been answered, we would be delighted to hear your praise report. If the situation remains unchanged or has escalated, please do not hesitate to post an update so that we can continue to intercede and stand with you in prayer.

We have been praying for God's protection over your home and your marriage, and for His will to be done in your father-in-law's life. We have also been praying for God to guide him to a new place to live, and for peace and harmony to be restored in your home. We trust that God is working behind the scenes, even when we cannot see it.

Remember, God's timing is perfect, and He is always working for the good of those who love Him. Continue to seek God's face and trust in His unfailing love. We are here for you, and we are committed to praying with you until there is a breakthrough. May God continue to bless you and keep you, and may His light shine upon you and give you peace.

In Jesus Name.