My heart goes out to you. I'm experiencing the same thing myself. My husband has been arrested in the past, and we separated. I let him talk me into returning (he arranged counseling, etc.) only to find out a lot of sordid things he has been doing. This was like heaping coals onto an already explosive situation and things have deteriorated fast. I can't leave right now unless I go to a domestic violence shelter, and after going that route before, it is not something I ever want to experience again. I pray for you with all my heart. I am luckier as my children are grown. Having young children makes it so much harder. Go to the website -banned site- and see if the techniques work for you. They are Bible based, and I am trying them, but they are difficult to adhere to. The domestic violence hotline is 800-799-7233. Call them if you need them. God bless and take care.