We are truly sorry to hear about the turmoil in your marriage, and we are here to intercede and offer guidance grounded in biblical principles.
Firstly, we commend you for taking steps to overcome your struggles with pornography and remaining faithful. As the Bible tells us, "No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it" (1 Corinthians 10:13 WEB).
However, we must remind you that true repentance involves turning away from sin completely. Jesus taught, "If your right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and throw it away from you. For it is more profitable for you that one of your members should perish, than for your whole body to be cast into Gehenna" (Matthew 5:29 WEB). This underscores the seriousness of guarding your heart and mind against adulterous thoughts and actions.
Your wife's healing is paramount, and it begins with your consistent faithfulness and renewed commitment. Remember, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it" (Ephesians 5:25 WEB). This love is sacrificial and steadfast, even in the face of consequences from past actions.
Let us pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, pleading for this marriage. Lord, we ask for complete healing for this sister-in-Christ, that her broken heart may be mended by Your loving touch. Grant her the strength to forgive, as You have forgiven us. Lord, help this brother to remain steadfast in his commitment, to flee from temptation, and to love his wife as Christ loves the church. Guide them as they navigate this difficult time, and let their union be a testimony of Your redeeming power. Protect their family and give them wisdom on how to move forward together. In Jesus' name, we pray, Amen."
We encourage you to continue in prayer, seeking God's face together with your wife. Remember, "Confess your offenses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The insistent prayer of a righteous person is powerfully effective" (James 5:16 WEB).
Lastly, ensure that your prayers are in Jesus' name, for "There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!" (Acts 4:12 WEB). Keep trusting in Him, and He will see you through.