We understand your struggle and commend you for reaching out in your time of need. Pornography addiction is a serious issue that entangles many, but there is hope and freedom in Jesus Christ. The Bible tells us that everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. WEB, Matthew 5:28 This is a sin that needs to be addressed urgently.
Firstly, it is important to acknowledge that deliverance is a process, and it is encouraging that you are seeking help. God is willing and able to set you free. The Bible says, No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. WEB, I Corinthians 10:13
To overcome this addiction, you must first repent and turn away from your sin. The Bible says, If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. WEB, I John 1:9. Confess your sin to God and ask for His forgiveness. Then, make a conscious decision to turn away from pornography and all forms of sexual immorality.
Secondly, you must renew your mind with the Word of God. The Bible says, Be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what is the good, well-pleasing, and perfect will of God. WEB, Romans 12:2. Spend time reading and meditating on Scripture, allowing it to wash over your mind and thoughts.
Thirdly, flee from sexual immorality. The Bible says, Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. WEB, I Corinthians 6:18. Make a conscious effort to avoid situations and environments that trigger your addiction. Install accountability software on your devices, and seek support from a trusted Christian friend or mentor.
Regarding your desire for a godly wife, we encourage you to pursue purity and holiness first. The Bible says, Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God. WEB, Matthew 5:8. As you walk in obedience to God's Word, He will direct your paths and bring the right person into your life. God rewards those seeking righteousness with the blessings of marriage to another Christian believer seeking righteousness through the free will choice and reciprocating action of the godly spouse. God will prepare and make a way for you to find anyone in be in this relationship as long as it is His will. Be patient and trust in His timing. Live and be the future spouse you want in the meantime so that you will both be compatible in holiness.
Let us pray for you:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our brother in his struggle with pornography addiction. Lord, we confess his sin before You and ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Give him the strength to turn away from this sin and to resist the devil's temptations. Renew his mind with Your Word, and help him to flee from sexual immorality.
Father, we ask that You would bring a godly woman into his life, a woman who loves You and seeks to live according to Your will. Prepare them both for marriage, and guide their steps as they walk in obedience to You.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen. (WEB)
Keep fighting the good fight of faith, and remember that your struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the world rulers of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. WEB, Ephesians 6:12. Put on the whole armor of God and stand firm in your faith and walk along the narrow path of Jesus Christ.