Hopeful23
Servant
I come from a family of dysfunctional and probably narcissistic individuals and it isn't getting any better. This is not a pity party but just to explain the background. I tried to make my family better than where I came from but unfortunately, I can't control other people and I am seeing yet another generation of dysfunction. I don't believe in curses but I do think there may be a genetic component to all of this and just making poor choices. This whole thing makes me physically sick to my stomach and I feel like I am alone and surrounded by psychopaths.
I'm already raising a grandson who was abandoned by his mother, my daughter. I thought my son had more sense but even he is going downhill. He found a Russian online to marry and I warned him about this. When I met this person over a year ago something didn't seem right. I really feel this person was just looking for a ticket out of her country which is not Russia but still an impoverished nation to Canada. I warned him but what do I know? I confronted her to ask a very legitimate question as to why she did not introduce herself via phone to me prior to marrying my son? Why have I not been introduced to her family? She had no answer. After this confrontation, my son has erased his immediate family and I have no contact with him since over a year ago.
It gets worse. My narcissistic mom sent me a stupid note in the mail recently stating that she changed the will and took me off as executor and it seemed like I was disinherited also. I have no contact with her but called about this note and why bother sending it? She denied disinheriting me but she has been in contact with my son and lots of things have transpired that I have no knowledge about. I talked to her just to get information and it is not good. My son is having major financial problems and has a history of not keeping jobs. The last one he got the boot and is getting sued for supposedly stealing clients. He wanted to move in with the Russian to my mom's house for 500 bucks a month. My mom declined and since then hasn't heard from my son. The Russian must be disappointed because she found out my son is not wealthy and because of financial difficulties had to get a job at Tim Horton's.
This whole thing is a big mess and I think a big part of my son not telling me is because he knows what I would say. I did not raise him like this and I warned him about the foreign wife thing. He doesn't understand I was considering his best interests and I feel that now he will have to learn the hard way and I wish I could have spared him all this.
My family is broken and I can't fix it. Like I said I feel totally alone and isolated and I am raising my grandson and I am trying to protect him from all of this craziness but that means we are basically all alone. I'm getting tired and these latest findings are most disturbing. It seems that this Russian is controlling my son and obviously wants me out of the picture since I know who she is and what she's after. My son is responsible for his choices also and I am really disappointed in him with his lack of loyalty to the family. I have been erased like I never existed as soon as he brought that foreign wife to Canada. I tried to make her feel welcome but she's uncommunicative and I believe trying to hide who she really is and her history.
Please pray for this whole mess to get untangled and for me to be protected from the narcissistic members of my family that really can't be trusted or relied on. Thank you.
I'm already raising a grandson who was abandoned by his mother, my daughter. I thought my son had more sense but even he is going downhill. He found a Russian online to marry and I warned him about this. When I met this person over a year ago something didn't seem right. I really feel this person was just looking for a ticket out of her country which is not Russia but still an impoverished nation to Canada. I warned him but what do I know? I confronted her to ask a very legitimate question as to why she did not introduce herself via phone to me prior to marrying my son? Why have I not been introduced to her family? She had no answer. After this confrontation, my son has erased his immediate family and I have no contact with him since over a year ago.
It gets worse. My narcissistic mom sent me a stupid note in the mail recently stating that she changed the will and took me off as executor and it seemed like I was disinherited also. I have no contact with her but called about this note and why bother sending it? She denied disinheriting me but she has been in contact with my son and lots of things have transpired that I have no knowledge about. I talked to her just to get information and it is not good. My son is having major financial problems and has a history of not keeping jobs. The last one he got the boot and is getting sued for supposedly stealing clients. He wanted to move in with the Russian to my mom's house for 500 bucks a month. My mom declined and since then hasn't heard from my son. The Russian must be disappointed because she found out my son is not wealthy and because of financial difficulties had to get a job at Tim Horton's.
This whole thing is a big mess and I think a big part of my son not telling me is because he knows what I would say. I did not raise him like this and I warned him about the foreign wife thing. He doesn't understand I was considering his best interests and I feel that now he will have to learn the hard way and I wish I could have spared him all this.
My family is broken and I can't fix it. Like I said I feel totally alone and isolated and I am raising my grandson and I am trying to protect him from all of this craziness but that means we are basically all alone. I'm getting tired and these latest findings are most disturbing. It seems that this Russian is controlling my son and obviously wants me out of the picture since I know who she is and what she's after. My son is responsible for his choices also and I am really disappointed in him with his lack of loyalty to the family. I have been erased like I never existed as soon as he brought that foreign wife to Canada. I tried to make her feel welcome but she's uncommunicative and I believe trying to hide who she really is and her history.
Please pray for this whole mess to get untangled and for me to be protected from the narcissistic members of my family that really can't be trusted or relied on. Thank you.
