Sherbil
Disciple of Prayer
Please pray for my husband Alan. He was approached by a lady on Skype who got his attention rather quickly. It intrigued him so that rather than blocking her he began to communicate with her. With in a matter of a month he was “in love with her”, “his new significant other”. They made all sorts of plans to see each other in person Valentines week. He told me he wasn’t in love with me , he wanted a divorce, he regretted marrying me, and so forth. Come to find out another month later which was about 1-8-2024 he discovered that she was a Romance scammer. She had him so sucked in he was afraid to get out. He says, upon Gods request he was to tell her goodbye and work things out with his wife. So, he did. It took him another week to delete the app they chatted on, all her pictures and block her on Skype.
I have made it clear that in order to restore our marriage I need the following things:
1. Full sincere repentemce
2. Guarantee not to go down that path again
3. What do I do or not do that might have brought that behavior on
4. Put God first in his personal life and in our marruage
5. Show me respect and compassion by helping me to get questions answered, make sure I’m ok everyday, ask how he can help me that day
6. Work and show with actions that he is rebuilding trust
7. Go to counseling
8. Go to church with me every week, do daily devotions together like we use to
9. Communicate more often and better
So far I have received an apology if that is what you want to call it. Nothing show any great deal of remorse. He actually thinks that since we were still under the same roof and he said he did. It want to pursue divorce that I would see he was sorry. Maybe so, but it not the emotional apology I felt like I deserved. He has done week of #8 on my list. I know it has only been a week, but I have seen him more sincere in other areas through out the years than this one.
I want to work it out. I prayed to God that he would restore my marriage. I did tell God what I felt I needed to feel safe in beginning that process. I’m quiet discouraged of the progress he has made. I don’t want to leave him yet I don’t want to compromise what I want out of a relationship. I don’t want to continue to tell him what I need because he will tell me what I want to hear rather than feel convicted.
I’m quite discouraged and u sure if I should tell him to pursue the divorce or stick it out a little longer. My fear is if he does t move on my conditions that soon he would have taken advantage of the fact I forgave him and was willing to restore. How do I pray to get God to convict him to give me what I need first so I do feel secure about restoring.
I have made it clear that in order to restore our marriage I need the following things:
1. Full sincere repentemce
2. Guarantee not to go down that path again
3. What do I do or not do that might have brought that behavior on
4. Put God first in his personal life and in our marruage
5. Show me respect and compassion by helping me to get questions answered, make sure I’m ok everyday, ask how he can help me that day
6. Work and show with actions that he is rebuilding trust
7. Go to counseling
8. Go to church with me every week, do daily devotions together like we use to
9. Communicate more often and better
So far I have received an apology if that is what you want to call it. Nothing show any great deal of remorse. He actually thinks that since we were still under the same roof and he said he did. It want to pursue divorce that I would see he was sorry. Maybe so, but it not the emotional apology I felt like I deserved. He has done week of #8 on my list. I know it has only been a week, but I have seen him more sincere in other areas through out the years than this one.
I want to work it out. I prayed to God that he would restore my marriage. I did tell God what I felt I needed to feel safe in beginning that process. I’m quiet discouraged of the progress he has made. I don’t want to leave him yet I don’t want to compromise what I want out of a relationship. I don’t want to continue to tell him what I need because he will tell me what I want to hear rather than feel convicted.
I’m quite discouraged and u sure if I should tell him to pursue the divorce or stick it out a little longer. My fear is if he does t move on my conditions that soon he would have taken advantage of the fact I forgave him and was willing to restore. How do I pray to get God to convict him to give me what I need first so I do feel secure about restoring.