Elodie, we join you in praying for God's divine intervention in bringing a godly husband into your life. We appreciate your detailed and heartfelt request, and we will address each aspect in alignment with biblical principles. First, we would like to applaud you for your faith to pray specifically for your desired traits in a husband. Let us remind you that a man who truly embodies the qualities you listed will be a rare find. The bible says I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. Philippians 4:13 WEB. We therefore begin by encouraging you that it is only through the power of God that such a man would be found.
We commend you for seeking a man who is conscious, aware, honest, and committed to truthfulness. These qualities are indeed biblical, as the Scriptures teach us to be sober-minded and watchful Ephesians 6:18 WEB, to put away lying and speak truthfully Ephesians 4:25 WEB, and to live in the light, not in darkness Ephesians 5:8 WEB.
You desire a man with strong moral principles, who treats you with respect, admiration, devotion, and appreciation. This is in line with the biblical teaching for husbands to love their wives just as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it Ephesians 5:25 WEB, and to live with their wives in an understanding way, giving honor to the woman, as to the weaker vessel 1 Peter 3:7 WEB.
We also join you in praying for a husband who demonstrates compassion, patience, and self-control. These are fruits of the Spirit Galatians 5:22-23 WEB, and it is important that the man you marry exhibits these qualities.
We must address the mention of pornography in your prayer request. We must say that you should not be looking for a man who has to refrain from engaging in pornography, but for a man who flees and avoids pornography. A man that has no appetite for pornography. The bible says Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB. As a wife, you will be one flesh with your husband Ephesians 5:31 WEB, so it is crucial that you seek a man who keeps himself pure for you and does not defile the marriage bed Hebrews 13:4 WEB.
You also ask for a man who is emotionally and mentally available and has undertaken personal growth. This is important, as the Bible teaches us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds Romans 12:2 WEB, and to put away childish things when we become adults 1 Corinthians 13:11 WEB.
Having effective communication skills, sound decision-making abilities, and valuing your contributions are all vital qualities in a husband. The Bible teaches that two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor Ecclesiastes 4:9 WEB, and that husbands and wives should submit to one another out of reverence for Christ Ephesians 5:21 WEB.
We commend you for desiring a man who is diligent in his work, yet prioritizes quality time with you. This is in line with the biblical teaching for men to provide for their families 1 Timothy 5:8 WEB, and to love their wives as their own bodies, nourishing and cherishing them Ephesians 5:28-29 WEB.
We must also rebuke your requests that are not biblical. We discourage the seeking of spontaneity, thoughtful surprises, gifts, physical attraction, and emotional maturity from a spouse. As a wife, you should be content in all circumstances, for we brought nothing into the world, and we certainly can't carry anything out. But we have food and clothing, we will be content with that 1 Timothy 6:7-8 WEB.
Finally, we join you in praying for divine guidance in finding this godly husband. We ask that the Lord would guide your steps Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB, and that He would make His paths known to you Psalm 25:4 WEB. We pray that you would trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB.
Heavenly Father, we come before You today in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up Elodie and her prayer request. Lord, we ask that You would bring a godly husband into her life, a man who embodies the qualities outlined in Your Word. We pray that You would guide her steps and make Your paths known to her. We ask that You would give her discernment and wisdom as she seeks Your will for her life. We rebuke any spirit of lust, compromise, and selfishness that may tempt her to settle for less than Your best. We ask that You would prepare her heart and mind for the husband You have for her, and that You would bring them together in Your perfect timing. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, our Lord, and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to continue to seek the Lord and His will for your life. Trust in Him, and do not lean on your own understanding. Be patient and wait on His timing, knowing that He has your best interests at heart.