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I’m sorry for asking this again but I don’t know what to do anymore. This relationship I’ve had with my girlfriend has been good and bad. The reason I say good is because the dates we have been on and the stuff we have done together. The reason I say bad because this relationship has affected me mentally. I always forgave her for what she done to me. She still had her ex’s location, still had pictures of him, talked to him in 2nd period at school, texted him, listened to music with him, did projects with him, and then she saved his phone number. All of this and I’ve found a way to forgive her and him. I forgive but I don’t forget which sucks. And then there’s this family friend they have and he asked to go over because he was “bored” but I knew he was there just to be with her. I only knew this because at her birthday party he looked at her up and down like checking her out and I knew from there he definitely liked her. So I knew that was going to happens and I told her about it but yet she didn’t listen to me and they layed down together and he followed her everywhere and played with her hair. I still forgive but I don’t forget. I’ve always seen the good in her. Honestly all this stuff that happened to me gave me so much bad emotions. I’ve cried, I’ve got mad, I wanted to do something bad to myself but I didn’t because of Jesus, I’ve just had so many negative emotions. And then I feel like she don’t care about what I want and I’ve always cared about what she wants. I’ve prayed for us. I prayed for me to be the only boy for her. (Outside of family and God/Jesus). I’ve prayed for her and now I found out it hasn’t been answered. She told me I’m the reason she’s fallen into a life of sin and she says I’m selfish. When it’s been opposite. I’ve cared what she wants and now that I spoke up on what I want I’m selfish. I want to cry and my heart feels a sharp pain. She was my first kiss, the first girl I’ve dated to meet my parents, the first for a lot of things. I know when we break up she’s going to follow guys and be with other guys which I’m scared of and that’s going to hurt. She honestly made me lose faith. I prayed every night for things to change but it haven’t been answered. I prayed so much for things to be better and it hasn’t been answered. It made me dobt the lord and if he is here for me. I remember from watching the chosen (Jesus show) that Jesus told Nathaniel that when he was in his lowest moment he did not turn his head and he saw him under the fig tree. I want something like that. I want Jesus to talk to me and tell me everything is going to be okay. I want to see him. I want to feel his presence. My heart seeks Jesus. But I feel like Jesus did turn his head because none of these prayers have been answered. Jesus say those who are weary and heavy laden (I think something like that, not trying to preach the gospel wrong) come to me and I will give you rest. And I’ve came to him but I haven’t got the rest. This whole situation hurts my heart and tears me down. I haven’t done anything bad to hurt her. I don’t know what I did to deserve this. This hurts. I don’t know what to believe anymore. My heart still seeks God. But I don’t know if he’s real. It hurts so bad. I don’t know what to do anymore.

 

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We understand that you're going through a tremendously painful situation, and we want to help you navigate this in a way that honors God and brings peace to your heart. First, let's address the issues in your relationship that are not aligned with biblical principles.

The behavior of your girlfriend, such as maintaining close ties with her ex and entertaining another young man's advances, is not reflective of a committed, godly relationship. The Bible tells us to flee from sexual immorality and to honor God with our bodies. "Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body." 1 Corinthians 6:18 (WEB). While you haven't mentioned any sexual immorality, the emotional intimacy she shares with others is a form of infidelity.

Moreover, the fact that you've forgiven her repeatedly but haven't forgotten the pain she caused shows that there's a deeper issue at play. God calls us to forgive as we have been forgiven, but He also desires that we live in healthy, life-building relationships which is not evident here. "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God also in Christ forgave you." Ephesians 4:31-32 (WEB).

Regarding your prayers, it's important to remember that God answers all prayers, but sometimes the answer is "no" or "not yet." We are only able to access God through the name of Jesus Christ. This is also the only name by which we can be saved. "In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace," Ephesians 1:7 (WEB). Additionally, remember Jesus' promise: "All things, whatever you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive." Matthew 21:22 (WEB). Since you did not specifically address your prayers to Jesus Christ, it would be a great time to start doing so.

It's clear that this relationship has caused you significant emotional and spiritual distress. It's important to seek God's will for your life and trust that He has a plan for you. "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11 (WEB).

Let's pray together:

Dear Jesus,

We come before You, lifting up our brother who is hurting and seeking Your presence. Lord, we ask that You comfort him and guide him through this difficult time. Help him to discern Your will for his life and to find strength in You. We pray that ### is looking for a Christian wife and he is trying to honor you in his marriage. We pray that You would heal his heart and help him to forgive and let go of the pain he's been holding onto. We ask that You would reveal Yourself to him in a tangible way, so that he may know that You are always with him. And forgive his sin that he has done in this relationship.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

This is not a time to fret about the what-ifs or the should-haves. This is a time to trust God to turn this heartbreak into a path to a stronger relationship with Him. We encourage you to spend time in His Word, seeking His face, and trusting in His goodness. God is faithful, and He will not forsake you.

 

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Hey there,

We're right there with you, feeling the weight of your heartache. It's like you've been carrying a heavy backpack for too long, and it's okay to feel tired and overwhelmed. We want you to know that we're here, walking alongside you, and we're going to pray with you.

First, let's acknowledge the pain you're feeling. It's real, and it's valid. You've been hurt, and it's okay to hurt. God sees you, and He cares about what you're going through. In fact, He's right there with you, feeling every emotion with you. As it says in the Bible, "Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken." (Psalm 55:22, NIV)

Now, let's talk about this relationship. It's clear that it's been a rollercoaster, and it's left you feeling drained and confused. It's like you've been trying to hold onto a rope in a stormy sea, but it keeps slipping through your fingers. It's okay to let go, to admit that maybe this relationship isn't what's best for you. Remember, God has a plan for you, a plan to give you a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11).

We also want to encourage you to keep forgiving, but also to protect your heart. Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to keep putting yourself in situations that hurt you. It's okay to set boundaries, to take a step back and focus on healing.

And finally, let's talk about prayer. You've been praying, and that's amazing. God hears you, even when it feels like He's silent. Sometimes, the answer is "not yet" or "no," but that doesn't mean He doesn't care. Keep talking to Him, keep trusting Him. He's there, even when you can't feel Him.

Let's pray together:

"Dear Lord, we come to you today, carrying our brother's heavy heart. We ask that you comfort him, that you wrap your arms around him and let him know that he's not alone. Help him to trust you, to believe that you have a plan for him, a plan to give him a hope and a future. Help him to let go of the pain he's been holding onto, to forgive and to heal. Help him to see you, to feel your presence in his life. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

We're here for you, every step of the way. Let's keep walking together, one step at a time.

 

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry for asking this again but I don’t know what to do anymore. This relationship I’ve had with my girlfriend has been good and bad. The reason I say good is because the dates we have been on and the stuff we have done together. The reason I say bad because this relationship has affected me mentally. I always forgave her for what she done to me. She still had her ex’s location, still had pictures of him, talked to him in 2nd period at school, texted him, listened to music with him, did projects with him, and then she saved his phone number. All of this and I’ve found a way to forgive her and him. I forgive but I don’t forget which sucks. And then there’s this family friend they have and he asked to go over because he was “bored” but I knew he was there just to be with her. I only knew this because at her birthday party he looked at her up and down like checking her out and I knew from there he definitely liked her. So I knew that was going to happens and I told her about it but yet she didn’t listen to me and they layed down together and he followed her everywhere and played with her hair. I still forgive but I don’t forget. I’ve always seen the good in her. Honestly all this stuff that happened to me gave me so much bad emotions. I’ve cried, I’ve got mad, I wanted to do something bad to myself but I didn’t because of Jesus, I’ve just had so many negative emotions. And then I feel like she don’t care about what I want and I’ve always cared about what she wants. I’ve prayed for us. I prayed for me to be the only boy for her. (Outside of family and God/Jesus). I’ve prayed for her and now I found out it hasn’t been answered. She told me I’m the reason she’s fallen into a life of sin and she says I’m selfish. When it’s been opposite. I’ve cared what she wants and now that I spoke up on what I want I’m selfish. I want to cry and my heart feels a sharp pain. She was my first kiss, the first girl I’ve dated to meet my parents, the first for a lot of things. I know when we break up she’s going to follow guys and be with other guys which I’m scared of and that’s going to hurt. She honestly made me lose faith. I prayed every night for things to change but it haven’t been answered. I prayed so much for things to be better and it hasn’t been answered. It made me dobt the lord and if he is here for me. I remember from watching the chosen (Jesus show) that Jesus told Nathaniel that when he was in his lowest moment he did not turn his head and he saw him under the fig tree. I want something like that. I want Jesus to talk to me and tell me everything is going to be okay. I want to see him. I want to feel his presence. My heart seeks Jesus. But I feel like Jesus did turn his head because none of these prayers have been answered. Jesus say those who are weary and heavy laden (I think something like that, not trying to preach the gospel wrong) come to me and I will give you rest. And I’ve came to him but I haven’t got the rest. This whole situation hurts my heart and tears me down. I haven’t done anything bad to hurt her. I don’t know what I did to deserve this. This hurts. I don’t know what to believe anymore. My heart still seeks God. But I don’t know if he’s real. It hurts so bad. I don’t know what to do anymore.

Praying for you and this situation. Praying for your faith and recovery. Praying for God's blessings in your live. Send you a short prayer for Jesus to close all unknown doors which the evil is using to enter. It will bless you.

 

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Lord Jesus in your mercy please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager, Woman of God, Prayer Warrior, Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

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