Feeling like rubbish and feeling like giving up completely on the dream of marriage

[Anonymous]

I feel upset as I feel I've been rejected by someone. I feel so crap right now. I wish I hadn't of thought about this man being my future husband. I thought God had shown me this man as being my husband even to the point of dreams about being married to him and having a son. I was fooled by Satan I guess. I feel so stupid and like crap.

I am ### years old almost and I am a woman thinking to myself maybe God doesn't want me married. I need closure and clarity. I am upset as I was preparing myself to be married now I don't know what God wants. Am I not made for love? I also feel so sad because men don't seem to want to pursue me. Maybe I am not good enough.

I am depressed. And down. Maybe God wants me single and undesirable. In the name of Jesus please make it clear because I am broken right now.

 

[Articles]

We are truly sorry to hear about the pain and disappointment you're experiencing. It's important to remember that God has a plan and purpose for each of us, and His timing is perfect.

Firstly, let's address the feelings of rejection and despair. It's natural to feel upset when things don't go as we hoped, but remember that God's ways are higher than our ways, and His thoughts higher than our thoughts. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB

It's also crucial to understand that God's will is good, pleasing, and perfect. Romans 12:2 WEB. He wants the best for you, and His plan for you is to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 WEB

Regarding marriage, it's important to hold onto God's promises. He knows the desires of your heart, and if marriage is His will for you, He will bring it to pass in His timing. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which passes all understanding, shall guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7

It's also crucial to remember that God's delay is not God's denial. Just because something hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it won't. God may be preparing you and your future spouse for each other. He is preparing us for good works, to purify for himself a people of his own, zealous for good works. Titus 2:14 WEB

About the dreams and feelings you had about this man, it's important to test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world. 1 John 4:1 WEB. Not every dream or thought is from God, and it's essential to discern His voice.

Lastly, let's pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You, lifting up our sister in Christ. We pray for Your comfort and peace to surround her. We ask that You heal her broken heart and bind up her wounds. We pray that You guide her, Lord, and give her clarity about Your will for her life.

We pray in Jesus' name.

 

[hostadmin]

We're here with you, sister. We know it's tough when dreams seem to shatter and feelings of rejection creep in. But remember, God's ways are not our ways, and His thoughts are not our thoughts. He sees the bigger picture, even when we can't.

We've been there too, feeling like we've been fooled, like maybe God doesn't want us married. But we've learned that God's delays aren't denials. He's working behind the scenes, preparing us and our future spouse, if that's His will.

Let's not be too hard on ourselves. We're not stupid or crap for having these feelings or dreams. We're human, and God understands that. He's there to comfort us and guide us.

Let's keep praying, keep seeking His face, and trust that He's got a plan. It might not look like our plan, and it might not come when we want it, but it's good, pleasing, and perfect. And remember, we're not alone. We're in this together, and we're here for you.

In Jesus' name, we pray.

 

[needhelpsobad48]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Splaonkularr]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Anonymous]

I saw your prayer request.
Rejection is a hard thing, but you have a Savior, Friend and Advocate who experienced rejection many times and will come alongside you. He feels your pain. And God will restore to you double the joy for all your hurts. [Zech 9:12]
And He is close to the broken hearted. The Lord knows only too well how this feels and He's right there with you, as if holding an umbrella over you, he shields you from the worst of the misery.
At ### years of age, you are far from being 'on the shelf'. That is a lie from hell. If it be God's will, you will encounter the man He intends for you, probably when you least expect it.
There are blessings that can come with being unattached, so, in this time, please allow God to soothe your heart, apply His salve and rebuild your confidence and (if this means anything to you) re-capture who you are.
"A bruised reed He will not break" [Matt 12:20, Psalm 34:18]. With love and gentleness He restores the weak, broken-hearted and vulnerable.
You are His daughter, and worthy of the best man that He has for you. As painful as it may seem, it may be necessary to allow some time, but until then perhaps it would be a good thing to continue drawing closer to Him in Bible reading and prayer?

Prayer:-
Most High Father God, we bring to Your attention this young woman. She stands amidst the fragments of broken hopes and dreams, rejected, devalued, and no doubt very much alone. Lord You know only too well the pain of rejection and abandonment and can easily sympathize with her.
In your tender compassion, Lord, please draw alongside, put your arm round her shoulders, soothe and heal her heart. Help her to know that you are her closest companion, her friend, her Savior and that no one can love her like You.
Help her to understand that in your eyes she is a wonderful creation, worthy of the best you have for her and that in the fullness of time, perhaps soon, You will introduce her to the man You intend for her - a man who would treat her with the gentleness and kindness she always hoped for.
And may it be, Lord, that this young woman, in the prime of her life, will see her days filled with joy and satisfaction...
To the glory and praise of Your good name.
In Jesus' name.
Amen.

 

[Ruomen]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Ruomen]

I saw your prayer request.
Rejection is a hard thing, but you have a Savior, Friend and Advocate who experienced rejection many times and will come alongside you. He feels your pain. And God will restore to you double the joy for all your hurts. [Zech 9:12]
And He is close to the broken hearted. The Lord knows only too well how this feels and He's right there with you, as if holding an umbrella over you, he shields you from the worst of the misery.
At ### years of age, you are far from being 'on the shelf'. That is a lie from hell. If it be God's will, you will encounter the man He intends for you, probably when you least expect it.
There are blessings that can come with being unattached, so, in this time, please allow God to soothe your heart, apply His salve and rebuild your confidence and (if this means anything to you) re-capture who you are.
"A bruised reed He will not break" [Matt 12:20, Psalm 34:18]. With love and gentleness He restores the weak, broken-hearted and vulnerable.
You are His daughter, and worthy of the best man that He has for you. As painful as it may seem, it may be necessary to allow some time, but until then perhaps it would be a good thing to continue drawing closer to Him in Bible reading and prayer?

Prayer:-
Most High Father God, we bring to Your attention this young woman. She stands amidst the fragments of broken hopes and dreams, rejected, devalued, and no doubt very much alone. Lord You know only too well the pain of rejection and abandonment and can easily sympathize with her.
In your tender compassion, Lord, please draw alongside, put your arm round her shoulders, soothe and heal her heart. Help her to know that you are her closest companion, her friend, her Savior and that no one can love her like You.
Help her to understand that in your eyes she is a wonderful creation, worthy of the best you have for her and that in the fullness of time, perhaps soon, You will introduce her to the man You intend for her - a man who would treat her with the gentleness and kindness she always hoped for.
And may it be, Lord, that this young woman, in the prime of her life, will see her days filled with joy and satisfaction...
To the glory and praise of Your good name.
In Jesus' name.
Amen.

Thank you I appreciate this but, it is really hard. I am never pursued by anyone other than horrible men and never a nice person. I feel so crap about myself and like I should just give up hope. Kind and honest men don't look twice at me and I guess God wants me alone. I know Jesus loves me but, when you have always wanted marriage this is hard to think that I am constantly rejected and not seen as anyone worth being with. I feel so crap and I just want to climb into a hole and cry.

 

[usha rani]

Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

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