T. D. Jakes once said, "like band-aids on a wound, things that are covered don't heal well.
I think we have all suffered from wounds of our past, some very large to some small. I have learned that sometimes even the small ones can affect you greatly depending on other issues you may be dealing with.
Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, alcohol, drugs, work or sex. But eventually it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in the past and make peace with them. (by Iyania Vanzant)
People often try and heal the symptoms rather than get to the root cause of the pain. This will only result in keeping the pain going. You can't get to where you need to be until you know where you are at. "Access the fruit, discover the root"! What is the bad fruit from what you are feeling? I struggled with rejection, anger, bitterness, betrayal and feeling unloved and abandoned. I looked for love in the wrong places. I drank if I was around certain people. I would get angry about certain situations that I shouldn't be angry about. Often times if your actions don't fit the circumstances there may be more to it.
This is a normal reaction to something you may be dealing with. It is a way of escape or self protection. But "freedom is what you do with what's been done to you". (Jean Paul Sartre) It wasn't until I finally admitted that I was sexually abused as a child that my eyes were opened to when I acted certain ways. Once I realized that my behavior was a result of the abuse, I stopped doing what I was doing and went and got the help I needed from a counselor and from reading many books on abuse.
Sometimes the action doesn't come from others to you. It is sometimes choices that we make ourselves. When we can look inside ourselves and be brutally honest with ourselves and confess these things to God. The healing can begin and you can be free from those things holding you back. Are there things in your life you are dealing with that you want to be free from? Anger, depression, fear, anxiety, rejection, abuse? Go to God and confess that you want to be healed from it. Don't be afraid of the answers you may get. I wrote a list of things that I was feeling about a situation and then went through each word and prayed and asked myself why do I feel this way about the situation. I found out that I was feeling this way from something that happened in my past and not even this situation at all. It was unresolved issues that I needed to deal with. Going through some pain to figure the reasons why may hurt a bit in the beginning, but push through them. You may also need to forgive others from past things done to you or forgive yourself for choices you made.
Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives. I am free from the damage that the abuse caused me even though I can't erase that from my past. It no longer controls things in my life. I have been set free! God can set you free from anything. Go to Him! Who the Son sets free is free indeed!!! God is our source of healing.
I think we have all suffered from wounds of our past, some very large to some small. I have learned that sometimes even the small ones can affect you greatly depending on other issues you may be dealing with.
Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, alcohol, drugs, work or sex. But eventually it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in the past and make peace with them. (by Iyania Vanzant)
People often try and heal the symptoms rather than get to the root cause of the pain. This will only result in keeping the pain going. You can't get to where you need to be until you know where you are at. "Access the fruit, discover the root"! What is the bad fruit from what you are feeling? I struggled with rejection, anger, bitterness, betrayal and feeling unloved and abandoned. I looked for love in the wrong places. I drank if I was around certain people. I would get angry about certain situations that I shouldn't be angry about. Often times if your actions don't fit the circumstances there may be more to it.
This is a normal reaction to something you may be dealing with. It is a way of escape or self protection. But "freedom is what you do with what's been done to you". (Jean Paul Sartre) It wasn't until I finally admitted that I was sexually abused as a child that my eyes were opened to when I acted certain ways. Once I realized that my behavior was a result of the abuse, I stopped doing what I was doing and went and got the help I needed from a counselor and from reading many books on abuse.
Sometimes the action doesn't come from others to you. It is sometimes choices that we make ourselves. When we can look inside ourselves and be brutally honest with ourselves and confess these things to God. The healing can begin and you can be free from those things holding you back. Are there things in your life you are dealing with that you want to be free from? Anger, depression, fear, anxiety, rejection, abuse? Go to God and confess that you want to be healed from it. Don't be afraid of the answers you may get. I wrote a list of things that I was feeling about a situation and then went through each word and prayed and asked myself why do I feel this way about the situation. I found out that I was feeling this way from something that happened in my past and not even this situation at all. It was unresolved issues that I needed to deal with. Going through some pain to figure the reasons why may hurt a bit in the beginning, but push through them. You may also need to forgive others from past things done to you or forgive yourself for choices you made.
Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives. I am free from the damage that the abuse caused me even though I can't erase that from my past. It no longer controls things in my life. I have been set free! God can set you free from anything. Go to Him! Who the Son sets free is free indeed!!! God is our source of healing.
