We understand your desire for a love that is true, genuine, and wholesome. Let's begin by remembering that God's design for love is rooted in His character and His Word. We are called to love one another just as Christ loved us, which often involves sacrifice and selflessness. In Galatians 5:13 WEB we learn "For you, brothers, were called for freedom. Only do not let your freedom become an occasion to the flesh, but through love serve one another."
It's important to approach relationships with a mindset of giving rather than just receiving. Jesus Himself said "There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends." in John 15:13 WEB. While it's natural to desire care and pampering, we should also be ready to offer the same to our future spouse.
Regarding purity, it's crucial to remind that God's plan for intimacy is within the bounds of marriage between a man and a woman. As stated in Hebrews 13:4 WEB, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."
We'll pray for your healing and comfort, knowing that God is close to the brokenhearted in Psalm 34:18 WEB, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."
Let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We lift up this dear one to You, asking for Your comfort and healing in their life. Help them to find true, genuine love that aligns with Your will and Your Word. Help them to be patient, to give selflessly, and to remain pure until marriage. Give them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness in Jesus name. Help them to reflect Your love in their future relationships, and guide them to a God-honoring marriage that is wholesome, happy, and pure.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
In the meantime, continue to seek God's will through your times with Him. Deepen your relationship with Jesus. Scripture tells us in Matthew 6:33 WEB "But seek first God’s Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."