Update on 26 September. I am still unable to move at present and feel it may not be the right time as father is nearing the end of his life: a move and a bereavement both at once would not be wise. The neighbours downstairs continue to come and go at strange hours of the night, some nights I wear earplugs (uncomfortable) and some nights I am so tired I don't bother. Some nights I sleep through. The woman is very volatile and emotionally out of control and I have heard her yelling, swearing and crying, I think she has mental and emotional problems, so I pray for them. Fortunately we are not rowing. Also, despite some good times, my manfriend's controlling, self-centred and irrational behaviour and mental health generally continues to worry me despite trying to communicate and work through issues with him and I am beginning to wonder whether I am even safe. Today is not responding to my texts but yesterday tried to bully me into following his lead and doing what he wants although it also involves my time and my money. He seems happiest when he is in control of everything including me. He also puts me down in front of other people, makes negative remarks and when meeting an old friend yesterday did not even introduce me. I hardly have anyone else in my life apart from him as he has taken over, but I do not feel I can move on with my life unless I move house or God removes him from my life, or unless he changes dramatically - I sometimes wonder whether he is really a christian or perhaps is, but has mental health issues or possibly now he is 70 might be having age-related problems. He also has diabetes and can get very irritable. We had a nice day out yesterday but his manner in deciding what we would do next week without even asking me first, and then insulting me and asking me to give him an explanation when I challenged him left me feeling incredibly disturbed and "triggered". When I get triggered, I have a bad problem with swearing which I do not want, because I feel trapped, angry and frustrated. His control could be triggering post-traumatic stress in me. I do not know who to turn to here, and feel I cannot talk to my friends. Some of my friends who used to be supportive are not now and I spend my life FEELING LIKE HAGAR WANDERING ALONE THROUGH THE DESERT TO ??? I don't need to understand what God is doing (I think I am in His will) but I do need to hear His voice and find out what He wants in these situations. I feel I want space to rest and seek God but find myself feeling anxious, a bit depressed and unable to settle to do things, enjoy hobbies and a sense of feeling alone in the world and emotionally detached from others. I am trying not to worry but feel the only thing I can do is pour my heart out to God, and on this forum. It feels hard to make decisions and move on with my life at present and I am not sure why. I feel I cannot connect with church or relate to it very much because the times are awkward and I don't know people that well and feel I have to operate on a rather superficial level most of the time. Thanks for letting me "vent" tonight. I suppose the best thing to do is to get in the word and listen to God.