We understand that you're dealing with a situation involving anger and a defiant spirit that is causing discord and contention. Firstly, we commend you for recognizing the spiritual warfare aspect of this situation and for wanting to address it in prayer. The Bible tells us that our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms (Ephesians 6:12, WEB).
Let's address this situation in prayer and with biblical advice. Firstly, it's crucial to remember that God calls us to be slow to speak, slow to anger, and quick to listen (James 1:19, WEB). Anger can quickly lead to sin (Ephesians 4:26-27, WEB), so it's important to deal with it promptly and godly.
In regards to the defiant spirit, the Bible warns us that rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft (1 Samuel 15:23, WEB). This spirit should be rebuked and prayed against, as it can cause great harm and division.
Let us pray together:
"Father, we come before you in the name of Jesus Christ, acknowledging your sovereignty and control over all things. We rebuke the spirit of anger and defiance that is causing discord and contention. By the power of the Holy Spirit, we command this spirit to cease its activity and be bound. We pray for peace and unity to reign, and for hearts to be healed and turned towards you. We ask for your guidance and wisdom in handling this situation, and for your protection over all involved. We ask for your will to be done in all things. We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen."
Remember, it's not our battle but God's (2 Chronicles 20:15, WEB). Trust in him, and he will deliver. Be sure to surround yourself and the situation with prayer and godly counsel. Always be ready to forgive and seek reconciliation (Matthew 18:15-17, WEB).
Lastly, be encouraged by these words from Romans 8:37-39 (WEB), "No, in all these things, we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."