Am i selfish ?

[Anonymous]

Dear Father, Whenever I got a little bit tense, Whenever I felt not okay, The time I wrote you or prayed for you always makes me relieved. Today I would like to confess my sins. Am I selfish? I want to apologize for whatever I have been doing. But I just can't stop it no matter how much I tell myself to improve it. So generally what happened was that there was a friend who loves to copy me. Everything I do, she did. Like everything. From the things I buy, she would buy them. The way I dress, she would dress like that. The way I cut my hair and everything. And I know you know the rest. And it makes me feel so unsecure. So I just stopped talking with her. But then we were used to be a very close friend for two years. So it felt bad not talking with her. So I started talking with her again. But then also I felt not comfortable around her. But I am not sure what should I do anymore, Father. And on the other hand, I somehow feel very extremely that people are going to judge me. And I don't know why is it happening to me. I felt most of my friends don't like me. But somehow I felt like they like me. I just felt like they are jealous of me. But I don't know why I think like that. It's so hard. Am I the problem? Please help.

 

[Articles]

We appreciate your honesty and your heart's cry. It's important to remember that we all fall short of the glory of God and that our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms (Ephesians 6:12).

Selfishness is a natural human tendency that can be overcome by the power of the Holy Spirit working within us. The Bible tells us, Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit (Titus 3:5). As we yield to God, He transforms us into the likeness of Christ. We become more selfless and live a life that is pleasing to Him and helpful to others rather merely copying others. Time spent studying the Bible and in prayer and obedient fellowship allows God to guide us. We are also to be humble and to associate with the lowly (Romans 12:16).

Regarding your friend, it's important to remember that God calls us to love others, even when their actions make us uncomfortable for good reasons. As Christians, we are to walk in love, as Christ also loved us (Ephesians 5:2). Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; (1 Corinthians 13:4-5). It may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your friend about how her actions make you feel, seeking a resolution that honors God and maintains your friendship with encouragement rather than simply mimicry.

Concerning your feelings of judgment from others, remember that God's opinion of us is what truly matters more than what others may think. Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe (Proverbs 29:25). God says not to be conformed to this world; but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is the good, well-pleasing, and perfect will of God (Romans 12:2).

Let's pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You, lifting up our sister in Christ. We thank You for her honesty and her desire to live a life that pleases You. Lord, we ask that You help her to overcome any selfish tendencies by the power of Your Holy Spirit and Your Word is acknowledged. Guide her in her friendship, giving her the wisdom and love needed no matter what she may encounter. Help her to fix her eyes on You, knowing that Your opinion of her is what truly matters. Help her to seek Your will more than what others may expect or copy from her. We pray that she will find peace and comfort in You and in obedience to Your Word. Bring to her remembrance the words in Romans 8:6, For the mind of the flesh is death, but the mind of the Spirit is life and peace.

Father, we also pray for her friend. We ask that You work in her heart, revealing any issues that need to be addressed and bringing her closer to You through Christ. We pray that their friendship will be one centered on serving You rather than merely looking similar in appearance or deed or being jealous.

We ask this in the precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord, and Savior, the only begotten child of God. It is in Jesus's name and no other that we can be saved (Acts 4:12). He reconciled us to God and redeemed us and it is by his wounds we are healed. We believe in him and the gospel and repent of ours sins. There is no other authority or name under heaven that can save us. There is no spirit or saint that can aid us. It is only God our Father that is in heaven who loves us and works through believers who do likewise. Let us love one another and not be greedy toward or no one seeking our own, but each preferring the other; even considering how to be doing good one to another.

We hope this answers the concerns brought before this discussion and that we are not afraid to cry out to our Father seeking our needs.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear your struggle, dear friend, and we're here for you. It's tough when we feel stuck in cycles we don't want to be in, isn't it? But remember, God sees you, and He's right there with you, ready to help.

You're right to feel uneasy about your friend's copying behavior. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with her, not to change her, but to express how her actions make you feel. It's also okay to set boundaries that respect your comfort and God's leading.

As for the feelings of judgment, remember, "The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart" (1 Samuel 16:7). Focus on God's opinion of you, not others'. He sees your heart, and He loves you just as you are.

Let's keep praying together, shall we? "Dear Lord, help our sister to find her unique identity in You. Guide her in her friendship, giving her wisdom and love. Help her to stand firm in Your truth, even when it's hard. And Lord, we ask that You reveal Yourself to her friend, drawing her closer to You. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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[The Encourager]

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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.