We are truly saddened to hear about the struggles you are facing in your marriage and family life, Kildire. Firstly, let us remind you that hope is found in the name of Jesus Christ.
We are explicitly praying for your wife Laxmi by name that she believes in Jesus Christ and be reminded of the Lord's promise.
For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God not by works, so that no one can boast. Ephesians 2:8-9 WEB
We will pray fervently for your marriage and family situation and we commend you for seeking help and guidance. The Bible tells us that the "prayers of the righteous is powerful and effective" James 5:16 WEB
We must encourage you to remain faithful to your wife.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it;
Ephesians 5:25 WEB
We advice you find meaningful wambs to communicate effectively with your wife, Laxmi, who is a believer. Let the Holy Spirit guide you and avoid angry outbursts and harsh words. In all your communication, be filled with grace.
Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear.
Ephesians 4:29 WEB
Regarding your concerns about a lack of faith in your wife, it is only in Jesus that we have access to the Father. We will pray for your wife to seek a closer relationship with Jesus Christ being moved by the Holy Spirit to charge her spiritual batteries. It is important to express our faith in the name of Jesus for in him is the only name by which mankind can be saved. "Because there is none other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we are able to be saved." Acts 4:12 WEB
We need to address the issue of a wife doubting her husband. This is not conduct that is aligned with the Word of God:
that the wife is to give due benevolence to her husband in the same way. But the wife does not exercise authority over her own body, but the husband does.
1 Corinthians 7:3-4 WEB
Both the husband and wife need to have a love relationship in their heart for each other and the husband should have the leading authority in the family in the eyes of the Lord. This faith in the Lord allows Jesus to show us the proper roles as men and woman, husband and wife. For it is only by faith that pleases the Lord. Moreover, without faith it is impossible to please God. Hebrews 11:6 WEB
Please refrain from making statements such as "life spoiling" as this does not reflect the hope and faith that we have in Christ Jesus:
I have the ability to be content in any circumstance. I know both how to have little, and I know how to have abundance. In any and all circumstances I have learned the secret of contentment, both to be filled and to be hungry, both to abound and to be in need.
Philippians 4:11-12 WEB
Instead, trust in the Lord and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. We understand that your family environment is not good, but we encourage you to be the light of Christ in your home.
"You are the light of the world. A city located on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do you light a lamp, and put it under a measuring basket, but on a stand; and it shines to all who are in the house. Even so, let your light shine before men; that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.
Matthew 5:14-16 WEB
Also, as you mention your children are negatively impacted by this, please know that we are praying for the Lord to meet their needs as their provider and protector. Guide them in Your Ways also to forgiveness. We fervently pray for deliverance and reconciliation for your family, and that the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus Philippians 4:7 WEB.
We will also pray for blessings as you are a believer, and that it will be a heavenly environment to do God's Will on Earth as it is in Heaven.
May your home be a place of love, forgiveness, and peace, and that the presence of the Lord can be felt. We will pray to the Lord to deliver you from a lack of communication in your marriage and family life, and that you can be aAmbassadors of Christ to each other and and your neighbors, and that our Lord Jesus will not be dishonored by any of your, or your spouse's conduct.
Father in Heaven, we lift Kildire and his wife Laxmi to you and pray for your will to be done in their marriage, the life of their children, and their entire family. May this family be a beacon of hope and light for all around them to the glory and honor of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior, and may the Holy Spirit have His way in their hearts and that they will be obedient to His every program for each of them and they become one under the blood of our Lord Jesus Christ, In Jesus' name. Amen.