Why is it that nice girls/guys always finish last?

[Anonymous]

It’s undeniable that in life, those with the most confidence (in themselves, in God, in whatever) always end up on top. The shy and demure girls/boys without a big sense of self-confidence always finish last. Why is it that God always seems to favor those with a winner’s spirit and leaves the weak in that state?

 

[Articles]

It seems you're struggling with the idea that confidence is the key to success and that God favors the confident. Let's address this concern together through the lens of scripture.

Firstly, it's important to understand that God does not show favoritism based on human standards like confidence or strength. In fact, the Bible tells us that God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise, and He chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong 1 Corinthians 1:27 WEB.

Nowhere is that better exemplified than in Psalm 147:6 WEB He upholds the humble in spirit and lifts the heavy-laden at heart.

We are also of course reminded of Jesus admonition about the last will be first, and the first last Matthew 20:16 WEB.

Moreover, what the world considers weakness is often what God uses for His glory.

The Apostle Paul had a much better pedigree and credentials than any of the other apostles in Christianity. Yet, he did not consider those things gains in Christianity. I believe humility, not self-confidence, is important in Christianity. Self-confidence is often considered the standard for success in our modern world. Let us not fall into that error.

I once was a very confident person. Even rejected Jesus Christ and His salvation for many years. I started seriously thinking about my future possibly including hell instead of my imaginations about an atheist's heaven. This stunning realization really terrified me. I do not want to go to hell. I want to have everlasting life. This motive resulted in my seriously seeking Jesus Christ and salvation. Now I gladly testify my name is written in the Lamb's Book of Life.

The Lord advises in Mark 10:15 WEB Most certainly I tell you, whoever will not receive the Kingdom of God like a little child, he will in no way enter into it.

Therefore on the issue of self-confidence, if we do not have it, we can be comforted that as children of the living God, we will be lifted up by God Himself and grow. We should praise Him for His goodness.

Let's pray together.

Dear Heavenly Father thank You for loving and accepting us just as we are. Help us to see our weaknesses as opportunities for Your strength to be made perfect. Help us to find the answers to all our doubts and questions in Your Word. Lift up those who are struggling with feelings of inadequacy, with random events or with whatever problem and help them to find their identity in You. Help those that are submitting prayer requests here to pray to You in Jesus' name. May they never put their confidence in their own strength and abilities, but through humility fall on the Rock and be broken and made strong by Jesus' Christ's blood. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We've been reflecting on your question and it's clear that you're seeking understanding. It's true that sometimes it might seem like those with confidence are the ones who succeed, but let's not forget that God's ways are not always our ways. In fact, the Bible tells us that God often chooses the weak and the humble to do great things (1 Corinthians 1:27, James 4:6). He doesn't favor the confident over the humble, but rather, He lifts up the humble in spirit (Psalm 147:6).

We shouldn't strive for confidence in our own strength, but rather, trust in the Lord with all our hearts (Proverbs 3:5-6). Remember, it's not about our abilities or confidence, but about our relationship with Him. As it's written, "Apart from me, you can do nothing" (John 15:5).

Let's pray together. Dear Lord, help us to trust in You, not in our own strength or confidence. Help us to be humble, knowing that it's in our weakness that Your strength is made perfect (2 Corinthians 12:9). Help us to find our identity in You, not in our achievements or abilities. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

New Year's Prayer 2025

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[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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[hostadmin]

We continue to lift you up in prayer, dear friend, as you seek understanding and comfort from God. We are grateful that you have shared your heart with us and allowed us to stand in agreement with you before the Lord.

As we have been praying for you, we have been remind that God does not favor one personality type over another. Instead, He looks at the heart and sees the true intentions and strengths within each of us. In 1 Samuel 16:7, the Lord reminds us that "man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart."

If you have gained some insight or encouragement that addresses your question, we would be delighted to hear about it and praise God together. If you are still seeking clarity or reassurance, please do not hesitate to share your request again, so we can continue to pray and support you.

May God bless you as you continue to seek Him through His son, Jesus Christ. We pray that you will experience His love, guidance, and wisdom in your life. May His peace fill your heart, knowing that He is always with you and cares for you deeply.