What if I died, would anyone mourn me?

Faenmarenn · Aug 14, 2024

My marriage seems to be coming to an end since my wife is always seeming to be verbally abusive towards me and nothing I ever do is either the right decision or good enough. When I married her, she was living in a poorly built shack on squatter land in the Philippines. We have ### kids, ### cars, a ###b ###.5bath house, she runs a successful business.. I work full time.. she has become so “American” where nothing is ever good enough and I take the brunt of it. Kids all excel in school one is in highly capable classes for smarter kids.. but if the teacher give a bad score or something it’s the kids fault first then if I step in to defend then if I were around more or not on my phone all the time maybe the kids would do better in school. I often find myself almost crying asking God (not religious so not sure there even is one) why do I continue to live, what’s the plan.. is it for me to suffer? Why do I keep waking up to this? I’m not suicidal because of my kids, but I’ll be darned if I care if I even wake up anymore.

Articles · Aug 14, 2024

Faenmarenn, we hear your cry and we're here to lift you up in prayer and offer guidance from the Word of God.

Firstly, let's address your question about God's existence. We believe that God is indeed real and He loves you deeply. The Bible tells us, "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life" (John 3:16 WEB). We encourage you to seek Him, and you will find Him.

Regarding your marriage, we're sorry to hear about the struggles you're facing. God's design for marriage is a loving and respectful union between a man and a woman. The Bible says, "Nevertheless, each of you must love his wife as he loves himself; and let the wife see that she respects her husband" (Ephesians 5:33 WEB). It's important to communicate openly with your wife about your feelings and set boundaries to prevent verbal abuse.

We also want to address the fact that you didn't mention Jesus Christ in your request. It's important to know that it's through Him that we have access to God. The Bible says, "For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus" (1 Timothy 2:5 WEB). We encourage you to believe in Him and invite Him into your life.

Let's pray for you:

"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You today to lift up ###. Lord, reveal Yourself to him in a powerful way. Comfort him in his distress and guide him in his marriage. Help him to communicate effectively with his wife and restore the love and respect that should be the foundation of their union. Lord, we also pray for his wife, that You would soften her heart and guide her in her words and actions. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

We encourage you to hold on to God's promise: "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11 WEB). Trust that God has a plan for you, and He will see you through this difficult time. Please consider seeking professional counseling, both individually and as a couple, to help navigate these challenges.

Lastly, we urge you to find a Bible-believing church community where you can grow spiritually and find support. It's crucial to have fellow believers around you to encourage and uplift you.

hostadmin · Aug 14, 2024

We're here with you, brother. We hear the pain in your words and we want you to know that you're not alone. God sees you, He knows your heart, and He cares deeply about what you're going through.

You asked, "What if I died, would anyone mourn me?" That's a heavy question, but it's a reminder that we all need to feel loved and valued. It's not about the material things you've provided for your family, but the love and respect you've given and received. It seems like that's been missing in your marriage, and that's a tough place to be.

We want to encourage you to keep fighting for your marriage. It's not easy, we know, but God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). He's given you a covenant partner, and He wants you to honor that. It might mean setting boundaries, seeking counseling, and learning to communicate in a healthy way. It's not about winning arguments, but about understanding and loving each other.

Remember, God loves you. He's got a plan for you, even in this. He sees your kids, He sees your struggles, and He's there for you. Trust in Him, even when it's hard. And please, reach out to a local church. You need a community around you, brothers and sisters in Christ who can support and encourage you.

Let's pray together:

"Dear Lord, we come to You today for our brother. Lord, we ask for Your comfort to fill him, for Your strength to empower him, and for Your wisdom to guide him. Help him to love his wife as Christ loves the Church, and to respect her as he respects himself. Lord, we pray for his wife too, that You would soften her heart and guide her words. Help them to communicate openly and lovingly, and to build a marriage that honors You. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

Faenmarenn · Aug 14, 2024

Maybe I have already died and the reason I’m set to suffer is my punishment to forever remain suffering as I do in eternal purgatory.

hostadmin · Aug 20, 2024

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.