What do we say in this situation?

This is not just a curiosity question, but I have actually been in this situation a few times. We[believers} pay a call on the survivors of a{by all indications}unsaved person, and the survivor, being unsaved themselves, state,"I "know" she{persons mother,etc.} is in a better place now.{They likely say that to comfort themselves,make themselves feel better.}But we, as believers, know that, if the person died unsaved, they are NOT in a better place.Now, here's the thing--we, as Christians, are to"rejoice with those who rejoice, mourn with those that mourn." {Also, to give comfort}. Now, it wouldn't be very "comforting" ,when someone says that , to blurt out,"Look, your loved one is {likely, barring a deathbed confession}in Hell, and headed to the Lake of Fire to be tormented forever and ever."It sounds insensitive for a "loving Christian" to say it that way. On the other hand, though, we can't agree to a lie. If they believe a lie, the Bible also says don't lie, so we can't very well just lie to them for comfort and say, "Yes, your loved one who {likely} died unsaved is in Heaven.The Bible is wrong."We don't want to agree with a lie. SOOO....wisdom--how do we get the balance,the loving spirit, yet not lying to comfort them?So far, I pretty much was just like, said nothing, but figured ,leave it up to God.What would you do?{Remember, I'm not the one bringing up the subject, it's them.}

 

[Intercessor]

Praying before I post. Col 1:9-11, James 1:5, The Whole Book of Proverbs

Prov 15:28 -- Right in The Middle of Proverbs...

New Living Translation
The heart of the godly thinks carefully before speaking; the mouth of the wicked overflows with evil words.

English Standard Version
The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.

Berean Study Bible
The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked blurts out evil.

New American Standard Bible
The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, But the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.

King James Bible
The heart of the righteous studieth to answer: but the mouth of the wicked poureth out evil things.

Christian Standard Bible
The mind of the righteous person thinks before answering, but the mouth of the wicked blurts out evil things.

Contemporary English Version
Good people think before they answer, but the wicked speak evil without ever thinking.

Good News Translation
Good people think before they answer. Evil people have a quick reply, but it causes trouble.

Holman Christian Standard Bible
The mind of the righteous person thinks before answering, but the mouth of the wicked blurts out evil things.

International Standard Version
The mind of the righteous thinks before speaking, but the wicked person spews out evil.

NET Bible
The heart of the righteous considers how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.

New Heart English Bible
The heart of the righteous weighs answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes out evil.

 

[Penioni Verenakadavu]

In the name of Jesus I pray over this request. God help us to understand Mathew 6:33 and John 3:16.

I pray that you'll attend to our needs as we desire your mighty hand.

In the name of Jesus I pray, Amen!!

 

[Penioni Verenakadavu]

Jeremiah 33:3 KJV

Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.

In the name of Jesus. God will deliver as promise. Amen!

 

[CanaanA]

It sounds like there is not a good response, given your scenario. Sometimes silence and simply being with the person may be enough. I believe, though, that if you rely on Jesus, the correct words will be given to you at the moment.

 

[Penioni Verenakadavu]

This is not just a curiosity question, but I have actually been in this situation a few times. We[believers} pay a call on the survivors of a{by all indications}unsaved person, and the survivor, being unsaved themselves, state,"I "know" she{persons mother,etc.} is in a better place now.{They likely say that to comfort themselves,make themselves feel better.}But we, as believers, know that, if the person died unsaved, they are NOT in a better place.Now, here's the thing--we, as Christians, are to"rejoice with those who rejoice, mourn with those that mourn." {Also, to give comfort}. Now, it wouldn't be very "comforting" ,when someone says that , to blurt out,"Look, your loved one is {likely, barring a deathbed confession}in Hell, and headed to the Lake of Fire to be tormented forever and ever."It sounds insensitive for a "loving Christian" to say it that way. On the other hand, though, we can't agree to a lie. If they believe a lie, the Bible also says don't lie, so we can't very well just lie to them for comfort and say, "Yes, your loved one who {likely} died unsaved is in Heaven.The Bible is wrong."We don't want to agree with a lie. SOOO....wisdom--how do we get the balance,the loving spirit, yet not lying to comfort them?So far, I pretty much was just like, said nothing, but figured ,leave it up to God.What would you do?{Remember, I'm not the one bringing up the subject, it's them.}

TELL THE TRUTH LIKE THE WAY IT IS - THE TRUTH.

We are all human we have emotions and I understand what you meant. But you must remember that if you truly loves someone you would do anything to protect your loved ones even though if the truth hurts.

Proverbs 23:13‭-‬14 KJV

Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

Did you know that your faith is also been tested in similar circumstance, you're holding the truth been told by letting your emotions in a way which is understandable form human perspective but it is not right in God's eyes.

If you truly born again Christian and a beliver of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. You won't be offended in such circumstance in voicing the truth and not withholding your spirit from speaking the truth when you know it's not right but at the same time you got that feelings issue.

Remember Matthew 16:24‭-‬25 KJV

Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it.

The emphasis here "DENY HIMSELF" it's not according to your human emotions but let God's word speak the way as it is - the TRUTH.

You are no longer living for yourself but you're living for Christ in your human flesh. Everything else is secondary but Jesus is first in everything in your life that's even mean emotions, so just live according to the bible.

Read: 1 Corinthians 6:19‭-‬20 KJV

What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

For such situation the best way, bring it God through prayer. Pray about it and read the bible.

Than talk to your local pastor if it's really bothers you alot.

Prayer and fasting helps, pray for God to give you the Spirit of Wisdom and the Spirit of God will lead you to the answers you seek.

My take on this circumstance is: - I'll put it in this perspective to give a bit clarity.

When I am face with a life threating health concerns, we must not be ashamed to get medical advise or consultation regarding our health from Doctors. Going to doctors doesn't mean you're jeopardise your faith in God - this is totally wrong kind of mentality.

In such circumstance it's alright to been more towards on emotional Intellegent but remember the message of salvation the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

When it's the right the time, than approach those family members who are not save and lead them to the bible.

Remember the privillage given to us mankind - "PRAYER" . Alot prayer on your part is needed, if you're serious about it. Fasting and prayer really helps. Ask those relatives of yours/ friends to accompany to church on Sundays.

God will give the answer you seek. Pray about it.

Matthew 7:7‭-‬8 KJV
Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.


Let's Pray,

Heavenly Father I lift up this situation up in your mighty throne of grace. Sometimes we human are faced with such dilemma in our Christian Walk.

Lord give us the Spirit of Wisdom to decern how we deal with our lives daily as human beings and at the same time to live for you Christ Jesus with all faithfulness.

Your word says give to ceaser what is ceaser and to God what is God's. Mighty Lord Jesus at times it may not easy as it seems, in such situation we pray that you'll help us to find the way to get through. Help us out of such situation and also to reach out without offending others but if it's right with thee than so be it. Give us the courage and the confidence in Christ Jesus to deal with such situations in our lives.

For your word says in Zechariah 4:6 says - Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the Lord of hosts.

Lord Jesus I pray for other Christians out there who may faced with similar situation, in the name of Jesus we pray for your mighty hand Heavenly Farther to intervene and help us on how to act, how to behave, the words to say.

Lord Jesus I pray that you'll strengthen our prayer life and bible study that we be equip by your words and that we may give ready an answer when required, and to stand against in the evil day.

We give you the Glory and Honour. Let your name be praise oh Holy God. In the name of Jesus we pray. Amen!.

 

[NeedToCancelAccount]

My mother just died on Easter Sunday in April. I would like to think that she's in a better place and wouldn't want to judge her at this point in time. It's all I can do.

 

[Arthurington]

My father also died a couple years ago and he was an elder of the church. A lot of people mourned and still remember him for what he did in the congregation. He loved to pray for the lost and many believed but those who rejected Jesus and did not get saved then, they are in hell. There is no purgatory to get them out from there. Purgatory is fiction of unsaved peoples minds. Jesus never ever mentioned purgatory.

 

[Allreed]

In any situation you may be found to be in, give glory to God almighty for giving you the opportunity to share Jesus with the lost. If anyone is in pain and lost a loved one, then pray for them and ask Jesus for comfort.

 

[SisterEvelynn]

I mourn with those who mourn and share my feeling with the lost and those who need Jesus. Just be an arm and a hand to those who are suffering and all alone in this world.