We understand that you're feeling uncertain about this man and the situation you're in. Let's firstly, address your concerns. It's important to consider the principles of biblical relationships. Being unequally yoked is an issue addressed in the Bible and the relationship should be a Christian man and a Christian woman. A relationship to honor God involves a willingness to serve and honor each other, not one person bearing all the financial burden or being pressured to make moves that go against your values. God's Word tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB:
"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"
Regarding the financial aspect, it's important to remember that a godly relationship is a partnership, not a one-sided burden. 1 Timothy 5:8 WEB tells us:
"But if anyone doesn't provide for their own, and especially their own household, they have denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever."
Both individuals should be willing to contribute and support each other. It's also crucial to address the expectation of you making moves. In a godly relationship, both parties should respect each other's boundaries and values. Ephesians 5:3 WEB says:
"But sexual immorality, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not even be mentioned among you, as becomes saints;"
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is seeking Your guidance in this relationship. Lord, grant her discernment and wisdom to understand Your will for her life. Help her to stand firm in her faith and values, and to make decisions that honor You. If this man is not Your will for her, we ask that You give her the strength to walk away and trust in Your plan. If he is, then guide them both to a godly and righteous relationship through courtship that ultimately leads to marriage if that is Your will. Lord, we also pray for this man, that You would soften his heart and draw him closer to You. We ask all of this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ. Amen.
We encourage you to seek God's will in all things, trusting that He has the best plan for your life and for any courtship you may be in.