Things are rocky again although have been ok since I last ...

[Irwethen]

Things have been ok since I last challenged my man-friend. We settled down and he continued to want to see me. However this last week when we were out for a walk, a woman rang him. Normally he says who is phoning, although he doesn't have to and I don't ask, but this time he lowered the volume, said he was out on a walk and would "send it over later" and terminated the call. He didn't say who it was, got very nervous and unusually chatty and tried to change the subject. I said nothing but carried on as normal. I assumed he was either worried about my reaction to the call and a possible rejection from me, or there was something going on he didn't want me to know about. He was also clearly upset because I wasn't coming to the evening dinner on Monday evening; he used to pay for me in the past but more recently we have been paying for our own meals. The cost has gone up a lot and I get digestive issues if I eat late evening, so I told him this was why and he said "fair enough". However, I am getting fed up of always paying for my own meals out AND providing tea in a flask and cake because he is so tight with money (except at Christmas and on my birthday). He has stopped taking me out with 2 other friends we used to dine with when he would pay for both of us. I am getting fed up with being pursued for a friendship that is going nowhere (not that I am looking for marriage) as seeing each other every week is quite a high time commitment for me. Today I asked him if he was upset I was not going with him to the dinner, but he replied he was ok about that, so I remarked I assumed the phone call from the woman was about him sending the menu for the evening dinner to another woman who would like to go and added "perhaps she can afford it (unless a guest)". The call may have been from another lady who goes regularly to the dinner and wanting a lift/menu and possibly paying for herself, BUT after the way he pursues me and to some extent likes to control, I would find it very difficult indeed if he is taking another woman to this dinner AND paying for her simply because I am now standing up for myself and not going merely to keep him happy. He may not be doing that, but this relationship is not helping me to be stable and from time to time I get a strong inclination to move (apart from the noise problem) which would mean leaving my fellowship. No-one I have counselled with seems to object to a friendship, but it would be hard to stay in this area if we broke up. I am not sure what to think of this, but so far today I have not had any response to my suggestion that I have assumed he is sending the menu to another lady who may be going with him to the dinner (and possibly paying for). Unless he is busy, he has not denied it. PLEASE PRAY FOR ANY HIDDEN WORKS OF DARKNESS TO COME TO LIGHT AND FOR THE TRUTH TO COME OUT AND FOR ALL DECEPTION TO BE BROKEN. I have asked the Lord to remove him from my life if he gets into any immoral behaviour or pursues other women behind my back and have left things in His hands. Please pray the Lord's will be done and that if nothing is wrong, and it was merely fear of rejection coming from him, trust will be restored. It is very hard seeing someone week after week who wants to keep me on a string for his convenience mostly. I am not sure whether I am dealing with a narcissist but he does have some mental issues, possibly OCD. I don't mind, but infidelity or emotional abuse would be deal-breakers in which case I would probably want to move and that could be difficult to share with the church. I don't know my housegroups leaders very well but generally they are very supportive people. My manfriend lives two streets away. Thanks for letting me vent today. I just don't feel I can share this with anyone here at the moment. Sorry this is so long. I am not sure whether I am being manipulated by witchcraft.

 

[Graskara]

Things have been ok since I last challenged my man-friend. We settled down and he continued to want to see me. However this last week when we were out for a walk, a woman rang him. Normally he says who is phoning, although he doesn't have to and I don't ask, but this time he lowered the volume, said he was out on a walk and would "send it over later" and terminated the call. He didn't say who it was, got very nervous and unusually chatty and tried to change the subject. I said nothing but carried on as normal. I assumed he was either worried about my reaction to the call and a possible rejection from me, or there was something going on he didn't want me to know about. He was also clearly upset because I wasn't coming to the evening dinner on Monday evening; he used to pay for me in the past but more recently we have been paying for our own meals. The cost has gone up a lot and I get digestive issues if I eat late evening, so I told him this was why and he said "fair enough". However, I am getting fed up of always paying for my own meals out AND providing tea in a flask and cake because he is so tight with money (except at Christmas and on my birthday). He has stopped taking me out with 2 other friends we used to dine with when he would pay for both of us. I am getting fed up with being pursued for a friendship that is going nowhere (not that I am looking for marriage) as seeing each other every week is quite a high time commitment for me. Today I asked him if he was upset I was not going with him to the dinner, but he replied he was ok about that, so I remarked I assumed the phone call from the woman was about him sending the menu for the evening dinner to another woman who would like to go and added "perhaps she can afford it (unless a guest)". The call may have been from another lady who goes regularly to the dinner and wanting a lift/menu and possibly paying for herself, BUT after the way he pursues me and to some extent likes to control, I would find it very difficult indeed if he is taking another woman to this dinner AND paying for her simply because I am now standing up for myself and not going merely to keep him happy. He may not be doing that, but this relationship is not helping me to be stable and from time to time I get a strong inclination to move (apart from the noise problem) which would mean leaving my fellowship. No-one I have counselled with seems to object to a friendship, but it would be hard to stay in this area if we broke up. I am not sure what to think of this, but so far today I have not had any response to my suggestion that I have assumed he is sending the menu to another lady who may be going with him to the dinner (and possibly paying for). Unless he is busy, he has not denied it. PLEASE PRAY FOR ANY HIDDEN WORKS OF DARKNESS TO COME TO LIGHT AND FOR THE TRUTH TO COME OUT AND FOR ALL DECEPTION TO BE BROKEN. I have asked the Lord to remove him from my life if he gets into any immoral behaviour or pursues other women behind my back and have left things in His hands. Please pray the Lord's will be done and that if nothing is wrong, and it was merely fear of rejection coming from him, trust will be restored. It is very hard seeing someone week after week who wants to keep me on a string for his convenience mostly. I am not sure whether I am dealing with a narcissist but he does have some mental issues, possibly OCD. I don't mind, but infidelity or emotional abuse would be deal-breakers in which case I would probably want to move and that could be difficult to share with the church. I don't know my housegroups leaders very well but generally they are very supportive people. My manfriend lives two streets away. Thanks for letting me vent today. I just don't feel I can share this with anyone here at the moment. Sorry this is so long. I am not sure whether I am being manipulated by witchcraft.

Heavenly Father,

Please let Irwethen find peace. Please breathe your safety into their life. Heavenly Father please don’t let evil powers influence their relationship, thoughts, or life. In Jesus’s name. Amen.

 

[Articles]

Heavenly Father, we come to You in prayer on behalf of Irwethen. We ask that You would give her peace and clarity of mind in this situation. We pray that You would give her wisdom to know how to handle the situation and discernment to know if it is something she needs to be concerned about. We pray that You would protect her heart and her relationship with her man-friend. We ask that You would give her the courage to speak up and ask questions if she needs to. We pray that You would give her the strength to trust You and Your plan for her life. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

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[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Irwethen]

UPDATE next morning. I sent a text this morning to ask him why, when we were out for a walk, he had behaved as if he had something to hide when a woman rang. He replied, "it's nothing for you to worry about". When I pressed him further he repeated "nothing". I am not sure whether this means "there really is nothing" or "mind your own business". I told him I felt he was being very secretive and that he obviously had something to hide otherwise why was it a problem just to say what was going on. There may be nothing going on and he is a private person but I am not sure I can live with secrecy - there needs to be accountability at some level. I have blocked his cell phone number now although he still has my landline to ring up and come clean. I will not be making him high priority in my life now. If he talks to his house group leader I suspect he will take his side and suggest I have problems with insecurity, lack of trust and maybe jealousy and control all "inappropriate" of course for a "casual friendship". I am unsure but this man is the one who has had affairs behind our backs in the past and he is not easy to trust. He is the one pursuing me for my time, energy (and free tea and cakes as he is super stingy) every week in the name of "friendship only", got clingy recently when I asked him why his ex-lover's name was still on his cell phone and if they were in contact, and he thinks he is entitled to do whatever he likes while he strings me along and uses me as a convenience. He may be on the autistic spectrum but there must be accountability at some level. I'm sure it's not all due to my insecurity, lack of trust, jealousy and control. What a terrible and difficult person I must be to keep company with!!!! ... Or is the truth this is emotional abuse pure and simple and that I am maybe dealing with a couple of narcissistic gaslighting jerks who hide behind a veneer of false spirituality and don't take responsibility. I am confused and would be grateful for prayer for DISCERNMENT. I don't know my own house group leaders very well but have opened up the situation to them for accountability as I could be in a situation of abuse and control. My manfriend lives two streets away so I am considering moving. Let them say what they want about me, I will keep the peace, brush the dust of my feet, let the Lord deal with the lot of them and go my way rejoicing. I have no doubt an open, honest genuine christian will have no problem being accountable to me, being genuinely concerned about my feelings and needs as well as his own, and inspire trust in me rather than suspicion and jealousy, and a decent man would probably not string me along either but have a conscience about taking up my time and energy and putting me in a vulnerable position emotionally. This is not all about me. I think I would be well advised to stay away from that whole ministry - my own church feels a lot healthier. Thank you for giving me space to vent and think this through in a safe space today.

 

[Elvis Patrick]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

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