The Sin of desire please be aware of sensitive content

[Anonymous]

Hello, before I continue can I say there is deeply personal and sensitive material in this post and some may find it triggering. Please pray for a clean heart and mind or whatever is best before reading.

I am coming to you as a married man with children who is having sexual problems. My sexual awakening came at 13, feeling intense emotions and sexual desire for an older woman who acted as a carer for me and the family I stayed with whilst on holiday. When I came back from holiday I began to fantasise about this woman and this led to my first orgasm as a boy. Once I discovered I could please myself in this way I continued, often. Later on at secondary school I was introduced to pornography by classmates and found myself indulging in this throughout my teenage years, twenties, thirties until very recently.

I am now trying to escape pornography and build a more intimate relationship with my wife. It is difficult, perhaps we both have blocks?

Having young children means we can’t always find time. And sometimes our behaviour towards each other is alienating.

I think we are both dealing with psychological and perhaps spiritual challenges that prevent us from knowing each other better.

Since I have stopped watching pornography over a month ago. I have struggled with my identity and desire. I used sexuality to feel strong and powerful. I loved being desirable and I flirted. Innnocently I thought but perhaps not. I like looking good and I like looking at others who looked good. Saying “beauty is nice it does not need to lead to sex, but it is indeed nice to be attractive”

I feel the need to masturbate and experience sexual release and confirm my sexuality in a way that doesn’t involve anyone else. Since I can’t always be with my wife. But I feel guilty and think sex should only be with my wife.


I have also had a vasectomy so I cannot reproduce through sex anymore.

I am struggling. Often when I do work or exercise or manual labour I feel strong and powerful and want a “reward”. I feel so overcome with desire and my need to release it. That I struggle not to.

I am not sure entirely of all my problems on this issue as I am ignorant and have never really spoken about it before. So I don’t know all the factors at play.

It is difficult, I have tried cold showers, etc, but still my desire remains.

 

[Articles]

We understand that you are dealing with deeply personal and sensitive issues, and we appreciate your courage in reaching out. First and foremost, we want to remind you that it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to God. As it is written in Acts 4:12 WEB:

There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved.

Let us pray together for your situation.

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before you in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this brother who is struggling with sexual desire and the effects of his past. We pray for your forgiveness and healing in his life, and we ask that you guide him and his wife towards a deeper, more intimate relationship that honors you.

Father, we rebuke the spirit of lust and pornography that has been at work in his life. We pray that you would break the chains of addiction and give him the strength to resist temptation. We ask that you would help him to see his wife as you see her, as a beautiful and precious gift, and that you would draw them closer together.

We pray also for his wife, that you would give her patience, understanding, and wisdom as they navigate this challenging time together. We ask that you would heal any hurts or resentments that may have arisen between them, and that you would help them to communicate openly and honestly with one another.

Father, we pray for this brother's identity, that he would find his strength and power in you alone, and not in his sexuality or his ability to attract others. We ask that you would help him to see himself as you see him, as a beloved son, fearfully and wonderfully made.

We pray for his struggles with masturbation, that you would give him the grace and self-control to resist this temptation. We ask that you would help him to see that his body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, and that he should honor you with his body.

Father, we pray for this brother's vasectomy, that you would heal any emotional or psychological wounds that may have resulted from this procedure. We ask that you would help him to see that his value as a man is not determined by his ability to reproduce, but by his character and his relationship with you.

We pray for this brother's struggles with desire, that you would give him the power to overcome temptation. We ask that you would help him to see that his reward is in you alone, and not in the fulfillment of his desires.

Father, we pray for this brother's ignorance, that you would give him wisdom and understanding as he seeks to overcome these struggles. We ask that you would guide him to the resources and support he needs to heal and grow. And we ask you to minister to his heart and mind, to make him new.

We pray all of this in the name of Jesus Christ, who died on the cross for our sins and rose again so that we might have life abundant.

Amen.

We encourage you to meditate on the following scriptures as you seek to overcome these struggles:

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 WEB:

Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don't you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's.

Matthew 5:27-28 WEB:

You have heard that it was said, You shall not commit adultery; but I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart.

1 Corinthians 10:13 WEB:

No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

James 4:7-8 WEB:

Be subject therefore to God. But resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you.

Finally, we want to remind you that you are not alone in your struggles. Many men and women have faced similar challenges and found healing and restoration through the power of Jesus Christ. We encourage you to seek out a trusted Christian counselor or pastor who can provide you with additional support and guidance as you seek to overcome these struggles.

 

[hostadmin]

Hey there,

We're right here with you, brother. We understand that this journey isn't easy, but we're in this together. We've been praying for you, and we want to remind you of a few things that have been on our hearts.

First, remember that God sees you, He knows your struggles, and He's right there with you, every step of the way. As it says in Psalm 147:3, "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." He's not keeping score, He's not shaming you, He's just waiting to heal and restore.

We also want to encourage you to keep communicating openly with your wife. It's so important to be honest about what you're feeling and what you're struggling with. Remember, she's your partner, and you're in this together. As it says in Ephesians 4:15, "speak the truth in love."

Lastly, we want to remind you that your identity is in Christ. You're not defined by your struggles or your past. You're a beloved son of God, fearfully and wonderfully made. As it says in 2 Corinthians 5:17, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come."

Keep fighting, brother. We're cheering you on, and we're here to pray with you. Let's keep lifting each other up, in Jesus' name.

 

[flora]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


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Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”

 

[hostadmin]

We continue to lift you and your family up in prayer, especially regarding the intimate aspects of your marriage that you shared with us. We are grateful that you have allowed us the privilege to intercede on your behalf, standing in agreement with you in prayer.

If you have seen improvements in your marriage and personal life, we would be blessed to hear about it. Please share a praise report with us, as your victories encourage us all. If you are still struggling, do not be disheartened. We want you to know that you are not alone in your battle against temptation and the effects of past experiences.

We urge you to keep persevering and to post an updated prayer request, so we can continue to support you in prayer. As you walk this journey, may you find comfort and strength in the promises of God. His word assures us that there is no temptation that has overtaken us except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it ( 1 Corinthians 10:13).

May the Lord continue to bless you and your family. We pray for your marriage to flourish, for your hearts to be renewed, and for your minds to be transformed by the power of the Holy Spirit. May the love of God fill you and your spouse, breaking down barriers, and allowing you to experience intimacy at a level you have not known before.

We pray this all in Jesus Name.

 

[KDDS]

I have seen improvement thank you. I am less angry my children are talking more. I still need to know god loves me. My mind races a lot I have anxiety, restlessness, overthinking, depression, worries about my future. The desire to live in the world and enjoy it but also not too much and please God. I struggle with this. How to be a disciple, but still love your fellow human and life. Does one have to sacrifice “earthly life” and go and dedicate oneself 100 to scripture, spirit etc or can one be happy in the world. Have peace, do earthly things, watch tv, laugh etc. If you know what I mean?