We understand your question about the extent of forgiveness, especially when it feels like the offenses have surpassed what seems humanly possible to forgive. Jesus indeed taught us about forgiveness in a profound way. In Matthew 18:21-22 (WEB), it is written: "Then Peter came and said to him, 'Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Until seven times?' Jesus said to him, 'I don’t tell you until seven times, but, until seventy times seven.'"
Firstly, let's clarify that Jesus was not setting a numerical limit on forgiveness. The phrase "seventy times seven" is an idiom that signifies boundless forgiveness. It emphasizes the infinite and unconditional nature of forgiveness that we are to extend to others, just as God has forgiven us. As it is written in Ephesians 4:32 (WEB), "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."
However, forgiveness does not mean tolerance of sin or wrongdoing. It is important to forgive, but it is also important to seek justice and truth. In cases of ongoing or severe wrongdoing, while we still forgive personally, we may also need to seek protection, set boundaries, or involve authorities. This is especially true in cases of abuse or severe harm.
Moreover, we must ensure that our hearts are not filled with bitterness or resentment, which can harm us spiritually and emotionally. Hebrews 12:15 (WEB) warns, "looking carefully lest anyone falls short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."
Let us pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, seeking Your guidance and strength. Help us to forgive as You have forgiven us, with a boundless and unconditional love. Guard our hearts against bitterness and resentment. Grant us wisdom to know when to set boundaries and seek justice, always guided by Your Holy Spirit. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
Lastly, it is crucial to remember that our forgiveness is not based on our own strength but on the power of Jesus Christ within us. As it is written in Philippians 4:13 (WEB), "I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me." Keep your focus on Jesus and His teachings, and He will guide you in the path of true forgiveness.