Struggling with my marriage

[Flodearen]

I’m asking for help and prayers with my marriage. For the past 3yrs now my husband is consistently rude and disrespectful towards me. Verbally abusive and hurtful. I always remain calm, loving and supportive during these outbursts. And apologize for whatever I’ve done to upset him. I have been praying and praying to God in Jesus name to soften his heart and fill it with kindness towards me. However, now I’m completely heartbroken. I just discovered today he’s been contacting his ex-wife as well. A women that caused him so much pain, suffering and financial loss during their marriage of 13yrs and divorce 14 yrs ago. I feel he is still in love with her and hates being married to me. I’m at a loss.

 

[Articles]

We are truly heartbroken to hear about the struggles you are facing in your marriage. It is never God's will for husbands to be rude, disrespectful, or verbally abusive. The Bible tells us that husbands are to love their wives just as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). This is a high standard, demonstrating the sanctity and commitment that God places on the marriage covenant. The treatment you are experiencing is not acceptable according to God's Word.

It is commendable that you have remained calm, loving, and supportive, but it is important to understand that no one should endure consistent abuse or disrespect. Your husband's actions are not only harmful to you but also contrary to God's design for marriage.

God's Word tells us to "be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another" (Romans 12:10). Marriage is a reflection of Christ's love for the church. We must ensure that our relationships mirror this divine love and respect. We advise you to seek help, consider marriage counseling from a Christian counselor.

First, let's address your response to his outbursts. In addressing the situation, there is no place to apologize for whatever you have done. If you have done nothing to upset him, then it is not right to take responsibility for his outbursts. This is the right thing to do, but it does not mean to compromise your dignity or self-respect.

Regarding your husband contacting his ex-wife, this is a serious breach of trust and a potential violation of your marriage vows. The Bible warns us against looking back once we have set our hands to the plow (Luke 9:62). It is crucial to address this issue openly, there is no mention of asking him to stop contacting her or forgive him. This may involve seeking counsel from a pastor or a trusted Christian mentor. The goal is to find out why he feels the need to contact his ex-wife and whether there are underlying issues in his heart that need to be addressed.

If he is in love with her, the Bible teaches that we must focus on the Lord Jesus Christ and him only. He must decide whether he will submit to God's will or continue down the path of disobedience and hurt. This is all part of the African Violet and other tests points required to marry and be sure we are not unequally yoked together with an unbeliever. We suggest that you covered everything in prayer but you did not mention that the prayers were in Jesus name. Please mention that you are praying in Jesus name. This is also an opportunity to share the gospel message with you.

The basic message of salvation is simple and clear. As believers, we understand that it is only through Jesus Christ that we can be saved and reconciled to God. The Bible makes this clear in John 3:16: "For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life." We are saved by grace, through faith in Jesus Christ (Ephesians 2:8-9), and there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12).

Let us pray for you: Heavenly Father, we come before You in prayer in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister in her time of need. We pray for healing and restoration in her relationship and marriage. We surrender her concerns to You. Soften her husband's heart, Lord, and fill him with Your love and kindness. Help him to see the error of his ways and guide him back to the path of righteousness. Lord, we pray for forgiveness of this situation and reconciliation of this marriage. As you hate divorce, this is not the way you want this situation to end. God, we pray that You will protect the sanctity of their marriage and that she will find peace, comfort, and wisdom in You. Give her the strength to endure and the courage to take the necessary steps to address the challenges she is facing. Lord, in accordance with your will and in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, in the Spirit of God rest and abide with you.

 

[hostadmin]

Oh, dear sister, our hearts ache for you as you navigate this storm in your marriage. We're here, standing with you, lifting you up in prayer. We know it's tough, but remember, you're not alone. God sees you, He hears you, and He's right there with you.

We've been praying for you, asking God to soften your husband's heart, to fill him with kindness and understanding. We've been asking God to give you strength, wisdom, and patience. We've been praying that your husband would see the error of his ways and turn back to the path of righteousness. We've been praying for your marriage, that it would be restored, healed, and made strong.

But we want to encourage you, dear one. It's not your fault. You can't control your husband's actions, but you can control how you respond. Keep being the loving, supportive, and calm wife you've been. But also, remember to take care of yourself. You deserve respect and kindness, and it's not okay for you to endure constant abuse or disrespect.

We're also concerned about your husband's contact with his ex-wife. It's important to address this openly and honestly, with the help of a trusted pastor or Christian mentor. This isn't about blame or accusation, but about understanding and healing. It's about finding out why he feels the need to contact her and how you can both move forward together.

And remember, dear sister, God is in control. He's working all things together for your good, according to His purpose. Trust in Him. Lean on Him. He's got you, and He's got your marriage.

Let's keep praying together, shall we? "Heavenly Father, we come before You, lifting up our sister... [Continue praying in Jesus' name]"

We're here for you, sister. Keep fighting, keep trusting, and keep praying. You're not alone.

 

[Brother James]

I’m asking for help and prayers with my marriage. For the past 3yrs now my husband is consistently rude and disrespectful towards me. Verbally abusive and hurtful. I always remain calm, loving and supportive during these outbursts. And apologize for whatever I’ve done to upset him. I have been praying and praying for God to soften his heart and fill it with kindness towards me. However, now I’m completely heartbroken. I just discovered he’s been contacting his ex-wife as well. A women that caused him so much pain, suffering and financial loss during their marriage of 13yrs and divorce 14 yrs ago. I feel he is still in love with her and hates being married to me. I’m at a loss

Praying for you and your marriage in Jesus. Did you know that there are promises for our marriages that we can claim in Jesus over ourselves, our spouses, our children and our relationships found in the book of Hosea?

Do you Believe Jesus died for our sins, is Risen from the dead, is Preparing a place for us and is about to call us to join Him?

Are you watching for Jesus in the Clouds of Glory? Jesus is about to call us to join Him!

We can do everything Jesus did and more! We can speak; sickness leave in Jesus! Be healed by Jesus stripes! I am healed by Jesus stripes! Amen! Thank You Lord Jesus!

You can copy and paste this to pray every day and share...

There is nothing that happens for us that is bad. All things work for our good in Jesus! Look at everything as good!

Sing through out your days Thank You Jesus, Praise You Jesus, Glory to You Lord Jesus or anything that is on your heart to sing to Jesus! It doesn't matter how we sound, Angels will join in with us and Jesus will join in with us as well as fight for us, knock down walls for us, open locks for us, save people for us, evil will flee from us, He heals us and He will over flow His Holy Peace in us.

Praying for others on here and reading your Bible will help you tremendously.

I wanted to commit suicide once, I even came up with a plan. Right before I headed out the door I posted a prayer on here and hoping there might be help from God one last time I opened the Bible and only read take no thought for your life. I read that before at least 100 times but never really could understand how. This time I took it to heart, all right God I will end my life by not thinking about it. I take no thought, I take no thought, I take no thought over and over and over again I take no thought was my only thought that day. All of a sudden I noticed something, Jesus showed up, all my pains were gone, no neck ache, no back pain, no leg pain from many many accidents I had over the years and no pain in my heart as my wife had left me. I started singing praises and thanks to Jesus and my life has never been the same. It is our obedience to God from His Holy Instructions that makes a difference to His Power of His Promises in our lives.

Be a doer of Jesus friend, it really makes a difference! Thank You Lord Jesus!

Search the Bible for Jesus' Promises friend, do them and claim them in Jesus! Amen! Thank You Lord Jesus!

Powerful healing promise hidden in Proverbs 3:7-8, I am not wise in my own eyes, I fear You Lord, I depart from evil, especially my own evil thoughts and my flesh is healed and my body is refreshed in Jesus.

Praying for others especially in your situation will help you tremendously in yours friend.

Take no thought for your life dear friend and Jesus will take thought for you. Sing praises and thanks to Jesus and He will overflow His Holy Spirit in you and so much more. He will fight for you and give you the desires of your heart.

Pray this prayer look up the verses and pray it again with your friends and family and let's mount up with wings as eagles and soar. Soar with me.

Let Us Pray: God I ask in Jesus' name, bless me to grow closer to You. I long for a more intimate relationship with You. God I take You at Your Word, if I will draw closer to You, You will draw closer to me (James 4:8). Show me how to draw closer to You. Bless me daily to cast off and forsake my thoughts and ways for my life, and exchange them for Your thoughts and ways for my life. Let me think Your thoughts and dream Your dreams for my life. God bless me to live and walk in Your love, mercy and forgiveness (Isaiah 55:7). I confess, I will take no thought for my life. I will trust You Father God to take thought for me and take care of me (Mathew 6:25-34). I will not be wise in my own eyes, I will fear You Lord and depart from evil and my flesh will be healed and my body will be refreshed (Proverbs 3:7-8) daily. Thank You Jesus for Your Promises! Lord make me the Child of God You need me to be in Christ for all those around me and for the world to see (Psalms 128:3). Not by my might, nor by my power, but by Your Spirt Christ Jesus (Zechariah 4:6) this shall happen. And it will happen, it is happening now in Your timing, Power, Strength, Might, and Spirit, Christ Jesus. God all that I have asked of you in this prayer please do the same for all those I love, care about, and every faithful prayer warrior on this site. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You Lord Jesus, my Savior and Lord for answering this prayer with a Yes and Amen.

Bless us to sing praises and thanks to You Lord Jesus so You can fill us with the wine of the Spirit in Jesus Name, Amen.

 

[Coronth]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Tearsfromtheheart]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Glogaria]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Cinu]

Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)


sermons

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleansed me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager Linda Flagg, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.