strife with robbie and shannon, now fornication and cheating, now i am lost!

[lovesjesus7]

  separated with strife with shannon after  her mom dying of cancer and still together in the house but things have changed

Update Dec-9 ..I was courting her we were getting along, things were working and holding and she said maybe we might get back together.. But then I noticed a 360 she was pulling back-and-forth and when I did come over certain nights I noticed there was beer bottles in the trash and somebody's toothbrush and she doesn't drink beer and she doesn't drink much at all.  And I notice she has been getting text at two in the morning while I'm laying there next to her with our daughter ,I had a feeling somebody has been going there at night at times and then sneaking out when I got there in the morning ..One night I came over she didn't  answer the door or answer my call. Because she told me she was not going to be home that night but I noticed the lights were on so I stop bye as I usually do,she does not have blinds and I saw my daughter 1year old  by herself in a room , so I assumed she was doing laundry well when I went to that window there's an extra bed in there,  and there were pillows blocking the window and I thought that was strange so I went to the other window ..she was having sex with a guy ,That's why she was pulling back-and-forth what type a guy is going to sneak in at night and bring liquor  around my daughter and try to get a m0m in bed and  do that to my family !!!and he knows i am there by all my things is why he was sneaking in..he was grooming her the whole time! he finally won is why the pillows were on the window for the first time!!  what kind of woman at 37 years old a teacher and a mom would do something so disgusting like that while my daughter is also in the house.  While I'm doing the laundry cooking food ,repairing things in the house  taking her out for dinner given her roses given her back rubs like I used to do. And she's  sneaks around like that and doing that to me and a mom with a child in the house I was disgusted and I started crying .she was sneaking around with this guy on Sunday nights sometimes I wasn't there because i see in the trash beers bottles and she dont drink beer and rarely drinks is why he brinks liquor!!  and he finally got her in bed by being in her ear on texting every night!.. I'm shocked that she would do something like this it's not even in her character .maybe she needed to feel something else besides being depressed ?but still the next day she just lied to me and made up more lies and I told her I know I saw.and i looked in the trash you put outside of the bottle of wine and the beers and she said she drank them all and i said no you didnt and you would be drunk me coming home and i see the new two wine glasses with wine in it! and she said i used the two glasses ..just lies and lies. I said I could forgive her if she turns from her sin and she gets with God i will forgive her and tried to tell her you are on road of destruction and this leads to no where!. she just ignored me and and made up all the lies & i said we have a child together and you  want to to be in this un ungodly acts and your not even in a relationship with him! i barley get a hug and all i do and he just has sex with you and i am sick of what you did and cried in front of her and she walked away and i said it's going to lead to nowhere!!!you can get pregnant it's going to put you in hell! Diseases ! This guy brings liquor at late nights around my daughter ! Sneaks in and just to get you in bed ! That's evil ! and hes evil!  Your a mom and a teacher ! She got real  angry and told me to leave and said take your bible also. So I guess ill just watch my daughter and say nothing to her , but going to be hard being in there knowing what she did..i dont know how to act around her now? or what to say? how can she do this to me and our daughter ? all her students look up to her and believes in god ,i guess not ! but at the same time I've been super depressed I haven't eaten for week .. I've been crying constantly and laying on the floor very sick and no energy and I can't get those images out of my head what she did and lies and me loving her so much.. I beg for God to help me but I can't get it out of my head and I can't get out of this depression torments me all day and all night and all I do is sleep and cry and keep waking up from my mind and when I go to work I am crying I don't know what to do? I've called out to god help my mind ..this happen last Sunday . I get in the bible and sleep with it because the pain and my thoughts and heart and just cry and throw up .i sent scripture and she texted I don't want preaching!!and get your bible out of here ! She is so angry and yelling and I did Nothing ! You think she would feel sorry For me out of guilt! but I am in dark alot crying and church doesn't help . Fainting. Depression . I guess God isn't going To restore our family and having sex With that evil guy ,it's flesh tied and doubt she gets with God and stop that Ungodly acts with him and i am under dark emotional pain and cant stop crying and getting sick and on the holidays is so worse.

robbie

 

[Rick Conard]

My God bless you amen.

 

[Bill hinshaw]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen. The relationship is in a delay due to the pull of the flesh. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak; no preaching will convince someone who is still minding the pleasures of the flesh; it brings immediate gratification but it's artificial and temporary and the Holy Spirit and the goodness of God is what will bring one to repentance it's not on our time table but one who is witnessing this tearing of the heart should pray for God to deliver from the torment and God can do the impossible, Matthew 19:26, " with man this is impossible but with God all things are possible."

 

[BlessMeFatherGod]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[lovesjesus7]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen. The relationship is in a delay due to the pull of the flesh. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak; no preaching will convince someone who is still minding the pleasures of the flesh; it brings immediate gratification but it's artificial and temporary and the Holy Spirit and the goodness of God is what will bring one to repentance it's not on our time table but one who is witnessing this tearing of the heart should pray for God to deliver from the torment and God can do the impossible, Matthew 19:26, " with man this is impossible but with God all things are possible."

what prayer should i pray over her? and how do i act around her? or what to say?

 

[Bill hinshaw]

Umm as I look to the established Word of God, I was made to understand we as His followers have to know we should look at the eternal scope of life; the 2 things that are eternal along with God are people and his Word. The convincing fashion you reveal to her will cause her to sit up and take notice; I understand that ones who are enticed are led away by their own lusts; believe it, it has nothing to do with you. That is a hard statement, but God looks on each of us as a stand alone being. So, your faithfulness to the relationship is what is called for. God seeks to always reconcile and as His children we too shoud seek to reconcile, and in the marriage covenant it is a established fact that God will intervene and pull you two back into each other's arms, where you both belong. He has to, its His nature. So the thing is to put forth the love you have for her, its not to be thought that if I do, then she will do. Some of us are so far down the ladder of our carnality lifestyle that we usually have deaden our spiritual ears to God's word, God's voice. Believe it that you are speaking already to your situation, the criteria is to always seek out God first, in this rebellion which has grief stricken you. God views Israel as His wife, so believe it God knows what you are experiencing. Read this passage it opened my spiritual eyes to the ultimate love that is ever present for us. Your partner is not beyond hope. https://bible.org/seriespage/8-undying-love-story-hosea-and-gomer

 

[Bill hinshaw]

Umm as I look to the established Word of God, I was made to understand we as His followers have to know we should look at the eternal scope of life; the 2 things that are eternal along with God are people and his Word. The convincing fashion you reveal to her will cause her to sit up and take notice; I understand that ones who are enticed are led away by their own lusts; believe it, it has nothing to do with you. That is a hard statement, but God looks on each of us as a stand alone being. So, your faithfulness to the relationship is what is called for. God seeks to always reconcile and as His children we too shoud seek to reconcile, and in the marriage covenant it is a established fact that God will intervene and pull you two back into each other's arms, where you both belong. He has to, its His nature. So the thing is to put forth the love you have for her, its not to be thought that if I do, then she will do. Some of us are so far down the ladder of our carnality lifestyle that we usually have deaden our spiritual ears to God's word, God's voice. Believe it that you are speaking already to your situation, the criteria is to always seek out God first, in this rebellion which has grief stricken you. God views Israel as His wife, so believe it God knows what you are experiencing. Read this passage it opened my spiritual eyes to the ultimate love that is ever present for us. Your partner is not beyond hope. https://bible.org/seriespage/8-undying-love-story-hosea-and-gomer

 

[lovesjesus7]

Umm as I look to the established Word of God, I was made to understand we as His followers have to know we should look at the eternal scope of life; the 2 things that are eternal along with God are people and his Word. The convincing fashion you reveal to her will cause her to sit up and take notice; I understand that ones who are enticed are led away by their own lusts; believe it, it has nothing to do with you. That is a hard statement, but God looks on each of us as a stand alone being. So, your faithfulness to the relationship is what is called for. God seeks to always reconcile and as His children we too shoud seek to reconcile, and in the marriage covenant it is a established fact that God will intervene and pull you two back into each other's arms, where you both belong. He has to, its His nature. So the thing is to put forth the love you have for her, its not to be thought that if I do, then she will do. Some of us are so far down the ladder of our carnality lifestyle that we usually have deaden our spiritual ears to God's word, God's voice. Believe it that you are speaking already to your situation, the criteria is to always seek out God first, in this rebellion which has grief stricken you. God views Israel as His wife, so believe it God knows what you are experiencing. Read this passage it opened my spiritual eyes to the ultimate love that is ever present for us. Your partner is not beyond hope. https://bible.org/seriespage/8-undying-love-story-hosea-and-gomer

We had a talk she says I don't love you anymore but I'll give it five months to see , after 5 months if I don't want you , except it's over ..but at the same time I can't touch or hug or kiss or go anywhere or court her ? So how was that supposed to work? One woman said follow God go your own way the normal around her leave her alone that might work so I thought I get a males perspective and I like your website is why am asking you you seem to have more insight on things

 

[lovesjesus7]

We had a talk she says I don't love you anymore but I'll give it five months to see , after 5 months if I don't want you , except it's over ..but at the same time I can't touch or hug or kiss or go anywhere or court her ? So how was that supposed to work? One woman said follow God go your own way and be normal around her !leave her alone that might work .so I thought I get a males perspective and I like your website is why am asking you you seem to have more insight on things

Also before this for two years we had strife and cause her mom had  cancer and were mean to each other but I saw the movie fireproof and no matter what I did she just stayed mad at me that's when all the stuff started to happen  but I saw the movie fireproof and a no matter what I did she just stayed mad that's when all the stuff started to happen 

Also before this for two years we had strife and cause her mom had  cancer and were mean to each other but I saw the movie fireproof and no matter what I did she just stayed mad at me that's when all the stuff started to happen  but I saw the movie fireproof and a no matter what I did she just stayed mad that's when all the stuff started to happen 

Also before this for two years we had strife and cause her mom had  cancer and were mean to each other but I saw the movie fireproof and no matter what I did she just stayed mad at me that's when all the stuff started to happen  but I saw the movie fireproof and a no matter what I did she just stayed mad that's when all the stuff started to happen  I feel there's a man in the way for some reason because she gets text at night   And she also said you  can't preach to me or when your not here don't get upset or ask me if  if I have friends over here are a man.. you can't get mad ?I don't know I feel somebody is grooming her because last week in the weeks before we were getting close and be a nice and laughing and then suddenly it's cold after that Sunday  so any advice or what to say or how to act around here would be very appreciated thank you and I'm thinking if she has a man ove here what would be the purpose for that I sometimes wonder if she is just tricking me ...keeping me away that long in control ?

 

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