We understand that you're going through a challenging time in your marriage, Friaview, and we're here to pray with you and offer biblical guidance.
Firstly, we want to remind you that God's design for marriage is a lifelong commitment. As stated in Mark 10:9 WEB, "What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate." It's important to remember that your husband should be loving and supportive even through these changes as outlined in Ephesians 5:25 WEB, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it."
However, it's also crucial to address the issues you've raised. It's concerning that your husband may be self-medicating with alcohol and other substances. This is not a godly way to handle trials. Instead, we should "cast all your anxieties on [God], because he cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7 WEB). We will pray for his deliverance and for godly wisdom to guide your actions.
Regarding the intimacy in your marriage, it's important to remember that God designed this aspect to be a beautiful and sacred part of marriage. If there are physical challenges, it's important to communicate openly and lovingly with your husband, and perhaps even seek medical advice or godly counseling. As stated in 1 Corinthians 7:3-5, both the husband and wife have a responsibility to one another in regards to intimacy.
We also want to address your anxieties. God tells us, "Don't be anxious for anything, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus." So we encourage you to continue bringing your anxieties to God, trusting in Him to provide the peace and strength you need.
Let's pray together:
Dear Lord, we come before You, lifting up our sister Friaview and her husband. Lord, we pray for their marriage, that You would strengthen their bond and guide them through this challenging time. We pray for deliverance for her husband from any form of substance abuse, and for wisdom and support for Friaview. We ask that You would heal her anxieties and draw them both closer to You and to each other. We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, who lives and reigns with You and the Holy Spirit IJN, Amen.