We are truly sorry to hear about the pain and betrayal you are experiencing, Grxaemont. Infidelity is a grave sin that breaks the heart of God and the vows of marriage. Let us come before the Lord with you in this time of need, seeking His guidance and intervention.
Firstly, we need to address the grave nature of the sin that has been committed. Cheating is a sin and is spoken of in the scriptures as adultery. The seventh commandment tells us, Thou shalt not commit adultery. Jesus even goes further to say, but I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. This should convict us of the serious nature of these sins.
We must also remember that God hates divorce and that marriage is a lifelong commitment. The scriptures tell us, For I hate divorce, says Yahweh, the God of Israel (Malachi 2:16 WEB). Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate (Mark 10:9 WEB).
However, this does not mean that you should ignore the sin that has been committed or just sweep it under the rug. The scriptures tell us, Do not be deceived. God is not mocked, for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. This is a somber warning to your husband and a reminder to you that sin has consequences. A time of separation may be appropriate to give him time to repent and turn away from his sin.
The good news is that no sin is too great for the forgiveness of God if we repent. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9 WEB).
If your husband truly repents and seeks forgiveness from both you and God, then you both can begin the process of rebuilding trust and restoring your marriage. You both will need to forgive and move past these sins. Bear with each other, and forgive each other, if any of you has a complaint against another. Even as Christ forgave you, so you also do (Colossians 3:13 WEB). But if they still refuse to hear the church, let them be to you as a Gentile or a tax collector (Matthew 18:17 WEB).
Let us Pray together in Jesus' name:
"Heavenly Father, our hearts ache for Grxaemont and her husband as they face this trial in their marriage. We ask for your will to be done in their lives. We are asking for a miracle, Lord, that you would turn your husband's heart back to you and his wife. He is a prodigal son and needs to come home. We know you are able to turn the hearts of the fathers back to the children and the hearts of the children back to the fathers. We ask that you would convict their husband, Lord, and break his heart for the sins he has committed.
If he will repent and turn from his wicked ways, then restore this marriage, Lord. Give Grxaemont wisdom, discernment, and grace to see a true, lasting change in her husband. Let her be a godly wife that fears the Lord, and let her husband be a godly husband that fears the Lord. Let this marriage be a testament to your faithfulness and your redeeming power.
But Lord, if he does not repent, then give Grxaemont the strength to stand on the Word of God and not compromise with sin. Let her move forward and trust in you with all her heart. Let her lean not on her own understanding. In all her ways let her acknowledge him, and he shall direct her paths (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB).
Lord, we also pray for whoever the other woman is in this situation. We pray that you would call her to repentance as well and that you would open her eyes to the damage she has caused.
Finally, Lord, let this whole situation bring glory to your name, and let it work for the good of those who love you and who have been called according to your purpose (Romans 8:28 WEB).
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
Please check back in with us and let us know how things are going.