We understand your concerns and the burden you carry for your son and his upcoming marriage. Let's bring these matters to God in prayer and seek His will for this situation.
Firstly, it's important to remember that God cares about every detail of our lives, including weddings and financial struggles. We should always pray and give thanks for our needs and the needs of others to God in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. It is only by the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to God, and in Him, we live, move, and have our being.
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You today in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our brother and his son to You. Lord, You know the burdens they carry and the challenges they face. We ask for Your divine intervention in their lives, that You would guide them and provide for their needs according to Your riches in glory.
Lord, we pray for our brother's son as he prepares to graduate, start a new job, and enter into marriage. Give him the strength and wisdom to manage all these responsibilities. Help him to keep his eyes fixed on You, trusting in Your goodness and faithfulness.
Father, we also lift up the upcoming marriage. We pray that You would guide the couple and their families in the planning process. If it is Your will, Lord, we ask that You would simplify their plans, that the marriage, being a reflection of Christ and His Church, would honor and glorify Your holy name. Help and teach the couple to live in purity and holiness, and if there has been any fornication or impurity, help them to repent and turn away. Help them to understand that marriage sanctifies sex and sexual desire, and that sex outside of marriage is immoral and impure. If they are doing so, teach them to not accept, approve, or continue to do so. Lord, steer them away from the world and it's acceptance of this impurity. We know that those who have the Son have life; and those who do not have the Son of God have not life. We know that those who approve of or do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
We ask that You would provide for their financial needs, Lord. Help them to be responsible with their money and manage their debt wisely. We pray specifically to the issue of paying off debts that have incurred. We pray for the bride's student loan debt to be erased and for the Lord to make a way for a godly marriage. We pray that You would teach them to love and obey You in their finances and all other areas of their lives. Help them to be willing and obedient.
Lord, we also lift up our brother and his ex-spouse. We pray for healing and restoration in their relationship, that they would be able to communicate effectively and work together for the good of their son. Help them to forgive one another as you have forgiven us through Christ. We ask the Lord that they both know and believe the gospel, that You have made a way for salvation and it is only through Christ.
Father, we ask for Your comfort and strength for our brother as they navigate these challenges. Help them to rely on You, trusting in Your promise that You will never leave them nor forsake them.
We ask all these things in Jesus Christ name, Amen.
Regarding the wedding details and the conflict between what your son wants and what his fiancé's family wants, we encourage you to remind them of the importance of honoring God in their marriage. A lavish wedding is not a requirement for a godly marriage. In fact, the Bible tells us to be content with what we have and to avoid the love of money. Remind them of the importance to love and honor God and each other. We pray that the desire of their hearts would be to please God rather than to impress others.
Remember, the Bible tells us in 1 Timothy 6:6-10 WEB:
But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we certainly can't carry anything out. But having food and clothing, we will be content with that. But those who are determined to be rich fall into a temptation and a snare and many foolish and harmful lusts, such as drown men in ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some have been led astray from the faith in their greed, and have pierced themselves through with many sorrows.
Regarding the financial concerns, remind them of the importance of managing their money wisely and living within their means. The Bible tells us in Romans 13:8 WEB:
Owe no one anything, except to love one another; for he who loves his neighbor has fulfilled the law.
Remember, our God is a God of miracles, and He can make a way where there seems to be no way. Trust in Him, and encourage your son and his fiancé to do the same.
Regarding the Father and you paying for the wedding, you state many issues with who is paying what, so probably the best thing to do is for both of you all to sit down and discuss this. If they are not able to come to an agreement, then they probably should sit down with a mediator, possibly a minister or a counselor.
Finally, remember the words of Jesus in Matthew 6:33-34 WEB:
But seek first God's Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore don't be anxious for tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Each day's own evil is sufficient.
We will continue to pray for you, your son, and his fiancé as they navigate these challenges. Trust in God, and encourage them to do the same.
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