Let us first address the elephant in the room. Communication is a fundamental aspect of any relationship, and it seems like there is a significant barrier between you and the woman you are referring to. While we understand your distress, we must approach this situation from a biblical perspective. Here are some of the principles of relationships in the bible.
For those who are not married, knowing each other is a process. Like Ecclesiastes 3 says: For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven. While it seems romantic to find a spouse that just says, 'I knew that they were the one and so did they.' Sometimes this might be the case, but usually getting to know your spouse is a process. Also you have learned by experience that God is constantly refining us in preparation for each other.
This process is called courtship and this gives you the opportunity to see if you should take it to the next step which is marriage as outlined in the bible.
We also want to stress the importance of marriage as a lifelong commitment before God.
Now the word cursed is a strong word. Being cursed brings to mind that you feel you are under spiritual bondage or feel that you have not received eternal salvation from the Lord. It is only through belief in Jesus Christ that we gain salvation. Wherefore also it is contained in the scripture, Behold, I lay in Sion a chief corner stone, elect, precious: and he that believeth on him shall not be confounded. Unto you therefore which believe he is precious: but unto them which be disobedient, the stone which the builders disallowed, the same is made the head of the corner, And a stone of stumbling, and a rock of offence, even to them which stumble at the word, being disobedient: whereunto also they were appointed. But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light. (1 Peter).
We would also like to point out that this request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ or have the tag IJN. We pray in the name and by the blood of our savior Jesus Christ. Only thru his crucifixion and resurrection can we find salvation. There is no other name under Heaven and Earth by which we can find salvation. God raised him up, loosing the pangs of death, because it was not possible for him to be held by it. For David says concerning him, 'I saw the Lord always before my face, for he is on my right hand, that I should not be shaken: Therefore did my heart rejoice, and my tongue was glad; moreover also my flesh shall rest in hope: Because thou wilt not leave my soul in hell, neither wilt thou suffer thine Holy One to see corruption. Thou hast made known to me the ways of life; thou shalt make me full of joy with thy countenance.' Men and brethren, let me freely speak unto you of the patriarch David, that he is both dead and buried, and his sepulchre is with us unto this day. Therefore being a prophet, and knowing that God had sworn with an oath to him, that of the fruit of his loins, according to the flesh, he would raise up Christ to sit on his throne; He seeing this before spake of the resurrection of Christ, that his soul was not left in hell, neither his flesh did see corruption. For I may freely testify unto you, that the patriarch David is both dead and buried, and his sepulchre is with us unto this day. (Acts 2. 31)
You would see corruption but Jesus did not. Therefore let it be known to you, that the salvation of God is sent to the Gentiles, and that they will hear it. And when he had said these words, the Jews departed, and had great reasoning among themselves. With good will hearing the word, and glorify God, and had faith, with which you are in. Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus: Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past, through the forbearance of God;But now the righteousness of God without the law is manifested, being witnessed by the law and the prophets; Even the righteousness of God which is by faith of Jesus Christ unto all and upon all them that believe: for there is no difference.
Please ensure that your relationship aligns with these biblical principles and that it honors God. If this woman is not able to express herself, pray for God’s guidance and wisdom. If it is God's will for your to have her as your spouse then God will make a way for you to communicate as part of proper courting that aligns with biblical principles. He will not be giving you signs and messages in ambiguous uncommunicated feelings.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this person who feels distressed and seeking your will Father in the situation that has been presented. We pray the this person seek You first in thier life.
We ask for Your guidance and wisdom in this situation, Lord you knit us together in the womb and know us better than we know ourselves. Lord in this situation you know what is best for your child. The way the Lord knit us together in the womb. In the same way, you know our deepest thoughts Lord and are intimately aware of our desires.
Lord we know that you created marriage as a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, and that personal relationships all start with you Jesus. Jesus walk with us in this situation.
We join this prayer in faith that we can find salvation and grace. Not by our works but by faith in Jesus Christ.
Lord continue to guide those who would possibly become husband and wife through your son Jesus Christ to be able to properly court. Let your work in this situation be to your Glory and honor to your son. Open communication under your divine providence.
Lord we just pray that in our life we cast aside anything that is not of you. We pray this in the name of Jesus Christ. We pray that to the Father we would not be the forsaken generation cast to the wind but the chosen generation following your son's footsteps and following the commandments of your word.
Amen.
We encourage this couple to seek God’s will together in prayer and through the study of His word. May God bless you and guide you according to His perfect plan.