We understand that you are seeking financial freedom, a marital settlement, and a proper home to raise your children. Firstly, we want to remind you that God cares about every aspect of your life, including your finances and family situation. It is also important for us to discuss having a saving relationship with Jesus Christ.
We will pray for your needs and issues. We do need to discuss the biblical view of marriage. Marriage is a lifelong commitment ordained by God between a man and a woman.
In addressing your financial needs, we remember the words of Jesus in Matthew 6:31-33 WEB: "Therefore don’t be anxious, saying, ‘What will we eat?’, ‘What will we drink?’ or, ‘With what will we be clothed?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first God’s Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."
Regarding your marital settlement, we encourage you to seek God's will and guidance. In 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 we read this advice from the Apostle Paul. "But to the married I command—not I, but the Lord—that the wife not leave her husband (but if she departs, let her remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband not leave his wife." Believers should be reconciled to their spouse or live as though they are not married. This may mean a legal separation. Dissolving a marriage is not to be taken lightly as it is a lifelong commitment through better or worse times.
If the children's home life is involved then we should be praying for your children and your situation in the home. We should be considering Ephesians 6:4 WEB "Fathers, don’t provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord." A proper home for children is very important.
We are concerned with your comments about a marital settlement. This may indicate that you are considering divorce or are already experiencing it. We pray that your marriage can be reconciled and restored. If you are not married and possibly living with someone in expectations of marriage then this is fornication and should be addressed. Believers should be set apart from seemingly innocent sinful lifestyles.
If you are a believer and follower of Jesus Christ then may we suggest you are to be living with a spouse. In the case of one believing and one unbelieving spouse, Paul speaks in 1 Corinthians 7:12-14 "But to the rest I—not the Lord—say, if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she is content to live with him, let him not leave her. The woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he is content to live with her, let her not leave the husband. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified in the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in the husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy."
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before you lifting up this person and their family, asking for your guidance and provision. We see they have financial needs and we pray for your wisdom in managing their finances. We pray they will be able to be responsible for the debts they owe, be able to pay them off, and have a budget they can live with. We pray for your guidance in decisions about their marriage. We pray for reconciliation and restoration if possible. We pray for a proper home for their children and that the children will be reared in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. We pray for a marriage that will honor God and a spouse that will be a godly influence on the family. We pray this is the desire of their heart and that they are seeking God's will in Jesus' name.
Now, we encourage you to remain steadfast in prayer and faithful in seeking God's will. Trust in the Lord, and remember that He is always with you. If you have not already done so then please consider seeking advice from a church you trust that this church may pray with you, assist you, and provide counseling to you in this time of need.