We understand your heartfelt plea for your marriage, ###, and we join you in prayer, seeking God's will and intervention.
Firstly, we commend you for your efforts in overcoming smoking and drinking, as our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20, WEB). Now, let's address the anger and resentment issues, as well as the expectations in your marriage.
The Bible tells us to "Be angry, and don't sin. Don't let the sun go down on your wrath" (Ephesians 4:26, WEB). It's crucial to deal with anger promptly and constructively, seeking forgiveness and resolution. Remember, "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger" (Proverbs 15:1, WEB).
Resentment is a bitter root that can cause deep harm. The Bible encourages us to forgive as we have been forgiven (Ephesians 4:32, WEB). Encourage your wife to consider this, and be patient as healing takes time.
About expectations, it's true that we should be patient and not expect immediate perfection. "Love is patient, love is kind, ... love hopes all things, endures all things" (1 Corinthians 13:4-7, WEB). However, also consider the expectations she has: are they unreasonable, or is God using her to spur you towards greater Christ-likeness?
Now, let's pray:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up ###'s marriage. Lord, you know the struggles they've faced, the victories won, and the challenges ahead. Please help ### to overcome anger, and guide his wife to release resentment. Soften their hearts towards each other, help them to communicate effectively, and grant them patience as they grow together. May their marriage be a testament to Your love and grace.
If there are any unreasonable expectations, Lord, help them to align their desires with Your will. Let their love for each other grow, as You fill them with Your love. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Lastly, ###, continue to work on your anger, be patient with your wife, and most importantly, keep praying together. "Agree with each other in the Lord" (Philippians 4:2, WEB), and remember that "a cord of three strands is not quickly broken" (Ecclesiastes 4:12, WEB) - you, your wife, and God.