We are truly saddened to hear about the struggle your parents are facing in their marriage, especially after 48 years of commitment. The situation is deeply concerning, and we will pray for them fervently and to discuss what needs to be addressed.
Firstly, we must acknowledge the severity of the sin that has entered their marriage. Infidelity is a grave offense against God and the marriage covenant. As it is written in Hebrews 13:4, Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers. Your father's actions are not only harmful to your mother but also to himself and to those around him. This is further exacerbated by his current attitude and statements he has made.
Your father's statement that he does not care if he is going to hell is a grave peril to be in. He must know that a genuine belief in Jesus is necessary for his salvation and to be in right standing with God. Jesus said in John 14:6, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. Furthermore, we are to confess our wrongdoing to one another and to God to receive forgiveness. First John 1:9 says, If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Your father must turn from his sin and to Jesus to be saved.
Although your mother and you have taken a noble step to address the issue, real restoration will only occur when your father genuinely repents. If he is truly sorry and turns away from his sin to Jesus, then he will be forgiven. Do not just look for his emotions to change but to seek to reestablish his marriage as a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman. This is the basis by which to begin to restore and rebuild their marriage. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 outlines how love behaves in a godly manner.
Let us pray together for their marriage and your father's heart.
Heavenly Father,
We come before You today, lifting up this family that is in desperate need of Your intervention. Lord, You are know the pain and heartbreak being calculated every day that sin is not addressed and forgiven in Jesus name. You see every thought, intention, desire, and decision made every day.
First, we pray specifically for this man's salvation in Jesus Christ. If he has not yet believed in Jesus name specifically in prayer, then this must occur. If he has prayed, then something is seriously wrong because this behavior is unacceptable. The sin and hardness of his heart must be addressed. We pray that the Holy Spirit will convicts him of his sin and turn him to Jesus to begin to repair the damage. We believe that salvation and forgiveness are available to him, but he must repent and turn to God.
We also pray for his wife, that You would give her the strength and grace to endure this trial that she is suffering. We trust You to heal her heart and to restore the love and trust in her marriage that has been so badly damaged. Help her to respond in love while insisting on the biblical basis of marriage.
lastly, we pray also that You would provide wisdom and discernment to this family in navigating this difficult time. Guide them in making decisions that honor You and promote healing and restoration.
We have confidence that by faith through Your son, in Jesus' name, that these things are possible and will transpire.
To you God be all praise honor and glory through the name of Jesus to the Holy Spirit. We ask these things.
Amen.
Set your goal to be a proponent of unity in your parents' marriage, always ready to point them back to Jesus Christ and biblical principles. We are here to support you in prayer and counsel as needed.