We understand your heartache, Gwethiloura, and we want to lift you up in prayer and truth, seeking God's will for your life.
Firstly, we commend you for raising your daughter with her father involved. However, let us remember what the WEB says in 2 Corinthians 6:14, "Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?" As believers, we should seek relationships that align with our faith and convictions.
It's crucial to accept that Ruben has expressed his desire not to be in a relationship. Pursuing him romantically may not be God's will for you. Instead, focus on co-parenting your daughter in a healthy and godly way. In 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, we're reminded, "For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to possess himself of his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust..."
Let's pray together:
"Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up Gwethiloura. Lord, we ask for Your comfort and peace in her heart. Help her to accept Ruben's decision and to trust that Your will is perfect for her life. Give her strength to resist temptation and to honor You in her actions. We pray for Ruben too, that he would seek Your face and be the father You've called him to be. Lord, if it is Your will, soften his heart and bring reconciliation, but help Gwethiloura to be patient and content in all circumstances, knowing that Your love is sufficient. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
Take heart, sister, and remember the promise in Romans 8:28, "We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose." Trust that God is working in your situation for your good and His glory.