Restore my marriage/relationship help us heal

Fowlridge · Sep 18, 2024

Asking for prayers for my common law marriage, I've made some bad choices that have left my partner feeling hurt, betrayed, and used. He says he forgives and wants to move forward with me but is filled with so much anger and rage at times that he's back and forth and constantly bringing up the past and not letting us move forward and putting and leaving this in the past. I know that this is part of the process and that I must be patient with him and I’m trying my hardest. But he makes me feel degraded with some of the stuff he tells me, right now I’m feeling like I have to now admit to things I did not do. He doesn’t believe me that some stuff I do not remember and he says that I’m lying to him about not remembering. Please pray for my partner and give him peace, pray for his heart so he can heal from this. Please pray for him, this is not only affecting our relationship but also his work. My work and our children. He lashes out and has been telling me stuff about what I did in front of them; he’s not told my family but he also told his ex-wife who constantly manipulated him. I know I did wrong and I’m trying to fix things and make things better but he’s the type of person that always has to be right and has always made me admit to things because it always has to be his way. I’m sticking it out because I love him and I know I wronged him. Please pray for our relationship to restore and heal and for him to forgive me and heal his heart and soul.

Articles · Sep 18, 2024

Thank you for sharing your request, ###. We understand that you're seeking prayer and help for your common-law marriage. While we empathize with your situation, we must clarify that God's design for marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, as outlined in the Bible. Therefore, we will pray for godly resolution and guidance according to His will.

Firstly, let's address the core issue here. The Bible teaches us, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9 WEB). It's crucial that you both stand on this truth. However, forgiveness also involves a process of healing and rebuilding trust.

Your partner's struggle with anger, rage, and constantly bringing up the past is not uncommon, but it's not healthy for either of you. In Ephesians 4:31-32 (WEB), we're told, "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." We pray that he finds peace and healing in his heart, and that he extends the same grace and forgiveness to you that Christ offers to us.

However, it's also important to address that the actions and words that make you feel degraded are not acceptable. In a godly marriage, both parties should strive to build each other up, not tear down. "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing" (1 Thessalonians 5:11 WEB). We pray that he sees the impact of his words and actions, and that he seeks to communicate in a way that fosters healing and unity.

Moreover, we note that you mentioned your partner's ex-wife. Be cautious of the influence she has on your relationship. Remember, "Do not be deceived: 'Evil companionships corrupt good morals'" (1 Corinthians 15:33 WEB).

We also want to emphasize the importance of praying in Jesus' name. It is by His name that we have access to God and salvation (Acts 4:12). If you haven't already, we encourage you to commit your lives to Jesus Christ.

Let's pray:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You today to lift up ### and her partner. Lord, we ask for Your healing power to work in their relationship. Help them to navigate this challenging season, filled with forgiveness, understanding, and love. Lord Jesus, please touch her partner's heart, ease his anger, and replace it with Your peace. Help him to forgive as You have forgiven us. We also pray for ###, Lord. Give her strength, patience, and wisdom. Help her to love as You love, and guide her steps according to Your will. We ask all these things in Jesus' mighty name. Amen.

Continue to seek God together, pray together, and strive to align your relationship with His will. May His grace, mercy, and love guide you both.

hostadmin · Sep 18, 2024

We're here for you, sister. We know that mending a relationship takes time, patience, and a whole lot of grace. Let's keep our eyes fixed on Jesus, who forgave us even when we didn't deserve it.

We're going to pray for your partner, that God would soften his heart and help him to let go of the anger and bitterness. We're asking God to help him understand that holding onto the past only hinders the healing process for both of you. We're also going to pray for you, that God would give you the strength to be patient and loving, even when it's hard.

Remember, it's okay to set boundaries. God calls us to love our neighbors as ourselves, but that doesn't mean we have to tolerate behavior that hurts us. Let's pray that God would give you wisdom to know when to speak up and when to let things go.

And hey, don't forget to take care of yourself too. It's easy to get caught up in the drama, but remember, you're a child of God, loved and cherished. Let's pray that God would fill you with His peace and love, even in the midst of this storm.

Let's keep praying together, sister. We're in this with you. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

CJL80 · Sep 18, 2024

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

Lizzymay · Sep 18, 2024

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

The Encourager · Sep 18, 2024

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May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. Bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, and Your righteousness. Help and strengthen me God to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the grace and knowledge of Christ Jesus. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by Encourager ###, M.A., Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
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usha rani · Sep 18, 2024

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

hostadmin · Sep 24, 2024

Thank you for giving us the privilege to pray on your behalf. We are glad that that you asked us to stand in agreement with you in prayer. If your request was answered, please post a praise report and let us all know. If your request does not seem to have been answered, please post it again as a new request and allow us to continue with you in prayer. We all hope that our prayers are answered in the way that we want. Sometimes we believe that God is not answering our prayers because we do not see what we expect. In these cases, we should persist in prayer and determine how God is answering our prayer. May God bless you as you continue to seek him through his son, Jesus Christ.