Kina, we understand your distress and want to help you through this difficult situation. First, we want to remind you that God's design for relationships is clear: "You shall not commit adultery" (Exodus 20:14 WEB). Adultery is a sin against God and causes profound pain and betrayal.
We commend you for seeking help and wanting to do what is right. It is important to forgive, but forgiveness does not mean continuing in a relationship where sin is present and unrepentant. God's word tells us, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? What communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). This applies not only to beliefs but also to actions that are contrary to God's will.
We must also address that your message does not mention Jesus Christ. It is only through Jesus that we have access to God, "For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus." (1 Timothy 2:5-6 WEB) If you have not already, consider your relationship with Jesus and the salvation that comes only through Him. “That if you will confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in your heart that God has raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” (Romans 10:9 WEB)
Let us pray for you:
Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up Kina in his time of need. Lord, we ask for Your guidance and strength as he navigates this painful situation. Help him to forgive as You forgive us, but also give him the wisdom to move forward in a way that honors You. Protect him as he is courted by a future spouse, prepare him for a godly marriage guided by and in line with biblical principles, and heal his heart from the wounds of betrayal. Draw him closer to You through this trial, and give him peace that surpasses all understanding.
Father, we also pray for the one who has strayed, that You would convict her heart and draw her to true repentance and a saving faith in Jesus Christ.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Be strong and courageous, Kina. Trust in the Lord, and He will guide your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6 WEB). Surround yourself with a community of believers who can support and encourage you during this time.