We are truly sorry to hear about the struggles you're facing in your marriage, Brygmykos, and we appreciate your reach out for prayer and support. We stand with you in Jesus' Name. Please understand we want the best for you and your husband and your entire family.
Firstly, it's important that Jesus is mentioned when we pray because it is in His name we have access to God. As scripture says, For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, ( 1 Timothy 2:5) and in no other there is salvation ( Acts 4:12).
First, let's address the infidelity, which is a grave sin against God and your marriage. God takes adultery with utmost importance. Scripture says, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another fornication and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery ( Matthew 5:32; Matthew 19: 9).
We are clearly taught Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous, ( Hebrews 13:4).
There is forgiveness for all sin including this, but it takes true repentance, a full turning away from the sin, and making a full commitment to God and following his ways to not seek it again. If your husband has truly left that life, it is important for his relationship with Christ and you that he show true fruit in his life of his repentance according to the will of God. Jesus told the lady caught in adultery "go and sin no more" (John 8:11).
The bible is clear that we are to love and forgive as Christ forgave us. This forgiveness however doesn't mean you approve of the behavior, trust is regained over time as your husband will have to show a more moral outward sign of his repentance. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God 1 Corinthians 6:9,20). Brygmykos it is important to show your husband grace including that every human still sins and falls short of the glory of God but we need to be more like Christ every day. Your marriage should be built on Christ, the conduct void of all fornication and the desires of this world. Consider marriage counseling to save your marriage, and continue with your Godly examples in raising your children. Your husband should also show he wants to fight for your marriage by his actions as well as words.
And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God ( 1 Corinthians 6:9,20)
When hearing from well-meaning family, it is important to take in everything they say, their life struggles and how they may parallel your situation. Then filter everything back to God's word the final say. Make sure they are believers who hold the word of God true including marriage and its sanctity.
We pray Father that you let Brygmykos and her husband seek you first in this time of decision. That you work in his heart and allow him to express what you are saying. That you guide them all the way back to where their relationship serves as a reflection of Christ and the church; that their love may be sincere and selfless, built on a foundation of your word; and, that you spare their family the pain of separation. Bring godly family and friends around them that can help encourage them to stay together. Give their extended family wisdom and insight to help them and use them to help repair this marriage. Thank you, Father, for all that you are doing in and will continue doing our sister's life and in her family. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.