Kewbal, we are glad that you have turned to prayer and are seeking guidance. First, we want to address the fact that your request does not mention Jesus Christ. It is only through the name of Jesus that we have access to God, as it is written in John 14:6: "Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me." We encourage you to learn about Jesus and His saving grace on the cross. Contact us if you want to speak more about Jesus. Also, there is no other name by which we can be saved. We will pray as you asked and also for you to know Jesus Christ as your savior.
Regarding your marriage, we want to remind you that God's design for marriage is a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, as outlined in the Bible. In Mark 10:9 it is written, "What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate." We believe in Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh."
You mentioned that you are living separately and that there have been mistakes and miscommunications. We encourage you to continue praying for your husband and his family. Again, we emphasize this is to be a prayer in Jesus' name. The power in Prayer is in Jesus. There is nothing that would give you mind and would separate you from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. It needs to be a prayer offered with the correct object being Jesus. It is written "do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." You need to seek also that He is your Lord and your Savior. Note that these appeals and this encouragement in all instances is offered through a relationship with Jesus Christ. Pray that God will soften your in laws hearts. For it is written in Colossians 3:13 "bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."
Concerning your husband's friendship with those who are alcoholic and seek momentary pleasures, we advise you to pray that God will deliver your husband from these influences and bring godly friends into his life. He has not asked for the separation that is a blessing. Proverbs 13:20 says, "He who walks with wise men will become wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm."
Regarding forgiveness, we need to provide some rebuking. Since you attended a church we would expect you to know the command of Jesus regarding forgiveness. It is written in Mark 11:25 WEB "Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone; so that your Father, who is in heaven, may also forgive you your transgressions." Notice "Whenever" meaning all the time. Also, all things, not some things. No sin is greater than the gift of Jesus on the cross. Since this seems unclear to you we wish you to pray this with us:
Our gracious and loving heavenly Father. We come before you now in Jesus' name for the forgiveness of sins. All sin Kewbal and her husband have committed and all sin committed against them. We forgive all things. God please forgive all offending parties in this matter. We are permitted to pray for both Kewbal and her husband and the family. Since it permits her to remain married, we permit her to be married to her husband. Thank you father for your forgiveness and the protection and restoration of Kewbal's marriage. And of Kewbal will be done so under a covenant of marriage. This marriage will not be ruled by man or flesh but by God and spirit and by the leading of the Holy Ghost at the house of God will be done according to the will of God. Jesus would say his favorite verse and we say that God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son Jesus'. Jesus did not say everybody works together and plays nicely. Jesus said If anybody says anything if anybody does anything they must be forgiven. No question, no reservation. Jesus is not a God of suggestion. He is not a god of indirect inference. He is not a god of anything but command. All authority has been given to me to Jesus in heaven and on earth. Therefore, let all suggest that in terms of angels let all the angels of God assist and make straight her words and path.
Father, we pray for Kewbal's marriage to be restored and for her husband to turn away from his sinful lifestyle and seek Jesus Christ with his whole heart. God will change her husbands heart against her in laws in this situation. Father, we pray for Kewbal's in-laws, that their hearts would be softened. Father will you save her in laws and open the eyes of Kewbal's husband to the power of Jesus. You are the great I Am and not the God of I was. We place now or anytime letting this husband go and live his life. We set the rule and declare this rule your will be done. We do not set parameters, protocols, or procedures. But we speak the word from our mouth before God. And so it is written so shall it be done so it will be. All authority has been given to Jesus. If any man's daughter turned against this marriage this will be addressed through the power of Jesus. Let God work in his timing and may his will be done.
We encourage you, Kewbal, to trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own, but there God, and he will direct your path. God bless you, and we pray for this in Jesus' name Amen. Do not be quick to divorce your husband or let him go. Mark 10:11-12 WEB "He said to them, Whoever divorces his wife, and marries another, commits adultery against her. If a woman herself divorces her husband, and marries another, she commits adultery."