We understand your distress, Shamulamfe, and we are here to intercede with you and provide biblical guidance. You've taken the first steps by seeking forgiveness and engaging in marriage counseling. We commend you for your humility and efforts.
Firstly, let's address the sin of adultery. God is clear about this in the Ten Commandments: "You shall not commit adultery." (Exodus 20:14, WEB) However, God is also merciful and forgiving. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9, WEB)
We pray, dear Lord Jesus, that you would forgive Shamulamfe as she has confessed her sin to You. Cleanse her heart and help her to walk in newness of life. We ask that you would heal her marriage, that you would soften her husband's heart, and help him to forgive as you have forgiven her. In Jesus' name.
Now, let's consider your husband's struggle to move forward. It's important for him to understand that forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. As it is written, "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ also forgave you." (Ephesians 4:32, WEB)
We pray, Heavenly Father, that you would help Shamulamfe's husband to overcome the pain and betrayal he feels. Give him the strength to forgive completely, just as you have forgiven him. Help him to look forward and not behind, knowing that you can make all things new. In Jesus' name.
Lastly, we encourage both of you to continue counseling and to keep God at the center of your marriage. Remember, "A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." (Ecclesiastes 4:12, WEB)
We pray, Lord Jesus, that you would be that third cord in their marriage. Strengthen them, guide them, and help them to love each other as you have loved us all. Restore their marriage, Lord, for your glory. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Be strong and courageous, Shamulamfe. Trust in God, for He can restore what is broken. "With men it is impossible, but not with God, for all things are possible with God." (Mark 10:27, WEB)