Resource Roundup: November 2021

Welcome to another monthly roundup of recent posts, podcast episodes, recommended resources, and much more. Scroll through to find what you might have missed or your next great resource for marriage.

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This Month on the Blog​

I’m trying to be more consistently with blogging … and mostly failing, but I want an A for effort! ~wink~ Still, some great content for your marriage!


9 Times Higher Desire Spouses Don’t Want Sex

Best (Sexy) Christmas Gifts for Your Spouse

From Sex Chat for Christian Wives Podcast​

• Episode 119: 10 Best Things About Sex
• Episode 120: Our Holiday Gift Guide – Sexy and Romantic Gifts for Couples

From Knowing Her Sexually Podcast​

• Episode 42: Foreplay In and Out of the Bedroom, with Dave Barringer
• Episode 43: Rebuilding Her Trust, with Jessica McCleese

My Post at KHS Ministry​

I didn’t blog on KHS this month, but Chris had a great post!


“We Used to Have Regular Sex, and Now She Doesn’t Want To.”

A Few Great Reads Elsewhere​

• I love this goal from Lori Byerly: I Want to Be a Radical – The Generous Wife. “I want to live so radically different in my marriage that people do a double-take and say, ‘Whoa, what’s going on here?'”
• Chris Taylor addresses a question a lot of wives want the answer to: Are You Normal? – Honeycomb & Spice. She also asks whether that’s the best question and proposes a different one. A good read for wives of all levels of sexual desire.
• Brad Wilcox is the Director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia. He wrote this researched-based article: Evangelicals and Domestic Violence: Are Christian Men More Abusive? | Christianity Today. In discussing it with a friend, I wrote: “Our faith regards marriage highly, so that creates greater expectations and dedication. For most marriages that’s great—resulting in stronger, kinder relationships. For a few marriages (statistically speaking), that dedication is their destruction. They don’t know how to reach out for help, or when they do, it’s met with ‘try harder’ or ‘pray’ without advisors understanding that trauma has taken place and needs a different response.” C’mon, Church, let’s keep what we do well but diligently pursue better in all those places where we’ve have failed. Each and every one of those lives matters. (See also Enough is Enough – Gary Thomas.)
• I’m a fan of men. Not all men, of course. But I genuinely appreciate what the masculine brings to marriage and to society, which I’ve addressed here, here, and here. Shaunti Feldhahn shared her own thoughts about good husbands in Men Making a Difference.

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What I’m Reading​

Many years ago, I read a novel that stuck with me. It was Christian, but not. That is, it wasn’t the typical Christian fiction I’d read. That novel was Wrapped in Rain by Charles Martin.

Since then, I’ve read several of Martin’s novels. But his 2013 novel, Unwritten, had sat on my shelf for a while unread. I finally picked it up and read through this past month.

I recommend Unwritten. The characters are rich, the author’s prose is compelling, and the story unfolds in interesting and authentic ways. By authentic, I especially mean that life isn’t made out to be easier than it is. Like Martin’s other books, Unwritten shows characters encountering Christianity not as a cure-all but a calling.

Even so, my favorite novel of Martin’s remains When Crickets Cry. That’s the one that really stuck with me. The Mountain Between Us is also good. (And for anyone who saw the film based on that novel, let me assure you that there is no sex scene in the book. That wasn’t at all who the characters were in the book. Anyway…)

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I’m re-reading a novel titled Mark of the Gods, which is book 1 in the Muse Island Series. It’s supernatural suspense; that is, it combines mythology and mystery. Being a fan of both of those, this series is right in my wheelhouse. There are four books in the series so far, and a couple of shorts, but more should be coming in 2022.

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And I have started listening to Married Sex by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta. So far, it’s been nice having the juxtaposition of a male with a theology degree and a female who’s a licensed counselor. Together, they cover more ground than one could alone. But I’m not done yet, so I’ll come back next time and say whether I would recommend the book.

What J’s Up to These Days​

Years 2020 and 2021 were something of a disappointment. I certainly didn’t have it as difficult as a lot of people did, but several plans fell through and I didn’t feel physically good for a full 9 months. So we’re recovering some lost time now!

For example, Spock and I hopped on a last-minute cruise and had a lovely time! I even got some work done with a gorgeous ocean view.

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Then we had Thanksgiving with our two grown sons here (and one girlfriend). My heart is always full when my whole family is here!

Work-wise, I’m booking speaking gigs in 2022, working on my higher drive wife book, and getting ahead on blogging. I’m also putting together the Hot, Holy & Humorous Business Plan for next year, since my oh-so logical husband asked if I had one. ~grin~

Biblical Inspiration for the Coming Month​

In a few days, I will hit my 11th anniversary of blogging. Who has been consistently blogging about sex in marriage longer than I have? Several people, but not many. Among them are Paul and Lori Byerly, who offer the Generous Husband and Generous Wife blogs with daily encouragement to be better spouses.

I love that framing of being generous to your mate. I’ve also written about generosity here on my site—for instance, 3 G-Words to Improve Your Marriage. Generosity is an attitude that surpasses meeting requirements, expectations, or even emotional needs. It’s a lavishing of love on the other.

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When both spouses treat one another this way, a marriage can thrive in new and wonderful ways. But even one spouse can make a real difference, changing the dynamic of a relationship, by living and loving generously. After a while, the other spouse may respond with fresh generosity as well.

Proverbs 11:25 summarizes it beautifully.





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[Edwards]

Thank you for sharing those beautiful resources. May the Lord bless your life.