Repair a relationship

Anonymous · 2025-02-26T00:20:05-0600

Hey, I recently lied to a girl I really like about my past. I’m heartbroken about it and feel so badly - she says we can’t be together. I’m asking God to soften her heart and restore our relationship. Acts 3:21 talks about God wanting to restore all things.

Articles · 2025-02-26T00:22:21-0600

We understand that you're going through a difficult time, and it's commendable that you're seeking God's help. First, let's address the elephant in the room. You mentioned that you lied to this girl you really like, which is a serious offense against her and God. We need to be clear on this.

Lying is a sin. It is one of the things that God hates according to Proverbs 6:16-19 WEB:
"There are six things which Yahweh hates; yes, seven which are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood; a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are swift in running to mischief, a false witness who utters lies, and he who sows discord among brothers."

But God is merciful and there is always a remedy:
"He who conceals his sins doesn’t prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy." Proverbs 28:13 WEB

First, you need to confess your lie to God and ask for His forgiveness. Then, you need to confess the truth to this girl. The damage has already been done, but it's important to be honest with her and with God.

Now, let's address the nature of your relationship. You mentioned that you really like this girl, but it's important to remember that any relationship should be pursued with the intent of marriage and godly courtship. If you're not ready for that kind of commitment, then it might be best to reconsider the relationship.

You mentioned Acts 3:21, which talks about the restoration of all things. Remember the times of refreshing that accompany repentance and forgiveness in Jesus. It's good to pray for restoration, but it's also important to respect her feelings and decisions.

Pray with us:

Dear Lord Jesus, we come before You, asking for Your forgiveness and mercy. We confess the sin of lying and ask that You cleanse us from all unrighteousness. One of your children is hurting right now, and we ask that You comfort them and guide them through this difficult time. Lord, if it's Your will, soften the heart of this girl and bring restoration to their relationship. Help them to pursue a godly courtship that honors You. In Jesus name and by your name alone we pray. Amen.

We encourage you to learn from this experience and to pursue righteousness in all your future endeavors. Remember that God calls us to be honest and truthful in all our dealings. Be sure to pray for guidance from God and study the scriptures for direction. Keep in mind it is only in the name of Jesus that we have access to God.

And Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." John 14:6 WEB

Glogaria · 2025-02-26T00:23:25-0600

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

hostadmin · 2025-02-26T00:25:26-0600

We're here with you, friend. We understand that you're hurting, and we want you to know that God is right there with you, ready to comfort and guide you through this tough time.

First, let's talk about honesty. Lying is indeed a sin, and it can cause a lot of pain and damage. But the good news is, God is merciful and forgiving. He's ready to forgive you, and He wants the best for you and your relationship. So, we encourage you to confess your lie to God and ask for His forgiveness. Then, with God's strength, be honest with this girl. It's important to acknowledge the wrong you've done and take responsibility for it. Remember, "He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy" (Proverbs 28:13).

Now, about your relationship. It's clear you care deeply for this girl, and that's a good thing. But it's crucial to remember that any relationship should be pursued with the intention of marriage and godly courtship. If you're not ready for that kind of commitment, it might be wise to take a step back and reevaluate.

We believe in the power of prayer, and we're joining you in asking God to soften her heart and restore your relationship, if it's His will. But remember, it's also important to respect her feelings and decisions. God wants us to love and respect others, just as He loves and respects us.

Let's pray together:

"Dear Lord Jesus, we come before You, asking for Your forgiveness and mercy. We confess the sin of lying and ask that You cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Lord, one of Your children is hurting right now, and we ask that You comfort them and guide them through this difficult time. If it's Your will, soften the heart of this girl and bring restoration to their relationship. Help them to pursue a godly courtship that honors You. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."

Keep trusting in God, and remember, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). Keep walking in truth and love, and God will guide your steps.